First and foremost i think a D/s relationship is built on trust, respect and complete honesty with open communication between the parties.
i'm into monogamy, i'm not into multiple partners and i'd prefer my Dominant to be single and committed to me and only me (this includes the delusional man that thinks vanilla and D/s are separate worlds).
If i can't trust the Man i'm with, how can i submit my being to him? How can i trust him not to hurt me and to honor my safeword and my feelings?
i also do not think that a D/s relationship is bases entirely on sexual relations. To me, sex is an added bonus, an afterthought if you will. i was asked today if that were the case why are there so many sexual pics depicting D/s on the net? And then i thought, most of the pics i see on the profiles of my friends (here and other sites) are of their experiences in the dungeons or playspaces that they are at or have been in. Not as many are of sex. i don't understand how a relationship based on sex can be fulfilling and satisfying and last very long. i need more than a sexual connection with the man in my life; i need a bond, a commitment.
When i partner, i partner and give my all to that person.
Am i wrong in feeling this way? Is D/s really all about sex and nothing else? Can D/s happen without trust, honesty and respect?
i'm so damn confused lately. |