We….Yea “We”…. Are a Dominant couple who are currently looking for a girl to add to our family. (My profile on here is Calpernia but is not checked frequently)
Strait male and bi female, dominant couple in the Dallas area.
With us it is more about the power dynamic. He dislikes the term power exchange however as it is inaccurate and (his words) patently asinine. There is no exchange. There is a surrender of power from one to another. An exchange implies that you give us power over you and you give you power over us. That is wrong. Words have meaning. Learn that phrase, you will hear it again. That is like his mantra.
Who we are looking for…… Sub or slave. It will depend on who we find and what kind of dynamic comes naturally. We have had both in the past and it will just depend on who we find.
Willing to relocate moderately soon.
We do not play online role play games or do super long term long distance things.
Disease free is a hard requirement.
Testing is required, and I mean for everything. There can be no discussion on this.
Playful.
We vacillate between hardass and smartass but are rarely not playful.
Attitude.
This is probably the most important thing we are looking for. The right kind of attitude is key. We want someone who is 100% devoted to us and to the family we are building.
Honesty.
This is a close runner up to attitude. A previous girl could not be honest and we had to release her.
Kink.
This is an area that ties into attitude, in that the correct attitude for a girl to have is that we determine what kinks will be practiced or explored. Period.
Experience. We are flexible on this to an extent. We prefer a girl without experience in the lifestyle, primarily because we are not fond of the notion of having to train away bad habits. We prefer a clean slate, ready to be transformed. Also we enjoy the notion of being the ones to bring a girl to this life, it does not have to be a difficult and or scary transition.
At least moderate intelligence.
We are not saying your grammar has to be perfect or that you have to have a solid grasp of non-Euclidean geometry before you contact us. But frankly we are intelligent and there is no pleasure dominating the stupid.
His photo by the way is in the profile. (Terrible in the mirror thing and that was hard enough to get), My photo is available upon request to woman only. We are not in the habit of putting my picture online as a result of the potential problems it could cause with me work. This is not some b.s. excuse, we are real and will not hesitate to prove it.
By the way I prefer the idea of a girl speaking to my me early on to ensure that we are for real and not just some wanker claiming to be part of a couple to lure a girl in.
We are not playing games and so expect that you not be doing so as well.
I have read in a few profiles recently that girls have put?
up in here complaining about guys that are not all that over the top sadistic?
and making sarky remarks about fluffy bunnies and babies etc and also saying?
some blather about this place is for bdsm and that it is not a normal dating?
site. The primary implication that I take away from that kind of thing is that
? if I am not some sort of over the top hard core douche who wants to take out?
his ego shortcomings on a girl all the time then I must somehow be weak.
?
? Perhaps I am reading something into these remarks but my initial reaction is a
? long string of expletives frankly. Also the desire to line up any five of the aforementioned?
douche bag dom types in front of these girls and pound them to a pulp by way of?
demonstration of what one of these fluffy bunnies is capable of doing to their oh so desirable sadists.
? Perhaps the desire to totally and completely own a girl yet not act like a bit
? player in one of the Hostel movies makes me strange in this environment. Ask me?
if I care.
Getting tired of people on this site.... or just perhaps it
is the life style in general terms.
The men are all a bunch of all mouth and no trousers, foul imbeciles
who for lack of ability to get frequent random couplings and other things they perceive as shortcomings, think that they can come here and put on some big show
of how very "dominant" they are and that the girls will fall in their lap.
Or that they are going to work out all of the ego issues that have been making
them feel small all these years by beating and whipping a girl so they can feel
in control. Does not strike me as being all that dominant frankly. Strikes me
as needing either a bit of therapy, some real mates that will help them to
develop some testicular fortitude or in many cases they should be chucked in the ash can before they can pollute the rest of our little subculture any more. ?
From what I have seen in this subculture to date, these "Doms" are
about as fearsome as a mild case of barbers rash.
Now we come to the female side of the equation....
Now I do understand that much of their lack of manners and courtesy can be put
down to the fact that they will not have been raised properly and are in
desperate need of proper discipline, training and an education that includes
being instructed in much of what should be considered the bone basics. That is
why theoretically they are in this culture to begin with... to find a mentor,
teacher and controller. I like to think that there are some here at least that
are not just kink focused or so mindless that they have no real thoughts as to
why they are entering this culture.
I also understand that they are affected by the amount of asinine pestering
that they receive from some of the "men" that I mentioned earlier in
this journal entry. I have read many a profile and heard many a complaint from
the girls on this site about the "one liners" and the repetitious
emails that are clearly cut and paste and what not. Or being told "kneel
to me" blah blah blah... I am the big tough Dom.... hear me roar.
Yea, I get that there are reasons that the woman that are choosing to venture
into these waters are often put off. Easy enough to understand even for one of
the meanest intelligence. However I do not feel that these reasons rise to the
level of an excuse for the behavior and lack of basic courtesy.
I can give more examples than I prefer to dwell upon. The fact of the matter is
that very few of the girls I have encountered on this site when presented with
an actual strong honorable man with a dominant nature will have the good taste
or training to respond respectfully.
Now lets say for example that we were to take in one of these girls who has not
been trained properly in basic manners. Obviously I would go about retraining
and molding her into what she should be in the first place. Lets however
presume that I should actually need her service in public before I was able to
spend many months molding her? I for example have the need of a girl to
accompany me on occasion to functions and to be a companion or assistant in
public. Easy enough if I were just assing about with random strangers on the
street, but frankly I move in circles with people that are for the most part
well educated and traveled. One can not take a girl who seems as if she is
fresh from the trailer park or with the comportment of a ?hood rat? and drop
her in these surroundings and expect her to make a good impression. Or I might just want to have friends over and we are not secretive about who or what we are to our friends. A girl would not be hidden away, but frankly I would rather a girl that we could take pride in and show off (not share, we are selfish)
This is not snobbery by any means. We are solidly middle class and not
attempting to to do an aspiring Thurston Howell III routine. It is simply
that the girls I have encountered for the most part are quite ill equipped by
our standards when it comes to either an academic or a cultural education.
On a different line of thought but an equally troubling problem that I have encountered
with the girls in this lifestyle is their egos. The notion that because they
are women that we as men are supposed to place some kind of amazingly high
inherit value in them as sex objects. Whether they are physically attractive or
not they seem to think often times that because all men in the vanilla world can be twisted and manipulated via the use of sex as a weapon that they can continue to play that card in this environment.?
One would think that in our little microcosm that this would be less of an
issue. Not in my experience to date. Not to seem cocky but in all honesty it is not that difficult to find woman either as bdsm play partners or as vanilla lovers if one is purely focused in that direction. Not my thing as an individual and not our thing as a couple. So the sex as a weapon thing just comes across as kind of pathetic.
This is especially problematic in my experience when it comes to the very
attractive girls. If they are the proverbial "Hawt Chick", then they have
generally just floated along through life. Everything handed to them without as
much effort or work as others. Weak men falling on themselves to be close to
them and absorb the brunt of life?s blows for them. All because they are weilding what most see as that ultimate weapon, their sexuality.
No thank you. A pretty face or a pleasing figure while very pleasant, it is not
the most important factor by any means.
And for that matter being traditionally beautiful is going to put me off to a
large degree. I do not mind training a girl extensively and seeing to her
education... far from it in fact, I however am not all that interested in
having to start from scratch by redefining her entire world view, and that is
exactly what one would probably have to do with a little wanna be beauty queen.
Next window please.
I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that the pickings are much
slimmer than I would like. Ah well, we will get there in the end.
