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Male Submissive, 18, Syracuse, New York
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About qbanita21
Hello there everyone!
In the interest of saving time I'll start with DEALBREAKERS:
~individuals who are currently married, about to file for a divorce, separated but living together, or otherwise committed.
~those looking for a one-night stand
~those wanting to "play" Dom simply by ordering me around and expecting me to play along because you think claiming the Dom "title" actually makes you Dominant. (You should go learn more about being a Dom if you truly think this is how it works.)
~Men under 27 or over 40 respectively, please do not take this personally, I'm only concerned that we will not connect on many levels, afterall, what would we even talk about? However, I'm a little more flexible on this, if you truly think you have something to offer, by all means, don't hesitate, I will reply, but if we can't hold a conversation, its not going to work.
~Literacy/ intelligence (I'm not referring to a formal education, although that doesn't hurt) , refer to last point, if we can't have a conversation, you will never be able to turn me on, I don't care how much experience you have in the life, how big your cock is or how many older women you have managed to have sex with, if you can't get in my head, you won't make it near my body.
~Note to all male subs: please place close attention to above trend about being able to hold a conversation, please do not message me if you have nothing interesting to say, I'm willing to play the Dom, but I don't want to play with mindless drones in any role.
About me:
~Single (no committed relationship/ children)
~Bi tendencies
~I am curvy, busty, and have hips
~I have piercings and tattoos
~I'm opinionated, independent, honest (to a fault),open, and sassy but easy to talk to
~I have pics that I can share with the right individuals
~Anything else you'd like to know? Please don't hesitate to ask.
Ideally looking for:
~SINGLE either Dom (m) or Switch (m/f)
~between the ages of about 29 and 39 - if you are younger than my baby brother or older than my dad, this isn't going to work on any level.
~mostly-normal, single, people with funny and/or interesting things to say.
~men that aren't unable to form any kind of lasting bonds (read more details below)
~I think to get more specific, ideally I'd like to get to know Daddy-type Doms(M) and subs (M) with personalities, at least its what I catch myself being drawn to for right now.
Things to keep in mind:
~I prefer to start with some on-line chatting, if/when I feel comfortable doing so, I will ask if you feel comfortable initiating contact by phone and we can progress from there. (Be forewarned: this will most likely not happen during our first chat, so please don't ask).
~I'd prefer chatting with real people and building a bunch of quality friendships (if nothing more) than to have an endless stream of pervs just trying to cyber and get off. I'm really not THAT desperate to get laid. I'm not even really looking to get laid. I believe any real D/s relationship does not solely revolve around sex, if this concept seems foreign to you, again don't bother wasting both of our time. And although there are times when cybering can be fun, there is an appropriate time/place for everything.
~I'm here because I'm curious about different fetishes and would really like to know more about, specifically, the power play between Dom/sub and how I can apply it to my own life. So if you don't mind me picking your brain a little while we exchange likes/ dislikes, do's/ don'ts, must haves and deal-breakers, please message me.
~I have labeled myself a "Switch" mainly because I do feel the need to exercise a certain amount of control in my daily life, and so the idea of being able to give in to someone else's control excites me. So although I know how to take control, I usually don't want to - but you should know this is generally only true when it comes to play-time. I'm not looking for someone to take over my whole life, just someone to take over my sex-life :::wink:::
~Addition: since originally writing this I have started to develop more of a Dom side during playtime as well, just fair warning, now it seems to just be mood dependent, or how I perceive another person. I can usually tell with in the first few minutes if that person is submissive to me or Dominant and will act accordingly as I see fit.
~Keep in mind that wanting to chat with Doms doesn't automatically make me a sub, I believe that this is something that has to be built over time on a strong foundation of RESPECT, TRUST, and LOYALTY (I know these are pretty foreign concepts), just like any other type of relationship nowadays. I think this type of relationship/ arrangement is more complex than people give it credit for. And at this point it may be more fair to say that I am looking for a man more Dominant than myself, does that make sense? Having said that, if the connection is not there, I will be unable to submit. I need to know that the person I give control to can be trusted to treat that submission with a little dignity.
~Feeling the need to clarify - Please, please, please...if your married or otherwise totally emotionally unavailable (ie "about to file for divorce" or "separated but still living together") , please don't bother to contact me. What I'm looking for includes an opportunity to grow and learn from eachother (regardless of how long you've been in the life) I don't believe that is even a remote possibility if you are otherwise involved. I'm not necessarily looking for exclusivity at this point, so I don't mind sharing, so long as we are all playing together for fun (example: swinging couples or having several other play partners, I'm ok with), but I won't be the "other woman" because your other commitments, whatever they may be, aren't up to par. And PLEASE don't claim to have "an open relationship", and that she knows and understands all about the needs you have to fulfill (gag). I have no time or desire to be involved in any "baby momma drama" and I'm not necessarily looking for my husband, I'm just not looking for anyone else's husband either. If you expect me to be able to dedicate time to building anything remotely intense between us, I expect you to do the same, and that won't be possible if you have a family to get home to. Not only that, but I am very family oriented myself, and could never be the cause for distress in someone else's.
~Also, as most of us, I have a real life outside of this site, so please don't be offended if I don't reply to your messages right away, keep in mind that generally I'm on here during my down time and (eventually) I will be back.
In closing, I can't promise I'll be easy, but I can promise (if its right) it will be pleasurable, and isn't that why we are all here? To try and push our boundaries, see how far we are each willing to go? And in the end, just to find what makes us feel AMAZING. That's the kind of experience I'm looking for, let me know if you think you can help with my challenging situation...
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