RedFlagSub

What is the successful ula for finding something real here?

I don't know. Here's what I am going to try though. I'm going to give you all my red flags right up front. I realize that the obvious choice is to sell-sell-sell in this space but I don't want to sell first and reveal all the warts later. That's just not an honest way of doing things.

That being said, I'm sure some will read this and see the red flags and not be interested. That's okay too. I might not be very popular here if I'm honest, but I'm not here to be liked by everyone. I'm here to find the One who can see past to what can be instead of what is right now.

With that premble now completed, here are some things you should know about me.

The Good: I'm 47, single, not married, not dating, not waiting for an ex to realize she still loves me and not currently pursuing anyone in any way outside of this site. I have no kids. I have a good job and no debt. I'm financially stable. I am sane (they all say that though, don't they?) and down to earth. I'm more introverted and more of a homebody but I don't have any kind of social anxiety. I can function perfectly well in just about any situation.

I'm not going to get into great sweeping ideology of my submissivness but for me, a FLR is the ideal. The way I see it FLR is the most natural and right way of being in a relationship. I'm not a fetish hound or looking for a kink dispenser. I'm looking for a real relationship, with a real Woman who sees Herself as someone who can and will guide, teach, mentor and train a boy until he is what She wants him to be for Her. I see myself as a service submissive, a romantic, a pleaser, a sensualist with possible slave tendencies (depending on how you define that word).

The Bad: If you've been burned a lot in your search and are jaded I'm probably not the one for you. While I know I could restore your faith in submissives on this site, I'm not going to be moving in and getting fitted for my collar and cage any time soon. If you're investing time in me it's for the long term. I am living at home with an elderly parent whose health requires someone to be there daily. I'm not going to be moving in with you any time soon. And I'm not interested in just play. This life isn't about the play for me. The play is only enjoyable if there is a connection there first.

Someday, I hope to live a FLR in person as a 24/7 TPE permanent relationship. That is my life's goal. That is my ambition. I will succeed in that. It will happen. I can't even imagine being happy in any other way. This is real and serious to me. When I am able to commit myself fully, nothing will keep me from doing so. I have flexibility to move anywhere for the right Owner once I no longer have this responsibility.

So, where does that leave things now? I know many of you abhor the idea of having any kind of correspondence relationship, but I think I would really thrive in that kind of situation. Ideally, it would be leading to something in person, but I am open to learning and growing under the tutelege of someone who has no plans to take this into an in-person relationship as well as long as they understand that will remain my goal in the long term.

So, if the idea of an attentive, well-spoken/written submissive boy who is willing to commit as much of himself to you as is possible is something that doesn't turn your stomach, perhaps you'll be kind enough to say hello. I can't reach my end goal right now, but I do beleive there can be something that is mutually beneficial that can exist before that happens. In the right situation, it's even possible for potential weekends or slavecations together at some point. I'm not hiding. I'm just not as available as I'd like to be right now.

So there you have it. I've waved my red flags at you. I'm sure some of you are running for the hills. That's okay. I respect that. But if reading this has you thinking or even just saying hmmmm then perhaps it's worth us having a chat.