Spending a  lot  more time  at my home  in Santa Barbara this  winter

I am a Sadist. Not one who plays a sadist on Tv, a real life full on Sadist. I get sexual pleasure from the  inflictiction of pain or degradation of others. Now this does not mean that I am brutal. I love the sensuality of my work, I appreciate to submission of my partner, I love the trust that develops as we learn each others mental limits. I am not body morphic, just be healthy. I have never been married as I was not into having children and it would not be fair to keep one from her greatest desire and need, though I have had long term relationships, some Master/sub, one very long Master/slave (this one ended sadly) all encompassing some part of Master, Owner, Daddy and were richly rewarding.

I live a comfortable lifestyle, am well read, educated, tolerant of all but stupidity demanding but fair, can be extreme and tender and looking for the one.