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I am relatively new to real time BDSM. I am seeking to learn (and grow--we never stop!) with an amazing, patient woman. To be more specific, she should be intelligent, submissive, and a functional member of society, of whom no one would think she had this side. Certainly no one would imagine that I had a dominant side, or interest in BDSM. A bit about me: I am college-educated (and going back soon for more), a constructive member of society, able-bodied (I exercise frequently and wish that she would, too; it's fine if she's on the path to where she wants to be), inquisitive, and open-minded. I expect the same in my partner and will encourage her in anything she wishes to pursue. I am romantic and love contact, always want my partner to know where she stands with me (I ask for the same in her). I am the person in my pictures; they are in no way faked or the product of Photoshop. Ask away if you would like to know more.
No relationship is ever perfect, but with time and effort on both sides, it can be great. In our daily lives, I will support her to the nth degree, and I hope for the same. I want her to be employed in her dream field (or working towards it), as I already am. I will do whatever it takes for her happiness, and I demand the same. Communication is very important. I will always want to know what she thinks, even if she thinks it will offend or anger me. She should feel confident enough to share what's on her mind, even if it is negative, and know that we will talk things out to the best possible solution. In the end, she and I are a partnership built on trust and communication, with a level of deference by her. Let me reiterate that deference does NOT mean that she is ignored. By all means, challenge or question me on any point I have made here.
Ultimately, I want to move from online to face-to-face. Just as many of you are concerned about the person to whom they are conversing, so am I. An exchange of messages is a must before moving to IM (AIM, yahoo, MSN, gchat), and then to the phone. If we both feel comfortable during IMs (and I likely will when I give you my IM), I would like to meet in a pressure-free environment: coffee, a drink, dinner, meet up at a concert.
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