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Read ... the ... profile.
My bulk mail settings reflect my clearly stated parameters here, so save yourself some time if you don't meet my criteria.
I am a single, never married, no kids, professional homeowner with a post-graduate degree. I've got my emotional and financial shit together and expect the same. I will not ask anything of you that I cannot deliver myself. I am happy, healthy, safe, and sane.
I seek a long-term, "lifestyle," d/s and romantic relationship with a live-in, monogamous, submissive male.
I am not in the market for a female, despite my "heteroflexibility."
I am also not looking for play buddies or NSA encounters. If you want to get flogged or taken with a strap on for sport, hit the dungeon or hire a pro domme.
I require photographs, sentences, punctuation, grammar, and proper spelling. One-liners and bare profiles do not warrant my attention.
This isn't all about bedroom games for me. I am a mentor, confessor, protector, friend, lover, and Domina all rolled into one. I am a very nurturing and sensual domme.
You will be proud to have me on your arm in public, and proud to serve me in private.
These profiles are so rarely read; if you want to know more about me, read my journal entries, and ask. I have nothing to hide.
Some words to describe me:
*Devious
*Opinionated
*Kind
*Clever
*Centered
*Successful
*Witty
*Loving
*Intense
*Trustworthy
*Kinky
*Creative
*Cruel
*Demanding
*Stimulating
My requirements:
*Be male
*Be local or soon to be local, or willing to relocate when the time is right
*Be ready to meet in person sooner than later
*Be over age 18 and under age 44
*Be mature and know what you want
*Be reliable, trustworthy, & honest
*Be intelligent
*Be thin to downright skinny
*Be ready for a long term relationship
The No's:
*No switches
*No crossdressers
*No marrieds or takens
*No open relationships/"poly"
*No cyber - Realtime Only!
*No 'scenesters' who spend their lives at the munch and the dungeon
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I understand the need for discretion. I do not fault anyone who chooses not to have face photos on his profile. I myself do not post face photos for public consumption, instead sharing them privately on email.
But, if the only photos you have on your profile are of your bare ass (worse yet, your assHOLE) or cock, a picture is worth a thousand words. I have no desire to get to know the boorish, insipid, coarse, puerile person you so obviously are. |
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZN0vS4AmMo&feature=channel |
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A boy I met here was 45 minutes late for our first meeting at a wine bar. Then he was over an hour late when I invited him to my home for dinner. Our third date was to be happy hour, and when he was 30 minutes past due I texted him and told him not to bother. One can blame traffic only so long before the real problem becomes apparent. |
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From a domme's profile: "You will show me the up most respect ..."
Well, obviously, someone with such a command of the English language and written word deserves the utmost respect, don't you think? |
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The holidays have a way of taking the kink out of me. Vanilla parties, shopping, house cleaning and decorating, hosting vanilla guests ... Perhaps if I had a slave boy doing all the chores I'd feel more like myself.
Here's to a kinky 2011! |
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I heard an old song in a store yesterday, and I had not thought of it or heard it for quite some time. It got me chuckling, because it fits me to a tee.
"She's just a devil woman with evil on her mind. Beware the devil woman, she's gonna get you. She's just a devil woman with evil on her mind. Beware the devil woman, she's gonna get you ... from behind.
:)
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There are days when I feel pessimistic and disheartened about the possibility of finding a compatible, submissive, man. So elusive. Perhaps the d/s relationship is like communism: As an intellectual exercise it looks great on paper, but it is untenable in its execution in reality.
Or maybe not. I'm still here, aren't I? :) |
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I have been corresponding via email and instant messenger with a submissive man from Chicago for about six weeks, and we have spoken on the telephone. He is real, charming, thoughtful, attractive, motivated, respectful, and full of energy.
And he is in Illinois.
I simply cannot get myself worked up about someone so far away. As I get older I am less and less willing to compromise on the things that matter to me.
