reddakota

I am searching for a Man or Women to be friends with, and hopefuly more down the road. Someone to help me explore and who will let me get to know them as well.

There is alot to share about myself, so I Supose I'll start with the basics. I still have a very lot to learn when it comes to B/s etc. I need someone who has the patience to help me learn how i can give them what they need, and also to learn how we can work together.

I am a very strong personality in some ways, and in other ways the opposite. I am not a party animal, i do not enjoy bars, or large crowds of people in general. I enjoy the quiet life a little better although i do love getting together with groups to do things like watch movie, play games, go for walks, trips, visit, etc. and have enjoyed bdsm groups before. I Love reading and movies and games, and i am always devoted to my friends and family. Generally I do not force issues with things and i prefer to avoid problems rather than handle them, but in some situations i have learned to take handle of things and deal with them myself as well.

despite how hard it sometimes is for me, the lifestyle is something i very much need. as to what extent, is sometimes hard to say. I'm willing to try just about anything, But i will not take anything to the point where others not in the lifestyle are involved. That is a very big limit of mine. to most of the outside world i want to keep my life as typical as always with work, familly, etc. I enjoy giving up control in certain areas but i'm also a very independant personality. Also I will not move or move in with, anyone, until a relationship is very well established. Outside of that I'm willing to try any level of relationship. But i need both to feel that i know my limits with someone and that they will not let me cross them, and both that who i am as a person is cared for as well.

I am about average height, with short/med red hair. I think it is often better to come right out with everything to make it easier for both, so i will share the down sides as well. I am also overweight needing to loose some, but working on that seriously right now. I Have a habbit of talking alot, and this is something that will likely never change, it's simply a part of me. So don't expect that anyone can change that for me. I love to have fun and just enjoy life, but sometimes i have a serious side as well. I Also was born with a hearing problem, and for the most part this does not affect my life, I can have normal one on one conversations, but in some things it does. It means I need someone with alot of patience in my life at times. I Find that usually my familly and friends just get used to it in time and i learn to make provisions for it.

I Love things like discipline, i love spankings, and being forced to do things, i love anal play and some light humiliation, whips and some bondage, and just sharing everything with someone I care about. I can be very shy about more intimate things at first, but witht he right person I know that will change. I am also hapily settled in my house and have desire to move for a very long time, so if anyone is looking for someone to move in with them right away, I would not be that person. It would only be for a long term relationship I would be willing to do that :)