You Scored as Sadist (on the do you have an inclination for BDSM quiz)

Interesting experience with a potential slave boy: He is definitely not slave material. In fact, so dominant he views me as potential slave material.He is wrong, but, he could be fun to play with, in that way. So, I think I made a friend, potentially, but, not a slave.

He reacted to the place where we met as if he thinks it is already my home and I am sure that is some of what threw us both off our game.

Am considering - and I think he is too- the potential to team up a bit, on occasion. He said he'd consider playing with male slaves, but, would prefer female slaves. 

Well, I do like female slaves, in some respects, but not sexually, so, that could work well. 

Spent the night at the property. Was hoping that being there in the evening would provide some relief and allow me to get more work done. No! It needs some outside insulation and /or the swamp cooler working before that happens. Or, maybe a storm.

There's quite a bit of work to do be done, for sure; but, it's got great potential. 

I'm thinking, since so much needs to be done, and since I do love to try new things, trying to do as much with recycled materials as possible.

Just found out something very cool, that makes me even more eager to have a slave room mate. While trying to fix something, I learned where I can go to set which devices have permission to use my internet connection at which times. So, now, if I had a slave, I could let them, say, play an X-box game after their work was done, but, shut it down all day, every day when I found them displeasing. Lovely!

Somebody say something interesting, before I explode!

Power is not what what you think it is (and you know who you are). Yes, indeed, the masters of slaves in America and the Americas (which were not at all the same places, and did not have the same slave cultures, so kindly read a history book if you don't know that) did used to dictate what the slaves wore.

What you don't understand is that the slaves also actually gathered the materials, made the cloths, designed and sewed the garments that their masters wore. Or, sometimes, they -master class and slave class -  worked together and made garments for themselves and each other. Or, sometimes, the master class dressed the slaves in less ornate forms of their own apparel. Or, sometimes, the master class dressed their slaves in their garments which were old, stained, or otherwise in need of repair.

And, sometimes, a modiste made special garments for their monarch, despite that they were nowhere near the same social class and were subject to their laws to the point of slavery. That is, without it being requested, just as a sign of devotion.

I could lay out your clothes. I could buy your clothes. i could make your clothes. I could even put your clothes upon your body and groom you. And, you'd be my slave.

I could order you to lay out my clothes, buy my clothes or make my clothes. I could order you to dress me and groom me. And, you'd be my slave.

Power is not so much what is done to whom, but, why.

Another example of a situation wherein an s-type might be completely discouraged, after listening to the needs of a Mistress, due to his lack of truly listening and understanding the most important facets of her needs.

"I want a swimming pool, both for relaxing and for exercise." says Mistress.
"Oh, I can't afford that kind of expense and you are a money grubbing whore who only wants to use me for my wallet." says the alleged s-type, imagining that she expects him to immediately hire a contractor to build her a fancy pool with matching hot tub, which would cost thousands of dollars.

When what the s-type should be saying is something more like:
"Mistress, I regret that I don't have the income to make that sort of purchase for your pleasure. May I offer you, instead .."    And, what the instead is depends on their circumstances. It could be many things, including these:

" .. a swim pass and a bus pass so that you can get to any of the pools, whenever you have time?"

" ... to take you to my parent's house, once a week? They have a pool."

" .. to save money aside from my wages to go toward the pool, while in the meantime I will be glad to do some research and begin digging the hole where you indicate."

"... to drive you to the lake, whenever you wish?"

"... to build you a natural swimming hole, which is something that I could do all by myself and would cost much less so that you could enjoy it, sooner. Plus, it would be more kind to your precious flesh, oh grand Mistress of joy."

Over at the property again, am I; and, it's a bit of a horror festival. Now, don't get me wrong! As far as I can tell, the roof is okay, the walls and floors are solid, and the house is still pretty cute.

BUT ....   Do you like my big but? Anyway ....