Geography matters to me. I require more than a willingness to relocate. Be local or have plans to be local in the very near future. I am unwilling to invest the time and energy in someone I cannot even meet for a quick coffee or cocktail.
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| I complain about the numbnuts and half-wits who often contact me here, but on that rare, rare occasion I receive an email that makes my day. From this morning:
"It's an admission I make freely now: I think I am officially addicted to your imagery! I like swinging by your profile just so have another lingering look at you. You have such cool, artistic, erotic, artful taste in photos as well as an innate ability to arouse and inspire. Frankly it's all summed up in that one deliriously sexy photo of you wearing that wonderful necklace describing you as fabulous. Truer words were never spoken...."
Remember fellas, we dommes are women first, and what woman doesn't love a compliment? | | |
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An interesting postscript to my last journal entry. A man wrote to me, saying I should be "grateful" that "kink demographics" are such that I have the "luxury" of being "honest up front without fear of being tossed out by too many."
In essence, some have no choice but to resort to lying initially, to avoid rejection?
First, truth is not a luxury, but a necessity to me. It is as important to me as the air I breathe and the water I drink.
Second, as I told him, I will be honest about who I am and what I want, even if that means that the end result is that I will be alone. Alone is just a different kind of happy for me.
Third, to what end does one start a relationship based on a lie? I assume the man who wrote to me felt that the 48 year old man had no choice but to lie about his age in order to get what he wanted. Well, let's assume he garners the attention of a younger domme, but for how long? What sort of foundation has he built for a lasting relationship? And, let's further assume that they meet, and the younger domme is attracted and interested in this 48 year old man. How does he avoid or nullify the deception that got her there in the first place?
Are there those who are so lonely in the world that even a brief interlude based on a facade is better than nothing at all?
Are there those so unhappy and ashamed of their actual age that they will lie about it or make assinine statements like, "But I look much younger" just to avoid truth?
Embrace yourself, people. Jesus. You are lovely just the way you are, to someone. And you should be also to yourself.
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Why, oh why, are we simply not honest about who we are, and what we seek?
I responded to a Craig's List ad today. The man was looking for a key holder and a cuckoldress. He listed his age as 39.
He responded with a link to his FL page. Turns out he's 48.
And here is what transpired:
Vixen: There is a difference between 39 and 48. I value honesty above all else.
Liar: It was not I that I was posting that age for. I was looking for someone in that age area. Sorry for the misunderstanding.
Vixen: So in the box labeled "YOUR AGE" on the Craig's List personals form, you wrote "39" because you were looking for a domme who was exactly 39 years old? Please. I do not understand those who lie about their age. If they will lie about the small things, they will lie about the big things. And, it smacks of a level of discomfort with one's self. If you are 48, be 48.
Liar: When I put 48 I get so many replies from women who are 50+.
Vixen: So you lied about your age to lure younger women to respond to your ad? That is sexist, ageist, dishonest, and not very submissive.
Now, don't get me wrong. If he had listed his real age of 48, and had also said within the ad that he wanted a domme under the age of 45, well then so be it. He wants what he wants. I myself have made no secret of the fact that I would prefer a man younger than me. But this guy was attempting to manipulate the situation by lying, and that is not acceptable to me. Ever.
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I am back after giving a relationship the good old college try. One knows everything one needs to know after three months, n'est ce pas?
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I detest the further mangling of the written English language with this whole C/capitalization phenomenon in online BDSM - and make no mistake this is online bullshit and foolishness. So much form over substance. I have had self-proclaimed "submissives" write to me in this fashion and then refuse the simplest of tasks, such as sending photographs, talking on IM, or camming as part of my vetting process.
I will not judge your submission by whether you know the location of the fucking caps key on a keyboard.
Submissives: You are not e.e. cummings; capitalize all proper nouns. Capitalize the word "I" when referring to yourself. Common nouns referring to me should be capitalized only if they are at the beginning of a sentence.
