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Mature 43 y.o. dom, experienced, assertive, responsible, caring, at times sadistic, into a range of activities including discipline, functional bondage (i.e. for a specific purpose or objective), humiliation, some w/s (see humiliation), torture (including anal and genital torture), orgasm control, “forced” sex and captivity/hostage situations. I'm primarily interested in men, but also interested in exploring D/s with a M/F couple where both are sub. Experience ranges from very mild to severe - the intensity of an activity is less important to me than the effect it has on the sub. At the core I enjoy being in control and, in particular, being trusted to be in control. I care about the people I engage with and have been referred to as a "deep thinker" in that I probably like to consider activities beyond what appears to be taking place on the surface. I am relatively flexible, in that I welcome ideas and suggestions, but once the collar goes on (figuratively speaking) I call the shots.
Limits, as far as I'm concerned, fall into two categories - soft (those which can be played with and expanded over time) and hard (which stand as they are and are not negotiable without an explicit decision from the sub). I have a very stable set of fundamental rules I expect my sub/s to adhere to. Rules are *not* made to be broken; I have a strict punishment policy around enforcing them and whilst other activities are intended to be pleasurable (for you, me or both), punishment is solely for the purpose of behavioural modification, i.e. ensuring you will learn to obey my rules. You will need to understand and agree to my punishment policy before any submission/servitude takes place. I provide two "safe" phrases for my subs to use with strict limits around the use of one of these. I also maintain a very firm “hurt, don’t harm” policy.
Whilst I have a pretty good sense of humour, I take what I do quite seriously and I have been complemented on the quality of the subs I have trained who have gone on to serve others, as well as receiving very positive feedback from the subs themselves.
Genuine, worthwhile subs (in my opinion) display the following four personal attributes: honesty, respect, aptitude and obedience. Honesty and respect need to be offered on both sides for trust to be earned (why trust doesn’t appear in this list). Although being physically attracted is always a plus, the above attributes carry far more weight with me than physical appearance and I will choose a sub/s who possess what I consider the “right” attitude over those who don’t. The sub/s I seek will also be non-violent and have reasonably good self-esteem without being arrogant. If you believe you possess these qualities, are genuine and desire to be trained to serve me the way I wish to be served, I encourage you to respond.
I consider myself naturally masculine, don’t feel any strong compulsion to wear leather (although I have and do on occasion) or other paraphernalia and have no qualms dominating a man larger than me while wearing old boots, a pair of stubbies and a singlet – clothes don’t make the man, I guess you could say. I also believe the genuine sub/subs I’m seeking, whether novice or experienced, won’t have an issue with that.
I have generally found (through experience) that male subs I “click” with are most commonly those who identify as “straight” or “hetero” or who are otherwise fairly conservative and “non-scene”. I consider men who do not desire sexual contact with other men, but who will tolerate it as part of their submission, to be quite optimal for me. Not an issue of conquest; rather that your desire to serve and to be dominated by another man outweighs your fears about how I may choose to do so. I have and will continue to engage in non-sexual scenes provided that is expressed as a hard limit. Generally though, by submitting and accepting that I own you for a period of time, you should understand that sexual contact may constitute part my domination of your body and your mental submission and training while providing an added element of sexual contact as reward, punishment or as a purely humiliatory act. I also prefer to "connect" with my sub/s in some way and there has to be mutual pleasure on some level, or at the very least a mutual objective, for a connection to exist and flourish.
Clean and tight are two physical characteristics I desire in a sub; I consider these diametrically opposed to scat and fisting. With due respect to those who are interested in those activities, if you have done or are into scat I don’t want to know about it and, since I consider fisting destructive, I’m not interested in taking ownership of what I consider damaged goods.
If the above interests and appeals to you and you are 1) genuine and 2) believe you possess the attributes I’ve described above, I look forward to hearing from you.
Long intro, I know. Hopefully any timewasters have become bored and moved on to the next profile. Those of you who have read this far, thanks for your patience. Those who have read this far and are picturing themselves naked, collared and bound to serve… drop me a line.
;o)
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