The swamp cooler is not working. That may be due to a plate that needs to be put on to make the heater work and taken off to make the cooler work. Though, I don't think that's all the problem there is. It could also be the wall switch. Whatever the case, the actual motor works.
The dryer isn't working. It's filthy, too, but, that's not why it's not working, I don't think. It is not putting out enough heat. Could be something simple, like a clogged vent hose or something that requires putting in notice to the insurance company. Not sure, yet.

The fan in the dining area doesn't work. Appears to be a short in the wiring. The light works. It's one of those kind of fans, with the light built in. For some reason the phone jack was dismantled. There's no wire left for it, so it would have to be completely re-installed.

There's a lot of little niggling things like that which need to be done. The worst, right now, is the cleaning that needs to be done, including sorting through all the things that were left and boxing them up. Well, some of the stuff is things that used to be stored, that are mine, which are now scattered throughout the house. It's crazy!

Dear s-types:

"It turns me on to serve my Mistress, and then I need release. You have to expect it to turn me on, to be that intimate with a woman."

Are you aware that most laws were made by men, who knew the way men think and wish to live??Are you aware how illegal it is for a physician or psychiatrist to take sexual advantage of their patient?
You see, these are people who get intimate with a woman. The physicians get intimate with her body and, to some extent, her mind; the psychiatrist gets very intimate with her mind. Yet, it is illegal for them to act in a lustful manner toward her - and that is by the laws of men who are not even slaves, who do not view any of these women as their superiors.
Yes, some men, in those positions, do become lustful towards their patients. Most, even when they feel an arousal that is definitely toward a particular patient never act on it. If they cannot control themselves, by taking out their sexual frustration with other women, then they remove themselves from the woman's life. Though, most do not feel an unbearable sexual attraction to the woman - they feel a very bearable attraction, born of intimacy, which they then redirect to the woman who is of an appropriate status to act upon it with.

As I said before, these are men who are not slaves. They have less reason to want to serve and please the woman, to protect her, to curb their lust toward her, and, yet, they go into professions where they should and must do so and they manage very well, in the majority. In fact, the more intimate toward women they get, such as gynecologists, the less likely they are to develop lust toward a woman who it is inappropriate for them to feel that way about, and the more likely they are to sympathise with the women in regards to their needs. Whereas, the more they disrespect the nature of women and seek to alter the artistic lines that they are born into, the less likely they are to be able to curb their lustful instincts.

Therefore, a man who is a slave should be quite capable of separating the feelings of intimacy toward his Mistress from his lust for female flesh, and he should be able to take that feeling and use it to enhance his relationship with a woman who is more socially appropriate for him to have sexual desire for.

He should also be able to engage in acts of massage, even breast massage, without losing control or developing a sexual or lust-driven relationship with her. If he is a very good slave, he may even be able to, through control of his mental processes and devotion to her, cater to her sexual needs without interposing his own upon her.

This should be able to happen without her having to lock his cock up to prevent him from threatening her with it. And, yes, I do mean threatening! If a man cannot control his own cock, if he disturbs a woman's peace of mind or cleanliness of body with it, without  permission, it is a threat. A good slave seeks to give his Mistress peace of mind and comfort of body, not to take it away; he does not threaten her with possible disease, impregnation or the discomfort of being alone with a man who cannot control himself or treat her as a person, rather than a sex object.

Would you become filled with lust if you were massaging the breasts of your father, for medical reasons? Most of you would not.  Then, you should not be filled with lust by your Mistress, when you massage her breasts. It is not a sexual situation - it is your job, your duty, and an act of devotion to her 

Can you work with females,  maybe even bring them a cup of coffee, without physically attacking them? Can you walk through a Mall, spy a good looking woman who turns you on, and then take that inadvertent sexual attraction and use it to seduce your lover ?  Most of you can. So, don't tell me that a Mistress has to understand that she fills you with need and has to give you release. if you think a Mistress HAS to do anything with your cock, then you have never truly experienced being owned.

