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My prior profile for the curious:
Makes kitty purr:
Trust:
This is key, without it nothing else progresses.
Intelligence:
Also key, if you act like a fucking moron I'm not going to trust you with my well-being. If I did, that would make me a moron too.
Commonalities:
Someone who's thoughts I can respect and understand. It just makes sense to be able to understand and respect the perspective of one that is to be obeyed.
Kink:
I couldn't find scat on that list on the side, if I had it would be down under hard limits somewhere between knife play and stupidity.
Caring:
Vital.
LTR:
This stands for long term relationship.
Open spaces:
I like nature in general, its about life and the beauty in it.
Sharing:
This refers to life, to thoughts, to emotions, and its a two way street.
A mix of intense and comfortable: This refers to kink and downtime. I like intense, I like to be pushed. I also like nice sweet vanilla moments, and for some of the psychological aspects of the Ds relationship to go past the bedroom.
Understanding:
If you don't understand me or if you can't handle when I'm having a bad time then it will fall apart.
Cuddling:
:)
Aftercare:
This is vital too.
Controlled:
Makes kitty feel safe, secure, happy, owned, and cared for. Note: it may also make me look at you like you're a fucking asshole. If you are looking for an easy sub you are on the wrong page. Maybe that one requires repeating...if you are looking for an easy sub you are on the wrong page.
A strong dominant:
I am loyal and I have slave tendencies but they do not surface immediately or under an uncertain, innately insecure, dishonest, or simple hand. I blossom under the right hand, and turn prickly under the wrong one. I can grow with someone, build strength together, but only if they're honest with me. False strength covering up insecurity sends me the wrong signals. Someone that shows no weakness at all is likely a liar.
Owned:
Nice when other qualifications are met.
Moulded:
Its nice to be formed into what another needs.
Guided:
Its also nice to be pushed to grow in what I already am.
Being tamed:
You've read this far. It's a bit obvious that I have sharp pointy edges that the right hands can smooth. All others will come away with bandages.
Laughter:
Why be serious all of the time?
Respect:
Another one of those vital two way streets.
Safe sane dominant men:
Safe means will not do lasting harm, will not risk attempting things that may do permanent damage, and being intelligent enough to understand the human body and mind enough that you don't need constant reminding of what that might be. Sane: this is actually hard to define, but is the foundation on which safe is built.
Pleasing:
I like serving to please, its not so much about my kinks (although sometimes it is) but more about what makes my dominant happy.
Feet to curl up at:
:)
Being allowed to take naps in the sun:
:)
Makes kitty hiss:
Already married people:
If there's something missing in your relationship work on it or get a divorce. I can't be your band-aid.
Bruisable egos:
If you're going to be defensive and hurt because my opinion may differ from yours or I fight back on occasion then we won't get along.
Angry people:
BDSM isn't abuse to me, please don't fuck that up.
Cybering:
I really do not get "oh baby yes control me from 3000 miles away", its empty, sad and lonely. Please respect this one. It's the one most frequently ignored by people that respond to my profile. I am not interested in a relationship with someone so far away that all there can be is cyber. I am real, with all the realities that come with such, and I need actual human contact.
Smoke:
Not a fan of cigarettes or smog.
Loss of blood flow:
I do not now, nor do I ever, want purple tits. Thank you very much.
Switches:
If I push back the last thing I want is for someone to role over. No switches!
Users:
A loose definition of a user: someone that only cares about themself, someone that thinks a sub is a great way to get the house clean, the bills paid and their rocks off without having to do any work themself.
Women:
I'm not a lesbian, not even a little.
Potential mates under 35:
How can I be guided by someone that still needs so much guidance?
Processed foods:
Not my thing.
Expected obedience/submission when trust has not been earned:
Biggest turn off in the world. I am not instant sub, just add water.
Disclaimer:
I'm not actually a kitty. I'm probably somewhere between slave, brat, and broken doll. That might depend on whom I'm responding to. If I purr you're damn good ;-)
PS. It's amazing that after supposedly reading all of the previous that men still get offended if I show the slightest bit of spine or preference. I don't have to bow to you just because you are the first one to come along and claim to be dominant. Why would you even want someone that's willing to kneel to the first thing and/or every single person that comes along? How would that make you or I of any value?
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