Sometimes, bombs fall silently.

:-D Sometimes things just seem to "fit." Its nice to be excited for once.

So... as all things inevitably do, my situation has changed. But I'm ok with it. :) And I'm ok with where I'm at now. After many trial and errors, I think I have narrowed it down to the type of guy I want. Have I met him yet? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe it will be another 10 years before I do. Who knows? But I'm optimistic. :) In the meantime, I plan on just enjoying being me and growing as an indivual. :)

I never get old of looking at the photos on here. There is some interesting stuff. :)

awwww... yay for people making connections on here!  I wish the same for everyone. I have established a few internet friendships here that I have enjoyed chatting with. And its nice to have people to talk to about similar interests that aren't just trying to get in your pants. And for a couple of the people, they are meeting others and seem to be enjoying themselves. I'm happy for them! Maybe not everyone on here is a fake after all.

Ok, listen, said it once... guess I'll say it again.   I am not YOUR submissive/slave/insert title here. I will not be told what to do online by someone that I have never met before, and not even that, that I have not fully discussed terms of our relationship/contract with in person AFTER deciding that is the course of action I want to take because I trust that individual. Ok? Ok. No that does not make me demanding. No that does not mean I don't know my role or what I'm doing or even that I am new to this scene. It simply means, I am my own person outside of this context and I have standards and the ability to make the choice of who I choose to submit to. Some over-inflated ego that tells me what I am and am not going to do within the context of an email can keep looking. I'll make that decision. Not you.

Sorry, venting. But I have been trained better then that. Another gentleman on here told me that anyone that thinks he can tell me what to do on here in an introductory email is obviously a poser and knows nothing of the lifestyle. (Basically a person acting out a fantasy based on the abundant misconceptions of BDSM) I agree.

I'm finding, just based on my own experiences here so far, that the older D's are less likely to engage in such abrasive behavior. Kudos to experience!!

Yesterday I had the tremendous joy of watching my former 'teacher' begin training on a new sub. It was fantastic to see it from another perspective. And while sadly, I did not get to play, (and was dieing inside from want) I had a great time seeing someone start to really understand what their inner desire to serve and submit means. :)

Aww, I'm thoroughly enjoying the profiles I am looking at on here. There seem to be plenty of genuine people. It really makes me miss the local group here in SC. :) And reading about everyone and seeing pictures... it makes me miss the more fulfilling play I adore. Don't get me wrong, I am in a fantastic relationship and I enjoy it, but he is just starting out and its kind of hard to train from the bottom. I miss being pushed and teased and left on the brink for a while... I miss the excitement and the challenge. BUT, I know we will get there at some point. :) Any advice anyone wants to give me on how to better help him come into fruition would be GREAT!!

"A properly trained sub knows to exhibit proper manners throughout all facets of social networking."

I found this on a D's profile today. And while, yes, I agree with it to an extent, I do not agree that as a submissive, we should be expected to address anyone as 'sir' or 'master' from the beginning. This does not make us demanding (as suggested in his post). It does not demonstrate a 'newness' to the lifestyle (also suggested in his post). It demonstrates dignity, a sense of self-worth and above all, caution. My very first teacher taught me that any man that demands or expects to be called "sir" by someone that he has never engaged in discourse with on an intimate level is not worthy of the role. The role of D is earned, just as the role of S is too. And besides, who wants a submissive that is willing to submit to everyone she/he speaks to? Even if it is simply online. Maybe I am biased because that is what I was initially taught. But regardless, submissives should have standards. And for the D's not into objectification, etc, (on the lines of what I am more affiliated with) a D should want them to have standards.  

So yes, I agree that proper manners are expected but from both parties, not simply the submissive role. Etiquette (sp) is a natural formality for two individuals engaging in initial conversation. But that has its limits on both ends.

I do not doubt that the gentleman that posted this statement is a very good D. And I do not doubt he expects the best from his subs. And I am not arguing his point, merely adding to it. :) You don't have to agree. We all have our own thought process and opinions.  

ha!! ok... if you use the word 'intelligent' to describe yourself but you don't spell it right... that about sums it all up right there.  also... let me say this again... i am not looking for anyone right now. so please keep your copy & paste emails to yourself. i won't respond. i'm just hear to chat, to learn, and to expand my mental understanding of what the lifestyle fully entails. that's all. another thing, i am not 'your' submissive. i am submissive by nature. there is a HUGE difference. i will not respond to you as 'sir' in an email and i will not be told i am going to email you back. earn your role, don't expect it. especially from someone online.

Thank you guys for the interest, but like I said in my profile... I am taken. And happily so. I love to talk to people and find out what makes them tick, but that's as far as it goes. No pictures and no, I'm not interested in anything further right now. :)