It's 7:38 pm . He was supposed to show up at 7;30 pm. That's not conclusive proof that he won't show up, but, he was given the option to show up early if he gets done with his chores early, and they really shouldn't have taken him that long.

When he knew he was about a 1/2 hour out of Tucson, he could have called B.P. to set things up, drove to there, swung back around to here, and he would have passed about 6 different places to fulfill the rest of his chores, quickly and easily, on the way.

He allegedly has experience as a slave, though it is obvious they taught him no social skills related to BDSM. Still, between being an adult capable of holding down a job and that, barring a hideous accident, he should have been able to make it.

It is now 7:42 pm. Pretty sure that's one less person I shall be in communication with.

UPDATE: He definitely did not show and he is definitely blocked now. However, I heard from another slave boy (potential) who I may be getting together with on Sunday, and he sounds much more biddable than the other, anyway. Plus, there is a motorcycle involved.

I love me some motorcycle!

Well, here I am at the property and listening to the sound of a slave boy and slave girl in the bedroom. No, it's not what you think. They are waiting until it is time for them to do as ordered and, in the meantime, they are listening to comedy shows.

In the meantime, since it is still too hot and the swamp cooler has quit working, I will commence to do the work I actually get paid for whilst waiting to see if the other slave boy even shows.

Dear s types:

"I'm looking to serve a mistress in all areas from bondage cbt service slave worship spanking whipping bdsm etc."

Just as I said bellow, about you s-types and how there are varied ways of potentially serving to reach a desired goal, I now tell you about owners and their potential ways of leading you.

The quote is from the profile of a man who claims to be a slave, who has had the same profile on this site for years, with the same photo and information. That smacks of stalled potential! It makes me wonder if, perhaps, he might not be too lazy in his search for what he wants, and too close-minded and demanding in his expectations.

A mistress does not necessarily need a slave for bondage, cts, service, worship, spanking, whipping, bdsm, and etc. Perhaps, she only needs a slave for bondage and worship, or, maybe she wants service and to spank him. Or, ,maybe she wants a slave who understands that "service" is all or any of those things, if they would make her happy, give her comfort or lead to her greater peace of mind.

An s-type should not be seeking an owner that will promise to be and do exactly as the s-type dreams of in its fantasies. Rather, they should be seeking out someone who is honest in their dealings with them, strong in their will, and who seems capable of leading them to where they need to go.

Oh, but I need her to ...  you say? No, you don't. You need someone who can make you feel owned who can come to know you and not just your body or your wallet, and who can understand your desires and who will seek to change them in ways that are for her benefit and yours and/or finds the ways and means of fulfilling your needs that best lead you to that feeling of being safely owned.

I know words like safe and "fulfilling your needs" make most s-types cringe, but, if you think about it, you will see that this is what total power exchange revolves around: trust, respect, safety. Hence why the old maxim is safe, sane and consensual. No, you don't have to feel like every last minute of your life is filled with comfort and safety - though, it is possible to be an s-type and feel that way - but, you should feel like this person has your best interests at heart and is going to be there to pick you up and make you try again, same as any young child sent off on their first scary bicycle ride needs from a parent.
Slavery is a lot like childhood. Yes, it can be done with a big scary ogrish fiend looming over you, who will beat you when they are drunk,  force you to have sex with their friends without protection, and end up putting you out on the street and treating you like a piece of trash. It can be done that way, because it has happened to so many people! But, it just shouldn't be. Rather, the person looming over you should be someone you can respect, love, emulate to some degree without trying to rise above them in social stature, who will make rules that help you be a better person, give you the things you need, and protect you from any serious harm while forcing you to do things that are scary but which help you to grow as an individual.

As a Mistress, I am not going to guarantee you that I will definitely engage in cbt, put you in a chastity device, beat you  at such and such interval, force you into this position every day, etc.  Because, I am a Mistress, a real human female, not a fantasy and not a paid prostitute. What I will guarantee is that I will consider you and your needs, utilize your talents and work, use your body and mind, and, make you feel oh so positively owned.

