palegoat

Female Submissive, 42, Orange County, California

Male Submissive, 21, fort wayne, Indiana

Male Submissive, 22, albuquerque, New Mexico

You may have what you want of me if only you have the confidence to take it.

Surrender isn't a sacrifice of dignity or respectability. It isn't about humiliation or manipulation. Surrender is to release yourself from ego, from control. It is about liberation of the soul.

You cannot master me until you have mastered yourself.

I don't think what I want is abnormal. I'm not interested in labels, being a part of any "scenes" or creating separation by asserting I live an "alternative lifestyle". I'm not identified by this aspect of what I want, but it is a part of me. just a part. I don't want a man who has to act out a part to satisfy his needs. I want a man who is confident and competent who is comfortable taking control when it's called for. I don't want a man who wants to take power from others, I want a man who is powerful. I want a man who accepts my surrender not in triumph, but in gratitude and appreciation.

I wonder what it's like to have no ego? To be taken to a place where there is no pride, no shame, only experiencing what is felt exactly in that moment. Free of conscience, free of humanity, free of self!

Polyamorous relationships aren't for me. I like to focus all my attention on one very special person, and I'm not interested in competition. When I belong to someone, I *belong* to them, and I would hope I satisfied his needs enough that he had no interest in looking elsewhere.

I've been feeling so restless.. There is so much in this world I want to experience! I feel I've missed so much, locked in this cage of self-imposed restrictions and inhibitions..

I feel I am trapped by rigid social (and other sorts of) rules and expectations... limitations. I feel I've been conforming for so long I'll be in a struggle all my life just to be me. I wish there were some kind of guide to show me how to break down my self-imposed barriers.

Serving him gives me a kind of fulfillment I could never get serving only myself. To be valued by him gives my life a greater amount of meaning. Sure, I have value, but that in and of itself is simply a normal state of being. To belong to him, and for him to appreciate the value in me and to treasure keeping my value for his own transcends that state of being. I'm not just special for me, I'm special for US.

I'm told I am supposed to be a strong, independent woman; able to make good choices, beholden to no one. I am supposed to be "my own woman", and to do as I please, as I see fit: free. And, that's just fine. I can do those things, be that woman. I AM that woman. But what I want is greater than that. I can be those things for me, but that's not good enough for me. I want to be those things for my man. To be the best woman I can be - for him - gives me a kind of fulfillment I can never give myself. Yes, I can be brilliant and clever and beautiful and what have you, but none of those things on their own give me the kind of fulfillment as being those things for something more than just myself.

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