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Male Dominant, 37, Hudson, Massachusetts
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Male Dominant, 48
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Male Submissive, 40, peabody, Massachusetts
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About paulbuckles2
Here mainly for chats, friendship and to see if I meet anyone interesting :)
"Tie me up and spank me " has its place and can be fun :) but shouldn't be confused with a real exploration of yourself - life is a much better place to be when you really understand yourself and self-awareness comes through challenges and overcoming them. For some this comes through life changing experiences and others through a more subtle period of growth. Through a childhood disease that left me at deaths door and in hospital for a year I learnt a lot about myself then and in the years that followed. As part of the process of rediscovering myself I came to refuse peoples preconceptions and liked to astound them. I also worked out that society had a lot of "rules" based on Christian norms and mores that were just plain stupid - life was to short and precious to give up on desires just because of some silly attitudes.
Do I need to be a dom/ master? Really don't know - I registered on Fetlife and here but struggled to know how to describe myself - not complete yet, Dom, Daddy are maybe closest. As always I'm still learning. I love intelligence and really enjoy this in a woman and i like independent thinkers who push at society. So whats my motivation? I like to explore and help others do so. But I also like a woman who has a sub nature, likes to be controlled and wants to explore herself using this a conduit but can still think for herself and won't take crap of a bloke - I hope that makes sense to at least one other person out there :)
I read this and fully approved of what was being said .. so I ripped it off :)
It takes more than capping your name. Carrying a flogger and calling yourself Master. To make you a Dominant
People have asked Me for My thoughts on some aspects of BDSM. So with that being said I am going to start using this to let you know My beliefs. Now I know that there are those amongst you who will disagree with Me. and probably say that I am talking out of My ass, but like I said. I was asked for My thoughts and My opinions. So here goes:-
The word Master is something very special in a BDSM relationship. It is not something that should be tossed about “willy nilly”. In My humble opinion a Dominant should not be called Master until He has earned the right. There is nothing more special as when a submissive kneels before You for the first time and calls You Master. That is when A Dominant should first hear that word. When the submissive picks Him to be her Master. And yes I said when she picks Him…
One thing that has really pissed Me off as of late are those “Dominants” who come online , wether it be into chat rooms or any where else. ” I am Master such and such . you WILL bow down to ME!” Something like that will get a 3 word reply from Me and from a lot of others . Even if they wont say it out loud, and that reply usually is “go fuck yourself”.. If You have to demand that a girl bows before you . You My friend are no Dominant and never will be.
Personally I have never told or asked a girl to call Me that. At the start of any relationship I insist that they do not call Me that unless THEY think I deserve the honor, and only then if they are 100% sure.
What some Dominants do not seem to understand that a BDSM relationship is a 2 way street. Perhaps even more so than a “nilla” relationship. Always remember that a submissive is still a human underneath. With a humans wants/needs/desires… she needs to submit to You. But even more so she needs to feel and be loved.. If you are not willing to open Your heart to her. To fully encompass her with love.. Then walk away. She deserves a lot more than what You can give her. Your submissive is giving you so much more that just her body. She is giving You her soul, and all the love she has. Cherish it, let it grow, grow with it.
As she learns with you … Open Your mind and learn with her.. Walk beside her… Keep her safe…. Be strong for her…. Protect her….. LOVE HER
for fun:
I’m a big movie fan and prefer fast action or funny films, got far to many DVDs, I like most kinds of music, love eating out, drinking wine, and long lazy duvet snuggles
my job:
Great job in Business Development linked to helping people with disabilities – fits with my values, means I’m very happy in it, successful and work from home – so very mobile.
favourite hot spots:
I like wandering around shops, coffee and cake, pub lunches, holidays and the sofa. I like eating out and strolls on the beach (when its warm ), i enjoy live music and occasionally clubs to do the bloke shuffle :) i love travelling and been loads of places inc Malawi, Kenya, Oman, Thailand, Brazil, Guatemala, Philippines, Australia, Bali, Greek Islands, Gozo, Vietnam, France, Cambodia, Turkey etc – still got places to go and things I’d love to do!
favourite things:
Food, Cake, Chocolate , Women in corsets, anal hook, British Humour, Hitachi Magic Wand, Silliness, Intelligence, Internet, Mp3s, Free Porn, wine, Jack Daniels, Gadgets, Water, Big seat on airplanes, pay day
last read:
Love reading – focused on Roman empire and Ancient Greece a the moment – those Spartens were quite something currently wading through the game of thrones epics!
oh and i like intelligent women who love being in a submissive role |
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