I have heard that this ridiculous behavior is somehow meant to impart respect to the domme. I would prefer that you respect the language, respect writing, respect yourself, and respect my wishes.
The level of your true submission can be judged only through deeds; not through words or the way they are capitalized.
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To the men who post cock shots on their profiles, or email them to me unsolicited: The penis is not a work of art.
A dick is a means to an end, and I am not alluding to an orgasmic end. Oh, no. As my submissive you will learn many ways to make me cum that have nothing to do with your cock. Your dick is just a way to control you, and nothing more.
Now, for the men who post or email photos of their gaping assholes: You are the gaping asshole.
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Yet another applicant today who is tethered to a female who "just doesn't understand" his kinky side. Not in an open relationship, of course. He wants to skulk and slither about and use me to help him in that endeavor.
I don't fuck over the sisterhood.
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It is insulting, to say the least, to be propositioned to be "the other woman."
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Shame on him.
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I hope she finds out.
He deserves everthing he gets, or loses for that matter, for not being honest with her, or with himself.
In what other life are you going to ask for the things you need and be honest with those you love about it?
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Here's one for all you flaky types who come on like gangbusters, then disappear for many days or weeks, then finally get around to making contact again. You are obviously not serious about your quest for a domme, or about me, or both. Whatever your reasons, move along.
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I discern far more from the photos you send to me than just your appearance. A picture truly is worth a thousand words.
For example, the obligatory photo in the bathroom mirror? Filthy sinks, dirty mirrors, bottles and cans and tubes littering the countertop... If you live that way, why would I entrust you with maintaining my household?
Same with the cam shot in the bedroom. I have seen all manner of disarray in these photos, from dirty clothes on the floor to unmade beds to beer posters stuck to the wall with scotch tape. If you do not own at least one piece of artwork with a frame around it, you are a boy - not a man.
Now let's talk about the cam shots in the living room. A bookcase made of garden bricks and boards? Really? Porn on the television? Really? I don't care that you watch porn. I only care that you are not wise or tactful enough to be more demure about it, especially at this juncture.
Now, for men who send me photos of themselves with females, but do not explain who those females are: First, it is improper to post or send a photo that depicts others without their permission, and I'll just bet you didn't tell Sally you were sending that Disneyland photo to a domme on a kink site. But even if Sally gave you permission, tell me who the hell she is!
Wedding photos. Your wedding. You in a tux. Woman in white next to you. You have got to be kidding me. First, if you are still married, I don't do poly. Second, if you are no longer married and you are back on the dating scene, it's time for some new photos.
Oh, and a personal favorite - a photo of you with another male or males, when you have not made it clear which one is you. Dangerous territory, my friend, as I might find the guy standing next to you to be much more my type. From a survival-of-the-fittest standpoint, you might think twice about sending that shot with you and your buddies, especially if your buddies are more attractive than you.
Finally, sending photos that are so old that clothing and hair styles have actually changed since then. I'm not kidding - I have gotten photos clearly taken in the 1970's and 1980's.
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A real email, left tonight:
like gifts?
My reply:
That sort of message might flush out opportunistic, materialistic women who have no respect for themselves or you. With me, you will need to elevate your game.
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I am enjoying the "Recent Journals" feature. Those writing journal entries are far more likely to be real and earnest. My only complaint is that I cannot limit the entries to male submissives and slaves; boy, do doms like to journal. Egads.
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Listen up, "Admirers." Why add me to some list if you don't have any intention of contacting me? What's the point? And no, I will not contact you first. Make the effort. Do the work.
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Another page from the annals of "I do not suffer fools gladly."
I was once accused of omitting a face photo on my profile because I had "something to hide." The accuser had no photos of himself at all on his profile. Today a boy emailed me to say that, as my name is RedHeadedVixen, it is "ironic" that I have not posted a photo which depicts my hair color. Here is my reply:
"This observation from someone with no photo whatsoever? I recommend that you actually read the definition of irony. Not that it is any of your business, but I do not display my visage due to my very public and very conservative profession. Careers have been torpedoed for much, much less than being a member of a kink site.
