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	UPDATE - My level of mail is such it causes me anxiety at the mere thought of even trying to send polite replies to everyone... I hate to mislead and divide my attention when at present i am communicating with a Dominant who interests me beyond the usual so i hope all those who i may have spoken to (or not) will read understand and respect my decision to keep my focus in one place. Apologies if i have not been able to reply personally and i wish you all well. This means i will not be opening or responding to any mail for the forseable future unless from females seeking friendship (few males truely seek this alone). To save time currently i feel it better to say what i am not seeking rather than what i am - This will enable any prospective Dominants to see if i am suitable for their needs. Not seeking a female Dominant despite the fact my profile states i am bisexual. Sorry ladies its an entirely different dynamic i feel with a woman. I am more than happy to make platonic friendships with other females what ever your persuasion though. Not seeking an online relationship or Domination so if you are in another country communication will be rather fruitless. Please note this does not mean i will meet you tommorrow or the next day, what's the rush?! Pushy does not equate with Dominance and will soon have me running in the other direction if i barely know you. Not looking for married/partnered men or those who already have a primary sub. Whilst i would have no objection to sharing on occasion if it were 'my Masters' desire i would expect to be the primary sub myself and not part of a poly or stable. Whilst i like 'fun' as much as the next person if you write to me and ask me if i am up for some fun with you i will assume you are just after 'kinky' sex and not a serious Dominant. If i was wired that way i would already be seeking that locally without the need for sites like this. I feel it unwise to accept any friend requests from male Dominants unless i am assured they truely want to be a platonic friend. Ultimately for most i am a potential sub and may thus be deleted as a friend if nothing transpires. As that is not what friendship is there seems no logic to me in accepting invitations. I hope you understand it is nothing personal if i do not accept. Thank you for reading, more to follow shortly. (Journal entries may reveal more for those who really like to read).

11/8/2012 11:10:32 PM

More musings...

I will give 100 percent to the right Dominant but i want to be entering into a Ds relationship with my eyes wide open to all of the possibilities.Therefore it is important for me to know what aspects of Ds a potential Dominant may be into. Otherwise i may find myself in a rather difficult position at a later date where i may have to comprimise my values way beyond my comfort zone or worse still fail my Dominant.

I see it as my duty to see all my Dominants needs are met but i need to know what they are...
If you are not confident enough from the onset to speak out about your desires and expectatons without fear of judgement and instead insist on me divulging all of my fantasies first to see if i might touch upon any of yours then i doubt you will be the right Dominant for me. Please don't pussyfoot around what you want to say i am not easily offended and admire one who seeks out all of his needs and desires even if i feel i cannot meet them personally.

I want to feel safe in the knowledge that my Dominant knows what he is doing not just from the point of my physical well being but my emotional one too. I am not afraid to speak up convey any fears and hesitations to my Dominant and i do so knowing that a good Dominant will listen and respect my feelings and my fears weighing up what he has me do for him at any given time. I want to know he cares about me and values everything i have to offer, going that extra mile for him will then prove much easier. Ultimately his decision is final which is why i must enter into a Ds relationship wisely.

11/8/2012 3:17:04 PM

I have been asked on a number of occasions why strap on is in my list of loves if i am submissive. When i question as to the reason it should not be the two responses arise...that is is reserved for Dommes and their submissive males...even worse that its a gay thing!

Sorry but in my opinion that is rubbish, since when was a submissives or gay mans arse and more importantly his gspot/prostate made any differently to any other mans whether Dom, Vanilla or whatever else? The level of ignorance would be laughable were it not so insulting.

Pleasure spots are pleasure spots and surely it is how that pleasure is administered or manifests between two people whatever their persuasion. For example oral...Domme grips hold of subs cock and sucks the life out of it for her pleasure OR Dom grips his subs hair and forces his cock down her throat, same pleasure!

I happen to know the full joys of a mans prostate whether it be using my tongue, fingers toys or a strap on, it is up to my future Dom to decide what pleasures he wants me to give him in that department and whatever i will love it.