nycolleen

I'm still exploring what I want in a D/S relationship. I started out wanting a ''service only" D/S relationship and a vanilla "dating" relationship, then began considering merging the two. I'm not as kinky as many of the dommes on this site; I don't enjoy humiliating or hurting people - I'm a rather gentle and playful domme woman.

I'm really not into humiliation or causing pain. I'm more into being in control - making the choices and having my partner eagerly agree to go along to please me. This may not be that different than vanilla relationships, except that I like to be "in-control" more. I do own a paddle and enjoy spanking, have silk scarves for light bondage and really like to tease (orgasm control).

My interest in being in control isn't limited to the sexual arena. I like to be with men that are VERY interested in pleasing / accommodating me in non-sexual ways too (watching my TV shows, accompanying me to movies / plays that I choose, letting me choose restaurants, etc.) In vanilla relationships, my friends and dates have frequently complimented me on my choices of restaurants, films, plays, other activities. One boyfriend called me "an excellent social director". I'm genuinely concerned about my friends preferences and needs and won't try to change their preferences, but I won't go along with things I don't like either.

I desire to have a submissive, VERY intelligent man, entertain me with interesting, colorful conversation, when we’re together. Think you're up for that?

I'm gotten clearer that I'm only interested in an erotic (physical) relationship with someone I'm dating and emotionally involved with. It can take several meetings before I decide to be erotic with a new sub.

I'm open to a service sub who doesn't need to be beaten and humiliated. I can take-charge and even be bitchy at times, but don't want to be a person that I wouldn't like to be friends with.