When I contemplate the journey that brought me here I feel a combination of lucky, amazed, thankful and humbled.

I believe everything in the world happens for a reason. There are no accidents. People enter and exit your life at exactly the right moments. My kink journey is no different. There was a time when I needed to understand why I’m “built” this way. At exactly the right moment the universe provided someone to help me get to the next level!

To this day I look back with fond memories at the times spent with her – both the “play” sessions and simple conversations. One can never underestimate the stimulation of good conversation!

Since then there have been others who have entered and exited the story… each playing there part. Most recently there was a LTR. However recently we have parted ways. Although I’m extremely saddened by this turn of events I’m confident it’s for the best.

She’s significant in my “kink” story because, due to her lack of experience, but very open mind and enthusiastic nature I found myself topping (normally I tend to lean towards being a bottom/sub). The experience opened my eyes. Now I understand the preparation tops go through to give there subs the experience they desire.

Enough of this back-story… let’s get to the point!

About Me

Creative: I’m both an actor and musician. I generally perform in 3-4 plays a year. I started out doing mostly musical theatre, however in recent years I found myself doing more straight plays. When I’m not in a show I also do an occasional open mic night. I sing & play guitar.

Privacy: You’ll notice there are no pictures here that reveal my face. This is due to several reasons: professional day job, I have a 9 years old daughter that lives with my ex, I’m very active in many non-kink social groups (acting, music, sports). While I’ve learned to accept my sexuality I’m afraid society as a whole has not. This is a sad & disappointing fact of life. However I’ll be more than happy to share a few photos with you.... Just ask! I hope you understand! :-)

What I’m looking for: As previously stated in the past I’ve had many “play dates”. While these were fun and fulfilling, I’ve often longed to experience a deeper level of submission. In all honestly I’m not 100% sure what that means. This world is every changing after all. I do, however, invasion developing a long term D/s relationship.

I would also be very willing to travel an hour or so if the situation is right. The most important part is finding a connection, a little drive is simply a minor inconvenience!

Why Kink: After all these years I still wish I knew! Why are each of us built the way we are? Variety is the spice of life! All I know is when it’s working there is a connection between the Top/bottom like nothing I've ever experienced before. It has nothing to do with sex… while that can be a part of it, depending on your partner…. It can be so much more. It has everything with giving up control, letting go, trust, facing your deepest darkest fears, pushing limits, pleasing…. There’s a fascinating dance that happens between a Top/bottom. It’s a dance that’s so enticing it must be explored!