That might mean doing things to you that are not on my interest list or yours, or doing things that I am not that keen on but which you need to feel owned to the proper degree, or lending you out to others who will do things to you that I do not wish to  do first-hand but which you will understand were only done because I allowed it and which you will thank me for.

Don't look for perfection, because you will never find it. Look for someone you can build something wonderful with, over time.

Tonight, I shall find out if one of many potential slaves is actually ready to serve, to the point of being willing to inconvenience himself and spend a little money, and, of course, by displaying his ability to follow orders.

http://www.justmorocco.com/pd_moorish_mooresque.cfm

Hopefully, you'll be able to use the link. If not, suffice it to say that it is a great chair of moorish appeal, with a rather royal look to it. The reason for posting it is the point I am about to make - and the fact that the picture is copyrighted so that I cant' save it and post it, instead.

Here's the point: You are a slave, I am a Mistress and in this scenario, I have shown you the chair and told you that I want such a chair, for the bedroom, because it resembles a throne, somewhat, and I am your Queen. It is from this throne-like chair that I shall dispense the calls of the game "If it pleases the Queen.". So, it is imperative that I have this chair, or one that is very much like it.

Now, you, the slave, must take stock of your abilities. Are you rich? Can you afford to buy it? What if you cannot? Should you tell me that you cannot obtain it for me? Is that being a slave, when I have told you to get it?

No; but, a good slave would figure out what he can do and then he would ask permission to do that, instead. He would not tell me "No." or "Mistress, I cannot." or "Ma'am, you ask too much."  which is why many of you that I have talked to will never be real slaves of any worth whatsoever, until you learn to change your attitude. There are many ways that things could play out.

Perhaps, you would need to cut back on your use of air conditioner, walk to work or begin riding the bus and stop using all that expensive gas to get yourself to work so that you can save up money to purchase the chair.

Perhaps, you have some wood working tools and carpentry skills, and can gather materials up to make the chair.

Perhaps, you know where to find some reclaimed wood pieces that can be put together and stained to make a similar chain.

Perhaps, you can go to a thrift store, find an interesting chair and alter it to look like  throne and ask if that will please the Queen.

No, is not an option; but, options are!

Per the immediate below: Yeah, okay, really! Only, I  think that sort of thing should evolve more organically. Plan the big stuff, like the schedule of your household, and let the parties surprise you by blossoming into fruition.

I want to have a party! The sort of party where there is a tent for privacy, and inside the tent there is an outdoor table with four chairs. And, on that table, there are several bottles of wine, beer and spirits. And, in those chairs are four dominants, of varied sexes and sensibilities. And, beside each of those dominants is a slave, of some sex and sensibility.

And, there is a game being played. Could be 21, could be beer pong, might be Yahtzee. I don't know and I don't care, really, so long as it fits in with the basic theme.

See, every time the cards are revealed, or the ball is launched, or the dice are rolled and a person makes what they needed or not, the slaves of the people who did not get it, they get a swat on the backside. The one who does make it, if anyone does, their slave has to take a shot of something alcoholic.

No, not really. But, I would like to have a party!

“Women look for money, power, intelligence, strength and attitude in a male. Why? It is because women want a safe place to raise their children and they want someone who can protect them and put food on their table........ But women don’t like lazy, submissive and complacent men. When some women are confronted by a submissive inferior male they get mean, they get angry and they do everything to emasculate that person even more. What they get is confused; they don’t know how to handle it when they are more intelligent, mentally stronger and dominant. I have seen the most hard core female slave doing the most horrible things to male slaves, and on several occasions. But the problems arises when a female take this confusion of theirs and make it into female dominance, which is plain stupid as a concept if you agree to my reasoning earlier. Not only has the woman dubious feeling about her true identity in society but now she is supposed to take all the male traits and make her own. It is destined to fail, as I have encountered so many times. Earlier years I was determent to find an equal mate, a dominate female with whom I would train and keep slave together with. It was futile to say the least, every time I thought I found one, she rolled over and became my slave, every time! So much of my reasoning and experience comes from those years. NOTHING good comes from females pretending to be dominant, mark my words.”

