RealGameorLIe

About RealGameorLIe

You might just as well be blind,
Well now isn’t that something to consider. Over and over again those who discuss this say that it takes trust, and for that to happen need to be open and honest. Yet that is so rare to find when searching for a member who would become part of a bdsm household.

As she sat there finding yet another piece of drivel sent to her, some nonsense of wanting to be taken away and cut off from the outside world: she wonders again at the terms we use to describe things.
And after a while has returned to the beginning when she was first learning what BDSM meant.
Its true there is a great deal of BDSM on the internet as is any other form of porn that can be imagined sadly some of it quite horrifying. Despite this, vast amount of porn bdsm it isn’t really learning or understanding anything about what BDSM is.
Early on the lady was given book titles and authors to read, was told it was important to ignore the porn it wasn’t what real D/s was. What? D/s isn’t BDSM but those very titles told to read said BDSM stood for Bondage /Discipline / Domination/ Submission/ Sadism /Masochism
It’s all part of it isn’t it? Did those books that are the supposed authority have it wrong?
So the lady growing tired of the ridiculous foolish pathetic people who wrote, and feeling saddened by those who were not pathetic, just new and lost because they cannot find something reasonable to help them learn but the erotic fiction or porn, or worse fantasy nonsense.
There are good places, good websites for information, for learning but even those better sites, are beginning to be haunted by the fools who play games, and lie so that those who seek to understand and find something real become the needles in the haystacks of those who misuse others.
Sadly it is not just BDSM it is the world we are in. The anonymity of the internet, the lack of common courtesy being taught and used in the world today, the shear selfishness of people [even supposed subs] has created some of the mess seen.
Now what then does a lady do?
While it is true that a dominant person will have a strong enough ego, to know they are right, and stand by their views, this lady is not so arrogant that she claims she is the one who decides what BDSM is, since in truth this has been around for a long time.

So what does she do? Write an essay on her opinions views and claim that it is the “real” bdsm, well that alone just makes her laugh.
So the question is real? Game? Or Lie?
And the answer isn’t simple. For it is all real to the person who is living it. But what is real for one, is a game to another, and what might be a game for one, even a harmless game, and is in fact a lie to someone else.
So then with no clear cut rules which there cannot be since we all use these terms differently the lady is left asking. What is a slave? What is a Dom or Domme?
And it comes back to this, two choices to move on, and perhaps one day find what she seeks, or to become the bitch so many claim they want to meet.
So the lady thinks about this doesn’t rush into a decision and realizes that first she must know what this means to her. What her views are. What her issues are. How can anyone claim to be in control over another if their own mind is not clear on the very issues they demand others to be clear on?

Ok then so the question becomes what does it all mean to the lady herself? What issues are coming up that cause the lady become so disillusioned by those that write.
Well it is those who write as though they are playing a fantasy game from the start. So solve this by ignoring those emails,
The problem is those who show no common sense or common courtesy. Easy enough ignore those emails.
This leaves very few emails to read true, but then there is more because of the lack of clear understanding. And the fact that the lady does not want to waste time being a history teacher.
How many times has someone said, I want to be a real slave or traditional slave like history. Well that is all well and good. But there are limits to being a real slave.
The limits to being a real slave are it is rightfully so, illegal to own another person.
But wait; there are those who seem to have a great deal of control over the lives of others. It is about power so yes there are ways to adapt to gain more and more control over some one else’s life. Again goes back to trust then before that can happen.
Ok so one limit is that there is no law that allows for one person to own another. Rightfully so it is impossible to just take someone and claim them and own them. Well that is a very good thing.
But what about those people who find comfort in giving up control over their lives to another person? What about those people who want to live as slaves?
Well there is no law that says the can, but also no law that says what is done in the privacy of one’s home would prevent it so back to consensual. But if it is consensual is it slavery? Can it be?
Yes since the whether or not someone is owned or the slave of another is a mutual decision made by both people involved then there is consent on the part of the “slave”.
Ok so that solves that problem. So then there is another problem is there a way to take control over another’s life so completely that once they have made the decision to agree to be a slave to serve, they no longer can walk away? Ask for their freedom yes they can ask for it. But is there a way to ensure they remain obedient if they ask and are denied?
Makes a person wonder doesn’t it?
Once again back to being a slave what does that mean? What does it mean to be a slave? What does it mean to be a “traditional slave” or a “real slave”?
Funny how many people use all of these words and they all mean something different by the label they use.
So now the Lady knows what must be done. Decide what being a slave means to her. Put it out there no nonsense terms. And see what develops.
If no one wants to do things on her terms she can just walk away.
Does this make her yet another one of the game players? Another lost in fantasy and not real? No doubt there are many who will judge her for her choices.
Slavery has been called the evil of civilization. That once we began to have established cities and towns, and communities the advantage of cheap labor i.e. minimum cost expense of food, and clothes,
That is something to think about so a slave was someone whose work and labor produced income for the owner, but the slave was given just the necessities of food, shelter, clothing in return.
So why is it that so many think being a slave means they are going to be supported by owner, when they say traditional or historical, or real?
While it is true historically there were categories to slaves. Those who worked at specific jobs as laborers in some specific way to produce income, and then there were those who were house hold servants as slaves. But the slave did not choose the category the owner chooses.

So back to consensual, yes this is about the consent of the slave. And yes there are house slaves, and slaves who labor, some in brutal conditions, and as gladiators if want to go far enough back in history, as well as those who were personal assistants, as some were even secretarial role to the Roman Emperors, but this was few.
The slaves themselves did not choose which category they were put into, but since we are dealing with consensual a slave can say they want to be a slave, but only if they pick the category of slave they want to be in.
So now the lady knows she wants a slave.
Not a romance, not a partner, not a lover, not a pet. The lady knows she wants a slave, she wants to own, someone and that means they obey, and they live as a slave. But the truth is those who claim they want to be a slave, want to be a submissive, with strong strict rules.
So how to find someone who wants to be a slave is the next question… unfortunately the answer is not as easy as looking into views of those involved in bdsm or looking up historical facts about the roles of slaves.
Another question is can someone really live as a slave, after having lived free for their lives? Can someone really give up control give up on being a person to become an object of use owned by another?
A lady can hope.