If you want to see me, you must demonstrate your earnest desire to get to know me. The majority of "submissives" I meet here are insincere trollers who have no right to view my image. I now count you among them."
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Valentine's Day is not your entree into conversing with me when you fall outside my clearly stated parameters. I do not subscribe to this Hallmark Holiday in any event, so for gawd's sakes, enough already with the Happy Valentine's Day sentiments. Seriously. 30 already, and it is 9:00 a.m. If you are waiting for a "Gee, thanks" or an "Awww shucks" or a "Ain't you sweet," you will not get it from me.
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I met a new so-called submissive for the first time last week, over drinks and a bite to eat. For about a year he had been sending me the same inane, one-line email: "May I worship your feet?" I of course ignored him for that entire time, as he was revealing himself to be neither serious nor very polite. But, he finally sent me a real, honest-to-gawd email, professing to be a "changed man." After some instant messaging, we met in person.
After about an hour he was more than ready to go home with me, but I don't have BDSM encounters on the first meeting; time reveals all things. If he was serious about something real with a real domme, it would eventually be apparent.
Despite a grueling week at work, I agreed to meet him this evening, around 6:00 p.m. Our exact plans were not firm. As I drove home from a very long day, I texted him to meet me at a restaurant near my house. I had not eaten all day. If all went well, I intended to invite him back to my house.
His response: Dinner again?
My reply: So? Problem?
Him: Not really feeling dinner but whatever
Me: I must eat. Come or don't.
Him: Makes for a rather late evening. Maybe another time.
I called him on his bullshit and apologies ensued - entreaties for me to change my mind and meet him anyway. Hmmm. Think not.
Isn't it great when they show their true colors early on? His agenda. His timetable. Not the least bit submissive, and no clue of what it means to serve. If he won't have a meal with me, why would I bring him to my home and reveal my most intimate self? If he cares so little about my well being, that makes him selfISH, not selfLESS.
A submissive who professes a desire to submit to me should be honored to sit down and eat with me.
Fellow Dommes, when will they understand that we, of all people, do not settle?
A cautionary tale. First, be ready to change your mind if warranted, but trust your intuition. Second, if you are a submissive and you want my time or attention - deserve it.
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Please understand, if you send me photos and I tell you I am not interested, that says nothing about YOU AS A PERSON. It speaks only to my preferences. Do not hear, "You are not attractive" if I say, "I am not attracted."
I know, for example, that I do not have universal appeal; I will not turn the head of every man I pass on the street. But I turn enough, and I am comfortable with my appearance. I do not consider it an insult if someone tells me that I am not his cup of tea.
There is no use in asking me what my preferences are, or why you in particular do not satisfy them. Attraction is a funny and fickle thing. It is simply there or it is not.
Oh, and I have heard all the "shallow" arguments before. I do not consider it shallow to expect to be physically attracted to my submissive, and him to me.
Personality is of course key, but the physical attraction comes first. No amount of personality will make up for a lack of animal attraction. By the same token, I have no interest in a drop-dead gorgeous male who has nothing else to offer. Here's to finding that elusive combination.
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You are kinky; does one single, "vanilla" person in your life know that? If not, this may indicate that you need to expand your circle of friends beyond fellow kinksters, or that you could use a "vanilla" friend (or family member) or two whom you trust implicitly and who will love you unconditionally.
It may also reveal shame, as secrets are often hidden due to the holder's own discomfort about the information.
Want to dissuade me? Make your case.
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I have corresponded in the past with those who ultimately either admitted or were revealed to be under age, a 300-pound shut-in, another gender, or generally not who or what they represented themselves to be. If we begin corresponding, I will require you to produce more than one photo. I of course will reciprocate. I will also require a cam session, or a photo of you with my name, "Vixen," somewhere in the shot. Again, I will reciprocate so that you are assured that I am who I say I am.