In essence, I agree with this man I am quoting. He is right about what women want – even the dominant ones -and he is right that the majority of women who claim to be dominant are only pretending, and that is why they are cruel to men.

Then, he goes firmly wrong. Because, it is not unnatural for women to be dominant and it is not impossible for a woman to be all woman, to be submissive to the man she is romantically attached to, and to still be dominant.

A dominant woman is still a woman and she still responds to a man who is strong enough to lead her.

I agree that nothing good comes from a female pretending to be dominant. However, I believe a woman can be dominant and does not have to take on male traits. Teaching, ordering a house, directing someone's life, are not male traits. They are the job of the mother, not the father. It is his job to provide the meat, to provide the house, and it is her job to create the home.

Now, many women who want to dominate men do try to take on the male traits and this is where they go wrong. They create an unnatural state of alleged dominance based on acting outside of their natural sex. Where what they should be doing is to dominate within the natural inclinations of their sex .

I am not an unnatural female, but, I am a dominant one. I fully embrace both that I am dominant and that I am female. When I look for slaves, I do not look for people to be cruel to. That doesn't mean I can't control or dominate them. It means, I would prefer to be the mother figure, not the father figure, and definitely not the whore who is pretending to be the father figure.

I expect male slaves to be males and they should expect me to be female. They should want to do male things, such as working for money, hunting, heavy lifting, “providing” and they should expect me to do the “nurturing” , such as laying out the rules of our home, telling them how to behave, bringing them shopping and telling them what to wear, directing the cooking and cleaning and doing as much of it as I feel like while delegating work to others where it is needed.

Long story short, don't expect a dominant woman to act like a man. Expect her to be a woman, who is in charge in a particularly womanly fashion.

Why would a Mistress, who wants to own a slave, ask a man who wants to be slave for personal information as to  his income, disposable income after bills and about the potential length of his commute - directly after he asked if he would need his own place or be living with her? Hmm? Why ever would she need to know that information, outside of being a scam artist?

More to the point, why ever would she retain interest in knowing him, after he implied she was a scam artist? Why would she want to own someone who is so stupid that he can't understand why someone who just might be taking over his entire life needs to know what that life is? When he can't tell the difference between someone asking for information and someone demanding tribute?

Ugh!

No, it is not a self portrait or a painting of me. Read the weight! Does she look that big? Silly!

What I want does not require weeks of discussion. In fact, whether I contact you or you contact me, I will give you a very limited window of opportunity to make the decision to comply to my demands. That is because you want to be a slave and I want a slave who knows what it means to be one.

All you need to know is that you will be owned and the only limits you will have will be in regards to damage control.
Damage control may include what is needed to keep us both out of jail, unemployment lines or hospitals; what will not force you to go against your religious beliefs; specific needs related to "vanilla" life, such as rent for the place where you live and your kids visit you.

In a saucepan, combine 3 cups of water, 2 tbsp. fenugreek seed; 1/4 tsp each anise, caraway, fennel and licorice (ground or seed will do); allow the water to come to a low boil and then simmer until reduced to approximately 2 cups. May serve with lemon juice, honey and the addition of any sort of tea to improve flavor. Drink 2-3 times per week, for bust-enhancing effect.

In a saucepan, combine 3 cups of water,  1 tablespoon lemon juice; 1 clove garlic, chopped; 1/2 tsp. each cumin, curry powder, and olive oil. Allow the water to come to a low boil, and then simmer until reduced to approximately 2 cups. May use additional spices or honey, and may use as the base for a soup or stew Drink 2-3 times per week for immune-boosting effect.

4 tbsp.  apple cider vinegar in 48 oz  green tea. Drink  one per day, 2-3 days per week.

