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| This site was disappointing when I was here, a few of years ago, as "shackles". But, I've been popping in and noticed there are quite a few more mature people in attendance and figure I've got nothing to lose but my time.
So, here we go......
I'm 63. Active, healthy. This lifestyle found my wife and I when we were both 34, shortly before we moved to Florida. Now, many years later, it's like being back at the start of the circle. When I again started to date, I tried vanilla for a couple of years but that just led to frustration, trying to be somebody that I wasn't.
I've always enjoyed introducing people to this lifestyle, letting them see what it is all about and doing my best to help them. I like to think it is my way of "giving back", since we were very lucky when the lifestyle discovered us at the hands of some exceptionally aware and understanding people. We all know that beginnings are rarely easy. We've all got our share of baggage from how we were raised, parental values, etc. Today, you might say that I'm experienced, but I'm not reckless. I really try not to take myself too seriously. Figure what does matter is being honest and being something positive in somebody's life, not a negative or an obstacle. If that doesn't sound very "dominant", you would be surprised by my intensity, when it is needed.
I think I've managed to figure myself out, pretty well. I don't want to mislead anybody or stand in the way of their doing the same thing.
Most recently, I've said goodbye to a sub/slave couple I've known since 2009. She was meant to be a slave. He became a cuckold and well feminized whore in the years that they served. Ironically, the circle is complete because they've moved to Florida. He had a very hard time admitting to himself that his deepest need was to become feminized. He struggled with it a great deal, made harder because he was afraid to admit this need to his wife. This had a great affect on me. His struggle to accept, and understand, became my struggle to be open, accepting and understanding and to do my best to be a help, not a hindrance.
I realize that it can be difficult to express deep, unconventional needs. I think I can help. At least, I am prepared to listen and discuss things.
I don't want to state the obvious, when it comes to what I am looking for. I am flexible and open to whatever, or whoever, the world wants to offer me. I very much a male, very strongly react to the presence of a female, or a couple. As well as that rare male who wants to be something, and somebody, else! But, that's a different kind of power exchange and dynamic. I don't want to be casual, just for the sake of play. I do like stability and continuity. My status is single. Don't lie about your status, true hair color (mine is mostly salt, a little pepper),your weight, experience or perverted fantasies and needs. If you are a switch, I welcome you as a friend, but more is not very likely, unless you can be very, very convincing! I am looking for somebody who enjoys, and needs, both the physical and the mental aspects of this lifestyle, without letting either one rule your every breath. I accept that there is a great deal more to life. But, the lifestyle can certainly enhance a life. I offer support, caring and understanding - if you are able to be open about yourself. I'm not looking to be your Father, but I can be Fatherly among other things.
If you have things to ask me, then do so! Questions lead to answers. But, please don't write to me, tell me you have a head full of fantasies, then write that you live around the glove. My world might be enhanced by fantasy, but I do live in a world of reality. You should, too! Thanks.
PLEASE don't invite to a circle, or whatever, if I don't even know you. And, even then, don't bother if your profile is brief or non-existent. I'll know if you actually read all of my own profile if you do such a foolish thing!
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And, again, to answer some of those questions - I would, very much, enjoy hearing from submissive women, a couple or - well, you should know if you should write! Just take a chance. |
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I'm amazed to hear from so many people who haven't taken some time to understand their own drives and motivations. Do you have any idea how hard/impossible it is for somebody else to understand you if you don't have a clue, yourself? |
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I've been amazed by the number of messages from submissives, both men and women, who have so many questions about themselves. Many want to reduce things down to something as simple as what is right or wrong and I don't believe that is possible. I don't believe it's right to ever feel a deep-seated, personal, need is wrong. As long as it's not self-destructive or harmful to somebody else. It can be hard to fully accept ourselves. We all tend to be unhappy with who we are, one way or another. Toss into the mix an interest in submission, or dominance, add all that society and friends say about anything out of the ordinary, and confusion is easy. I enjoy hearing from all of you. |
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| Age: 25 |
| London,
United Kingdom |
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