It is unfortunate that this sort of vetting is necessary, but it is. Don't act surprised or offended. If you want to get to know me you should welcome the opportunity to prove yourself as genuine. If this is an issue for you, save us both the time and trouble and get along, little doggie. It's your misfortune and none of my own.
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I do not suffer fools gladly.
From a member here: "I liked your ad. But realize, for what it is worth, that men talk amongst themeselves [sic] too, whether sub or Dom. Females have not cornered the market on this, as they always think they have. There are Dommes here with ulterior motives, too. It's not always the men, although we always get the blame. Women are far from perfect either, although you would never admit it. I adore women, but not the constant singleminded blame we all receive in their wake. Men adore women, and women adore themselves. Thus the impasse. Block me, if you wish, I won't come this way again."
And my reply: "What exactly are you disagreeing with in my post? What controversy have you established? Congratulations. You read to the second journal entry on my profile. In that entry I chastise the bad behavior and lack of respect and consideration from subs that we dommes communicate about. I am sure there are dommes who are substandard and devious. By all means, talk about them with your fellow subbies. But I am not one of those dommes, and I cannot for the life of me understand why you bothered to write to me at all. Much ado about nothing. It is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing. Google it. It's famous."
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Remember the good old days, when you read an email but the sender did not know you read it? And, EGADS, you may have waited an hour or two, or even a day or two, before responding?
You needy, insecure CM stalker-types, listen up. If we have been communicating and you see that I read your latest email, do not expect an immediate reply. Do not assume that I am not interested simply because I read your email at 8:55 and did not respond at 8:56.
And you know what else? I may actually log onto CM a few times without responding to that email either! Hard to fathom, I know.
I am a considerate person and do not respond well to accusations otherwise.
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I don't understand people who hide behind their computer keyboards, spouting hatefulness and vitriol. Didn't your mama ever teach you that if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all?
If I am not your cup of tea, move along and don't tell me so. Because if you do tell me so, there will be consequences. Don't you know we dommes talk to one another? Silly, insecure rabbit. Don't take me on.
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I can think of no better expression of the type of submissive I seek, and the measure of his true devotion, than the lyrics to the song "Shameless" by Billy Joel. Garth Brooks made the song famous. If you haven't heard it in awhile or you think the song is old and trite, google the lyrics. It is magnificent.
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If you have no self control;
If you are looking for someone to tell you what to do because you can't or won't make good decisions for yourself;
If you don't respect yourself or others;
If you lack emotional maturity;
If you have no moral compass;
If you have a hard time feeling anything other than pain or fear;
If your life lacks direction;
If you feel hopeless and feel the only way out of your misery is to be controlled;
these things do not mean you are a submissive.
If any of the above applies to you, you need a therapist, not a domme.
Don't expect others to do for you until you do for yourself. Don't expect others to love and care for you if you don't love and care for yourself. Get your house in order before you offer yourself to someone else. Submit because it is your free choice - not because you need "fixing."
I will not be your mother, your jailer, or your probation officer.
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For those of you who can't seem to write a decent first email:
NEW SUBMISSIVE QUESTIONNAIRE
Name
Age
Physical Stats
Employment
Current location
Where you grew up
Educational history
Criminal history
Family history (Where are mom and dad? Siblings and where are they? What do they all do for a living? Nieces and nephews? Etc.)
Marital status (If you are divorced, separated, or a widower, tell me about that and don't just say "single")
Kids? If so, sexes and ages, where they live, and how much time you spend with them
Relationship status (This had better be "single." See my prior journal entries)
Details and end date of last relationship (vanilla or otherwise, serious or otherwise)
Why do you think you are a submissive?
When did you realize that you are submissive?
Do you rent or own your home? Do you own a vehicle? How much credit card debt are you carrying? The last time you checked, what is your credit score?
Are you currently seeing a mental health professional?