That's some of what needs to happen. Feel free to try them out for yourself, too. Mind you, I'm not a doctor, and I do not guarantee results or make claims that I can cure anything or that you won't have an allergic reaction; so kindly take all sane and proper precautions, such as checking with your physician, if you decide to use the recipes.

So ... do you want perfection or do you want reality? I ask because I have seen hundreds of profiles complaining about all the fakes on this site. Yet, I also see many that demand a Mistress who is absolutely the right height, weight, age, hair length who wears the right sort of clothing; that engages in the right activities; and who will cater to his every sexual desire; and, of course, who won't want any money, gifts or his time when she is not willing to use him sexually.

Hmm ..  yeah, all that's going to happen!

Do you want to be dominated? Do you want a woman of inner personal strength? Or, do you want a young, pretty user-bitch? Do you want a whore or do you want a Mistress?

Figure that shite out, babycakes - and act accordingly.

So ... do you want perfection or do you want reality? I ask because I have seen hundreds of profiles complaining about all the fakes on this site. Yet, I also see many that demand a Mistress who is absolutely the right height, weight, age, hair length who wears the right sort of clothing; that engages in the right activities; and who will cater to his every sexual desire; and, of course, who won't want any money, gifts or his time when she is not willing to use him sexually.

Hmm ..  yeah, all that's going to happen!

Do you want to be dominated? Do you want a woman of inner personal strength? Or, do you want a young, pretty user-bitch? Do you want a whore or do you want a Mistress?

Figure that shite out, babycakes - and act accordingly.

Ah, silly s-types! Nowhere did I say that I would never do anything you wanted. In fact, I am quite willing to do many things you might enjoy. It won't be instant gratification for you, though.  You'll have to earn them; and, they will be done my way, on my time.

For instance, you want someone to dig their high-heels into you?  Have you been doing your chores on time, keeping your eyes lowered properly, being provably honest about your wages and otherwise being a good little slave? if the answer is yes, to all, then maybe it can happen. We aren't just going to get the high-heels out of my closet or nip down to Payless, though. No no!

Maybe I'll tie you up, blind fold you, and bring in another woman to walk on you with her heels, so that you'll never see her and never be sure, when a friend comes over, if this is the woman who has seen you so vulnerable.

Or, maybe, I'll have you measure my feet, save up money, order a spspecial pair of handmade boots or sandals  for me, and, make you wait until they are finished.
Or, maybe I'll have you put an ad on CraigsList asking for a woman who will trample you and order you to attach a photo of yourself all blindfolded, gagged and tied.

Or, maybe, I'll order you to lick the front stoop clean with your tongue, first; just because it would be fun to do.

Could go a lot of different ways. As a Mistress, it is for me to decide which of those I would prefer. It is also up to me to decide if your weird little trampling desire will be fulfilled at all.

Now, of course, per the below, there must be a balance struck. The slaves desires are always secondary to the needs or desires of their owner; but, their needs are not secondary to their owner's desires. To the extent that it is possible, a slave's needs are equal to the needs of the owner.

IE: Slaves need nutrition. They do not need to eat exactly what their owners eat, or off the same dishes, or at the same time of day; but, they do need to eat healthy foods in sufficient quantities to provide fuel for their labours.

IE: Slaves who work outside the home need proper rest  so as to be able to function at work, and they need to be allowed to dress and groom themselves appropriately for that work.

IE: Slaves who have family need to be able to partake in at least some family activities, so as to preserve the privacy of their slave state. They don't need unlimited access to family and friends, but, a sudden and dramatic change in contact without explanation or a disappearance is likely to result in loss of family and friends, altogether and, possibly, the intervention by legal authorities.

IE: If a slave is working outdoors in the hot sun, they need protection from the sun to some degree for the sake of avoiding skin cancer.
IE: A slave who has an established career, who is not ready for retirement, and who has no equivalent alternative, sustainable work available to them needs to do what is necessary to maintain or advance their career. This might mean working late, bringing work home, taking classes, having dinners with clients, etc. It is unreasonable to restrict these necessary events, regardless of them interfering with agreed upon service to their owner.

