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Female Switch, 52, Lincoln Park, Michigan
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Male Submissive, 42, wilkes-barre, Pennsylvania
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Dominant Couple, 34, Mill Valley, California
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About pleaserve
I am seeking fulfillment as the perfect complement to a woman who delights in her wickedly wild dominant streak and, with a smirk on her face, expects her indulgences to be my duties. Ideally, this mutually enjoyed D/s element will be only one component of our relationship, which will be based on love, mutual respect and compassion, unquestioned trust, numerous shared interests and values, and a desire both to commit fully to each other and to live together.
I am a kind, compassionate, gentle and loving man with a keen need to please to an extent that in the "straight world" would be considered definitely servile. The one thing I cannot handle is being yelled at and/or verbally abused, so I am a poor match for a woman with a quick temper and a "sharp tongue" or who relishes her cruelty. Conversely, I am soft-spoken, supportive, strong and energetic, very responsible, exceptionally moral and continually considerate. In essence, I have the potential to be a wonderful companion and life partner. For more than a decade, as a very attentive husband, I was in a marriage in which D/s was an essential element. Now widowed, I seek a new long-term relationship that also has a definite D/s aspect to it. I am not trying to duplicate my prior marriage; I am visualizing this as an exciting new period of my life full of adventures of all sorts with a truly terrific woman.
I have indicated a number of interests in the various checklists associated with my profile, both within and beyond the D/s domain. Let me add that I will pursue them with gusto with a woman I will have come to love.
Because I am well-known in certain financial circles, I have not attached my photo to my profile. However, one will be provided once requested.
From my perspective, distance is not a disqualifying impediment. I have accumulated more than 5 million "frequent flier" miles, mainly due to my previously extensive business travel.
If what I have written is appealing to you, please do not hesitate to contact me.
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Fear can sow confusion. For me, there is fear of both making a mistake in establishing a committed relationship and hurting the woman with whom I am moving towards that possibility. Life requires compromises, but no indications are posted from "on high" as to which to make and upon which to hold firm.
I am finding that I crave softness and tenderness in another. Does that conflict with her being dominant? I don't know, and I am unsure how to find out. Externally, I am accomplished; internally, right now, I feel as does, I think, the young boy at the end of the novel War and Remembrance. This is a challenging place to be, and I seek someone not to rescue me, but to lead me out of it. |
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Today, I am writing about two thoughts that correspondence here on Collarme.com induces.
The first is that I love women. I think that, generally, they are wonderful, and I wish that every woman alive could feel happy most of the time. I find the women here on Collarme.com, whether dominant or switch, to be extraordinarily interesting, and I wish I could know more about them, their motivations, what is important to them, how they came to "list" themselves on this site, what their joys are, what their fears are.
I get concerned, though, about the anger towards men that some women express, and I wonder what happened to them that caused them to develop such anger -- and, sometimes, hatred. More though, however, I wonder whether there might be some way that this anger could be defused. I am a romantic; I think the willingness to receive unconditional love is the answer, but that means the woman has to be willing to risk the consequences to the vulnerability of opening her heart. This is a dilemma I am thankful I do not have to face for myself, and my heart goes out to women who do.
The second is a bit of a peeve, and I do not known an easy way to resolving my complaint given the current structure of Collarme.com. From what I can gather, many women on this site are literally deluged with emails -- sometimes hundreds in the course of week. Responding to all of them would be a task that I know I certainly would not want to perform! However, I wish -- selfishly -- I could get at least some sort of response in a reasonable period of time. What is hard for me to bear is to have spent sometimes an hour or more carefully drafting an introductory email, to observe that it has been opened, and to never receive any sort of reply whatsoever. I wish that Collarme.com had some system whereby there were some automatic replies available such as "Interesting. I'll get back to you when I can." and "Not interested. Good bye and good luck." Silence is like purgatory.
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Last year, my wife suddenly died. I now accept the certainty of that tragedy, but I suspect that I shall never accept its random unfairness. And yet life does goes on. For five years, I wore a Cartier Love [for us, a slave] bracelet on my right wrist and my late wife wore the companion unlocking device on a chain around her neck. This was our way of keeping our true relationship publicly omnipresent, even if it was not recognized in that way by most people. On New Year's Day, I conducted a personal and private [to me only] candlelit ceremony in which I removed the bracelet. Emotionally, it was truly heart-breaking, for it meant a very symbolic end to an important way in which I defined myself (and she defined me). I know that I cannot just put it back on as much as part of me would like to. While now it is only a wonderful memory, I am hopeful that some day I shall again be wearing it, with a wonderful woman keeping the companion screwdriver around her neck. I am a little afraid of the future. I don't want to be alone or in just a conventional/vanilla relationship. I am trying to alter my "status", but ultimately that is something that will be determined by the woman to whom I am tremendously appealing and for whom that feeling is reciprocated. |
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