Are you currently taking any medications?
Have you been diagnosed with any addictions or impulse control problems, or are you concerned that you have any?
How much experience do you have with BDSM?
If I choose you as a submissive, what is the value added to me? Sell yourself.
What are you looking for in a relationship?
What attracted you to my profile?
What is the worst thing your last three exes would say about you?
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Today I decided to peruse the profiles of other female dominants on CM. As a female dominant I have never bothered to do so before. Oiy, vay.
You poor submissive males! Every other profile appears to be a bot - one picture perfect photo and no other information. As for the real ones, it's all don't do this, I won't respond to that, you will be deleted, you will go to bulk mail, screw off.
I admit that my profile has a fair amount of that as well, due to the flaky nature of this website. 9.5 out of every 10 emails I receive are from moronic losers. But, lest I be leaving the wrong impression for that .5 who are sincere and looking for something real, and who meet my qualifications, know this:
I am fun-loving, warm, compassionate, funny, easy-going, and giving woman. I enjoy my life and am looking to share it with someone special. I just so happen to be kinky and dominant.
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If you and I have never corresponded before:
A. I will not answer your inane one-line question ("Are you still looking?" "How's the weather up there?" "Can I be your slave?").
B. I will not accept your friends request. I don't accept them in any case because I don't care to have others in my business; if that is the only way you can remember my screen name you need to invest in a post-it.
C. I don't want to see you on cam; and
D. I will not send you an instant message.
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Your first email to me is an application. If you don't devote the time and attention necessary to make a good first impression, why would I give your correspondence any of my time or attention?
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I have recently returned to CM, having released a submissive I had under consideration for five months. I take every experience as an opportunity for learning. Here is what gleaned from this one:
1. I cannot stress enough the importance of honesty and transparency in my submissive. Nothing is "private" if I am your Domina.
2. Obedience is more important to me than service. If you bend to my will only when it suits you, it matters not that you make the world's best mochas or give spa-quality massages.
3. Once negotiated, don't be surprised when I exercise the control you gave me.
4. There is no room in my life for petulance and passive-aggressive behavior. Whining and childishness will not be tolerated and will be grounds for immediate release.
5. Yes, I do care about your opinion. Yes, you do have the right to re-negotiate our power exchange. But, if you don't have a legitimate reason to safeword - Obey now, talk later.
6. Pride and stubborness will be met with humiliation. Let the punishment fit the crime.
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I am a demanding domina. If we meet here and graduate to IMs, telephone calls, texts, or cams, my expectation is that you will devote the time and energy to get to know me, and you will maintain reliable and consistent contact. If you cannot make me a priority now, you are demonstrating the inability to put me first in a future relationship. Your level of communication with me will reveal your genuineness, your seriousness, and your maturity.
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I am a domme, not a sex therapist. If you are shame-filled and frightened by your kink and expect me to cajole you into acting upon it, I am not your domme. If you are bisexual but cannot admit that to yourself, so you must be "forced" by a domme and given permission for your desires, I am not your domme. If your love of chastity and cuckolding is due to ED, size, or other performance issues, I'm not your domme.
I seek someone who is happy, healthy, and well-adjusted. Someone who embraces his kink. You can be a newbie or a veteran. Just let your freak flag fly, baby.
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Vixen's Rules of Engagement:
If you say you are going to do something, do it.
When asked a direct question, don't be vague.
If you step out of the sea of humanity and gain someone's attention, devote the time to get to know him or her.
We all make time for the things we want to make time for. Yes, it really is that simple.
Remember that trust is earned, and act accordingly.
Another person's time, interest and affection are precious gifts; treat them as such.
Be worthy, or be gone.
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Chains are a girl's best friend. So versatile!
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I am reading "The 48 Laws of Power," and it has me thinking about power as it relates to dominance and submission.
There are those who would say that power is taken, not given. That may be true in affairs of state, but in affairs of the heart I have no power unless you freely give it to me.