I could go on, but, I shan't. I think you get the point.

Here is a concept that I never hear expressed by a slave, but, which should be expressed by them. Slaves are human beings, most of whom have jobs, family, dietary needs, sexual desires, things that they enjoy doing and things that they abhor doing. Some of them love to wear high-heels, some have to for their work but prefer not to the rest of the time so that they can tolerate the pain during he work day, and some hate wearing high heels or can't wear them at all. Some drive, some do not. They are all individual people.

Now, of course, it is the desire of the slave to find someone who can control or lead them, change their life as needed to suit the needs of their owner. That is normal and natural.

It is also normal and natural, however, to want to find someone who can fit into your lifestyle and who will lead you in the way that you feel you should go. In the same way that an owner seeks to own a slave who will perform chores and activities best suited to their lifestyle.

A slave does not have to give up their religion, morals, job, family, friends or style of dress to be a slave. They have to be willing to give up certain aspects, perhaps, or tone down certain aspects, at certain times; but, anything that actually makes them "them" should not be torn down, but, it should be built up.

Slave:

1. One bound in servitude as the property of a person or household.

2. One who is abjectly subservient to a specified person or influence: "

3. One who works extremely hard.

Notice, there is nothing in the definition about "one whose sexual whims are catered to" or "one who must be kicked in the ribs" or "one who has no thoughts or opinions" or "one who must be nude."

I am seeking slaves. They will be bound in servitude as the property of me. They will be subservient to me. They will work extremely hard, as I desire, for me.

If you belong to someone else, I am not interested.

If you are looking for a hook up, I am not interested.

If you are looking to exchange money for sex, I am not interested.

If you are looking for someone to cater to your kinks, I am not interested.

If you need to serve, to be hemmed in by rules and protocols, to be of use, I might just be interested.

"Vanilla" thinking is all about self- advantage, and other worldly pursuits, such as fulfilment of lust, greed, oppressing others and enslaving others for mere personal gain, etc. It is the unnatural, unmoderated stripping away of the good in life in the pursuit of power and wealth, the lies and denials, and the falsely living against one's nature even in privacy.

That is precisely what you should not be doing here. You should be living honestly, expressing your real needs and seeking those who are compatible with them, rather than trying to trick/force them into living against their own natural inclinations.

Most of the people on this site are vanilla in the extreme. And, most of the rest are idiots who have been brain-washed by those who are. "A slave has to ..."    ... "To enslave, a Domina must ..."  BULLSHITE!

A slave is a worker, and a slave in the context of BDSM is a worker who wants to be a worker. A house slave does things related to the house. A general purpose slave does whatever is needed. A sex slave is a play toy. A slave may be some combination of them or they may be far more like Alfred than anything else - companionable, loyal person of free will who does what he does out of love and a sense of duty.  There is no MUST, except for the individual. Don't tell me what I MUST be or what I MUST make you into.

Rather, discover what you truly are and what you truly need - then, what you desire to augment and what will detract from these.

Old profile. After having wasted a day on here, I am changing it, already. Just the same idiots, pulling the same crap as before:

Broken down, my ID says: read if local. That means if you are not in Tucson, I don't have any use for you.
I am open to a few different possibilities for service. Keep in mind that sharing of kinks/fetishes/sex is NOT service, it is only play. Those things are negotiable, once a relationship is established, but the relationship itself will be based on actual service, protocol and discipline. Below are the basic positions available. There is some room for negotiation of particulars, but, extreme changes will not be considered:

Live in slave: Sleep on the floor, sit on the floor, payment of at least your share of the utilities and groceries, lots of housework, dressing and acting to specifications, time off for work or spending time with family and friends or even dating and getting some relief related to kinks/fetishes from other sources if needed, may be allowed. There will also be physical and mental play, which may include others being invited over. Must have at least basic handyman skills or ability to pay someone else to have them, instead, as you will be used to fix and maintain my home.

