Rainsford

I'm not really sure why I'm bothering with this site. Has anyone else with tenure in the D/s scene experienced a tremendous lack of fortitude, commitment and experience amongst the subs (and Doms alike, frankly) posting away on here? I appreciate that BDSM means something very different to each person but, this appears to be a site where the very inexperienced post a profile, asking for more experience but never even read their emails, much less follow through on meeting anyone. 

Perhaps that's the nature of an online community: the cloak of anonymity gives the weak courage but, break the veil of anonymity and weak are...still weak. Don't confuse this with the notion that subs are weak. Rather, real subs are quite strong and courageous people who are, in their own way, standing up for what they believe in. That's really what draws me to the submissive: I appreciate their fortitude, candor and courage to be who they truly are. 

My face is hidden on this site because, either fortunately or unfortunately, I hold a position of some prominence in the community and privacy is not only of personal import but of professional import as well. That said, I am happy to disclose myself, my philosophy, experience, etc with anyone truly interested in this lifestyle.

Let's get real though: if you've never been whipped or restrained or told to dress a certain way or been a house slave to a Master or been gagged or been forced to service a stranger by your Dominant and superior lover then, either get with it or get of is about action and experience not thinking and fantasies. It won't kill you to act on your thoughts and urges for once in your life but, what will kill you very slowly and decisively is, closeting who you really are.