Collarspace

I am an intelligent, aggressive and successful male. I carry myself with confidence and assurance and I am not afraid to go after what I believe in. Dominance is not a game for me or just a part of a scene. It is a part of who I am. This Dominance extends into all parts of my life I am Dominant at work and in play. I enjoy having power over other people given to me. In life I make decisions that will effect people for the rest of their lives. I enjoy my job. I am however only seeking one Sub. I do not share well and do not expect you to either.I am firm, yet gentle. I acknowledge that a submissive has made the ultimate sacrifice by giving herself fully and completely to me. I will never misuse or abuse that trust. A good Dom is protector, teacher, and lover to his sub. I care about your well-being. If punishment is required to stop a destructive action, then I will administer it, however, when correct action has been noted, I am swift to reward as well.I strongly believe that the sub serves and the Dom receives, but that does not mean that my sub has no sense of self or self-worth. I expressly do NOT want a doormat! I want a woman with a strong sense of her value to me. She is my companion, my student and my lover. She is submissive to me not out of fear or retribution but because she is happiest when giving me pleasure. She must be willing to open herself to me mind, body and soul. Communication between us is crucial. We are just two separate parts of a single whole. This is the woman that I will cherish above all others.That being said I also require a woman to have her own goals and aspirations outside of our relationship. Serving me is all well and good but it really doesnt make for good dinner conversations. So honey what did you do to serve me today. I want you to have an outside life that is successful and fulfilling. This will make your gift to me so much more valuable. Your success outside the home will be a source of pride and inspiration to me. Plus knowing that a successful woman submits to my will is such a turn on.Let me elaborate on my views on the relationship between a Dom and Sub. A Sub is not a slave, nor is a Dom a master in the classical sense. A Dom is in this case a man that undertakes to control and nurture his Sub how this is pered depends on the Subs needs. The most important thing a Dom must do is understand his Sub. I want and need to know everything about you so that I may reward and punish you appropriately. But never is the Sub a slave nor does she give up even an iota of her rights as a human being. Quite simply a Sub likes to be controlled and the Dom likes to control. What does this mean in real life?For me at least it means that you will treat me like I am the head of our household. Never will you compromise your beliefs or allow me to run roughshod over you. In our relationship I have the final decision on what we do and were we go you are expected to comment, advise, and accept. I am expected to listen to you, consider your advice, protect you, make the decisions, and be wise in what decisions I make.As an example consider the typical fiftys and sixtys family sitcom. The husband may not always be right but the wife did accept his judgment. But she never gave up trying to change his mind if he made the wrong choice. Nor was he too stubborn to admit that he was in fact wrong. This is what I want our relationship to be. I hope that our eventual sex life will have nothing fiftys vanilla about it though. (Smile!) The Dom firmly in control with the Sub acknowledging and accepting this control but always taking care of what is important. Not that disobedience cant be fun it is after all it is a Doms duty to guide and correct the Sub.