Visiting slave: Same basic position as the live in slave, except you retain your own residence. This is a good position for someone who is married and who does not wish to commit adultery, but, who needs to perform acts of service which their spouse does not understand. The amount of financial servitude is more negotiable, as you would not be any sort of roommate.

Play toy:  No regular physical labor would be required, because your entire slavery would revolve around periods of time wherein you would be used. This could include 24/7 adherence to rules with punishment for failures, or it could be a simple scheduled play time, wherein you submit to whatever will be done to you.  This would still require some form of financial service or servitude, but, what extent is negotiable.

Life coaching: Sometimes what a person really needs is someone to answer to, who will understand what they are trying to accomplish and be willing to help them get there, through positive and negative use of consequences, rules and protocols. Could be studying, losing weight, learning to get up on time, cleaning one's home, staying away from drugs or alcohol. I have helped people with such needs. Financial service, servitude or simply an agreement of payment per session are required.

Variations and combinations of these positions may be considered. Absolute requirements are that you be a slave - not a lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, sex partner or anything else which might be misconstrued as equal to me - who is ready to listen, obey and serve; financial service, servitude or payment of some form which is mutually agreed upon; and that everything is perfectly legal.

I am not seeking sex partners or romantic interests at this time. Nor will I ever pay for anything that is to be used for, by, on or against you. All equipment, places of play, sustenance, transportation, etc. that are required for your enslavement will be paid for by you.

My purposes of the selfish, vanilla  variety, are to get in shape further my careers/hobbies,  better health and to have a comfortable, well-appointed home that is more self-sustaining. Other purposes, of course, are to feel the tingly goodness derived from being obeyed; general amusement at watching you squirm; and to entertain my friends with my little play toy.

Your main purpose should be to be pleasingly of use.

For those who are not local, who went ahead and read this, I shall let you know that I will not take pay pal or Amazon or anything like that, any more, as payment and I am completely uninterested in watching you on cam, unless it is to watch you perform chores which you have already paid me to see. Long distance people can really only provide financial service or servitude, because none of their cooking or cleaning is ever for me and sex is always for the one seeking it out, so is no kind of service at all.  So, yes, if you want to send me your money, I will let you. If you want to report to me or help in figuring out your schedule, I may be available for that, for pay. However, all payments will be sent by mail, to an address of a person who serves me by collecting same. You, not being local, will never know where I am, precisely or what my name is.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  Now, prove you did by telling me that purple trackers are dangerously low on orange oil, first thing. There's a good little s-type!

Dearest Idiots:

A woman who has all her own toys and has nothing better to do with her time than play with your cock and balls, and considers that to be the only service you need to submit yourself to on her behalf, is not a dominant human female - she is a really lame fantasy, in your own skull.

If you claim to be a slave, you will be tested. Part of that testing is to see if you are even going to show up and do something for me, ever. That will probably involve money, because, I sure as hell am not letting you fiddle with my electrical wiring or come straight to my home at all!

If you don't want to be utilized as a slave, don't claim to be one. If you don't want to come to Tucson or be tested as  a slave, do not write to me and tell me that you do. It's that simple.

And, yes, if you are going to ask me to do something specific for you, I will - if I even wish to consider it- ask you to do something very specific for me, in return.

I am a real human being, with a real job, real friends, real family and other real life concerns. I am not just something you can pop into the VCR and quickly beat off to, while dreaming about the kind of lifestyle you will never have.

Do understand: You will not be my friend or lover, you will not be a part of my day to day life more than is strictly necessary to serve me.  The limits you will have are only related to your survival, including not being arrested, hospitalized, divorced, getting kids taken away, or losing your job as a result of your activities.  There will be no guarantee of any activities that will be done or not done outside of absolute needs, which will be discussed before we begin.

Also understand that this is serious. I will not spend hours of time talking to you while you attempt to get me to tell you some sordid story of what I will do to you. There will be a brief discussion, quickly followed by a public meeting.

If necessary, a contract will be written between us.