The power to punish is not how hard or how often I strike you. It is in the accuracy of my aim.
If you truly want to have power over someone, show him his deepest, darkest fears. This is why I must love you and be intimate with you in order to be truly cruel.
Yes, I have the power to be stern, to be unrelenting, to be demanding. But I also have the power to be kind, to care, to forgive.
Power is strength. And you must have the strength to relinquish yourself to me. |
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The concept of online submission is completely assinine to me, so don't ask for it. "Online submission" is an oxymoron.
Want to stop pussy-footing around and truly submit? Then hear the tone of my non-digitized voice. Lick the leather of my boot. Feel my heel dig into your neck. Experience the sting of my lash. See the turn of the key on the device enclosing your member, knowing that key won't be in your desk drawer when you're ready to be free. Struggle against the bonds you did not tie yourself. Taste the sweat from your upper lip as I approach. Smell my sweet aroma from the panties in your mouth.
Or, you can comply with a few silly commands and endure a few idle threats from a stranger, then bust a nut and turn off your computer. Now that's submission!
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"Oh, Mistress! You are my dream! I will do anything you say! You can pee in my mouth, force me to clean up some other man's creampie, clean the floor with a scrub brush between my teeth, go ATM with your strap-on, drink water from a doggie dish ... Oh, what? You smoke? That's disgusting!"
I smoke cigarettes. Don't contact me if this is going to be an issue for you. I make no excuses or apologies for my habits.
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Do not contact me if you are married. I am frankly surprised it is even necessary for me to say that. First, I am seeking a full-time relationship with a partner.
Second, if you are not in an open relationship, you are asking me to screw over the sisterhood (because, oh hell yes, sex will be on the menu). You are also asking me to skulk about and be "the other woman." How insulting. I am not a Pro Domme. Go hire one.
If you truly respect the feminine, respect your wife.
"But she doesn't understand me! She doesn't know about my submissive tendencies!" Boo hoo. Be a man. Tell her what you need. If she can't accept it, find someone who can.
Too simplistic, you say? It's true - I don't know your particular circumstances. And I don't want to, either.
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For those using fake photos: I don't know whether to laugh at you, pity you, or kick your ass. Do yourself a favor and don't make me choose.
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Good grief, there are some hapless and unhappy people on CollarMe. Just read some journal entries to see what I mean. Members describe loneliness, isolation, despair, and heartache. Desperation oozes from their every orifice. Not attractive, folks. Not sexy.
Buck up, lads and ladies! Repeat after me:
I am not needy ... I have needs.
I do not seek someone to occupy my time ... I seek someone for whom I must make time.
I am not lonely ... I am alone.
I don't need a lover ... I want a lover.
I am seeking ... But I am also here to be discovered.
And I seek discovery ... not rescue.
I don't want a savior ... I want a companion.
I want to love ... But first I must be lovable.
I am not here to be fixed ... I am here to be enhanced.
I am the only person who can make me happy.
Now, go get 'em!
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Today I invite you to come see the softer side of Vixen.
I can be an opinionated, demanding, stern, and strict Domina to be sure. In fact, during casual encounters with BDSM FWB's and FB's those are my best qualities. But I seek more than an occasional romp. I am looking for my one man. And that one man will get all my layers, all my facets, and all of me I have to give.
I am the type of woman who loves deeply and passionately, and believe it or not, I am extremely nurturing. I become very maternal toward my serious lover - like a mama bear protecting her cub. I want to know every little thing about my man - the good, the bad, and the ugly. I accept him for who and what he is. I will listen to his troubles and help him find solutions. And yes, if he has had a particularly challenging day, I will be the one to make his dinner and run his bathwater. After all, there is far more to all of us than mere kink.
Even when my darling slave kneels at my feet, I will run my fingers through his hair or touch his face and tell him how valued his is, how loved he is, how much I appreciate him, and how much he brings to my life.
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