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Male Dominant, 53, New Orleans, Louisiana
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Female Submissive, 24, New York
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Female Switch, 18, Wilkesbarre, Pennsylvania
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About preternaturalOne
Searching, searching - so many searching but for what? Aah, mostly fairy tale fantasies akin to those of your pubescence of knights on white steeds or of tall handsome strangers who, upon seeing you, are captivated and whisk you off to a carefree life of bounty and pleasure. Yet, when the reality of the real world slaps you in the face you become confused, frustrated, and even bitter that the world doesn't conform to your fantasies and expectations. Through the mechanism of Projection you're certain the problem is others so you remain unaware that the problem may have something to do with you and your expectations - a very difficult pill and reality to swallow yet one worth considering if you're sincere in finding that one elusive Dom.
Well, you may ask, what is reality. Reality on this site is that many men are just like some of you - pursuing a fantasy. Many haven't the vaguest concept of what a D/s or M/s relationship is other than what they may have read on a website; some are misogynists; some are dangerous, and some truly disturbed. Even so, there are authentic Doms among the charletons, wannabees, misogynists, and psychotics. I know this because I am one of these authentic ones just as, perhaps, you are also one of the exceptional few.
I respect those who are searching for something different than I am as long as you're upfront about it. I'm actively looking for a monogmous Lt, D/s or M/s relationship based on compatible interests and goals. Thus, I'm not interested in those who're looking for a hookup or play or a sugar daddy. I'm not interested in those who earn a living through BDSM activities. Neither am I interested in those of you who are angry & bitter, who post multiple rants, and who describe themselves as sluts, pigs, whores, brats, etc are although I really do understand your frustration.
Who am I searching for? Regardless of what you ladies may have heard, most men really do value personality traits. I appreciate and need native intelligence - someone who reads, converses, has divergent interests. Basically, someone who needs to love and to be loved in more than just in a physical sense. Relative to D/s and BDSM, I'm looking for someone who not only desires but NEEDS structure and order in your life. Someone who NEEDS to be relieved of the stress of making those everyday decisions; someone who NEEDS to be appreciated and valued; someone who WANTS to be held responsible for her actions and desires correction and consequences when you are less than you're capable of being.
I suspect it's an exercise in futility yet I continue to believe (sigh) that there's at least one single woman in the universe who has at least a basic education, who has some knowledge about the arts, who loves music other than country, who has myriad interests, who has at least one marketable skill, who's also seeking a monogamous, intimate relationship that includes at least some aspects of BDSM. Perhaps you really do exist but you're also choosing to remain elusive.
Me? You ladies complain that so many men aren't trueful but men sometimes lie because they intuitively know you're looking for fantasy so don't want to deal with reality and truth if profile descriptions don't meet your order form criteria. The truth is that I recently retired from a professional career. I'm healthy and fit. The truth is that I'm fully functional without viagra yet not with 100% reliability and any man over 30 who claims otherwise just isn't being candid. I'm soft spoken, rarely angry, laid-back, caring, and respectful but also organized and authoritarian. I laugh easily. I once was married for 21 years but have been single for many years with several meaningful D/s relationship since. My ultimate goal is a committed M/s, TPE relationship. I'm more than receptive to sharing my home and resources with a significant other. As a realist, I'm primarily interested in ladies from middle age and upward.
Although I know all the BDSM jargon, I don't have the need to refer to cliches or deal with the silliness of capitals & lower case letters. I don't have a dungeon nor the desire for one. I'm not into munches since I view personal relationships as intensely intimate and private; sharing and gang-bangs aren't my idea of intimacy although I know others may have a different preference.
The reality is that no one lives around the corner from me which is why I'm on this site aware that you probably live some distance away. That's not a major obstacle initially although the ability to relocate would be a necessity were the relationship to develop. I'm willing and in a position to eventually assist with relocation expenses.
A final thought for now from my childhood - an old hymn which could be the official anthem for us D/s or M/s folk:
"Have thine own way Lord, have thine own way
Thou art the potter, I am the clay
Mold me and make me after thy will
While I am waiting, yielding and still"
A response and photos will follow every sincere, cogent message. |
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