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newlessub - Female Submissive, Studio City California | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

About newlessub

Hello. I have never before joined any site like this, so I am new in many ways.



After being here a little while, it almost seems a cliche, but I am being written to mostly by men. Some are polite, and some just crude. Let me be perfectly crystal clear men are deleted. I have NO interest in men. I already have one and I have had theexperienceand do not want more. If you are not natural born with a clitoris, DO NOT BOTHER. My inbox is cluttered with men and you will be deleted UNREAD.



You will find me a successful professional, a wife, a mother, and extremely vanilla in outward appearance. Also, I am considered very attractive, in a slightly more mature, Elizabeth Hurley kind of look.



I am now separated--a story unto itself.



During all of my life I have never considered myself lesbian or in any way shape or bisexual. I strongly, STRONGLY expressed NO interest, and in face, an element of disgust at the thought.



If you keep reading---this will all tie together and make sense.



While my husband and I have dabbled in kink, over the years we learned, much to my surprise, that I have a deeply, and craving, submissive side. We have explored this, around the edges, but as I have grown, we have never gone far enough. If we communicate, I will share with your our activities, and what it spurned in myimagination.



During our marriage, my husband and I considered vanilla swinging with other couples, but never acted upon this until the past year. When he eventually found another couple who he wanted to experiment with, it turned out that the wife was bi and eagerly wanted this to be a bi encounter. I strongly stated that I would participate in a passive way ONLY and in fact that I had ZERO interest in interacting with another woman. I am hoping this makes sense to anyone reading this.



To make a long story short--indeed, I ended up, reluctantly, interacting with Her. At first, hesitant and resistant. Then, as the weekend went on--it was like a switch, a master control switch deep inside had been flipped. You can probably guess where my head went to ever since that encounter. We never repeated the experience.



I have always had a very privately high sexual drive and interest--but have never felt the trust and openness to share my most secret thoughts with my husband. Even less so now.



It seems that this interest, combined with my maturing sub side collided somewhere deep down inside. My fantasiesgallopingalong, growing, consuming. Naturally I got on the internet to explore and explore and explore. My interest in being a lesbian sub,transformedinto a complete and total lesbian, a submissive one became a major breakthrough down inside.



As I have more time to share more here, I will share the broad, but private, areas of my interest broadly stated however, I have a vastly more perverted side, and interests than I could or would have ever imagined. The places my head goes to---it shocks and intensely arouses me.



I am looking to be understood. I am looking to be taken, to be owned. I am looking to be taken to depths of arousal, pain, tears, control, and so much more. For now, I will hold back on the specifics of my interests--but WILL share with the right individual.



I am seeking a VERY similarly wired, very Dominant and imaginative Lady, lesbian. She should be mature--if not in years, at least in inner maturity age and body type are not a concern if we click mentally and emotionally She should very much has the Sexual Sadist inside of Her--for physical and emotional Sadism I long to fall under Her spell, Her control, and I long for Her toexperiencea kind of total, non-judgmentalfreedom in Her pursuit of Her sexual and emotional Power over me. I accept going in that She willeventuallyoversee the complete control andultimateremoval of any sexual interaction with my husband--or anyone else other than who She instructs.



What I am seeking is also ongoing. Also, while I live in Socal, I can and do travel around the country. Places I currently go to include Seattle, DC, NC, NYC, San Fran, Vegas,Florida, Chi--but it is easy for me to go anyplace. In fact, I may be begining a project that will have me in London several times a year.



A last thing I want to say. If you are sophisticated and like travel, dining, etc and the , that is good. However, if you also are not those things, perhaps live a simpler and even more rural life---the point is that neither of these things are important to me, and i can be as you wish in either. The main commonality i seek is our interest in addressing our shared sexuality, our desires, explorations, power exchange, controls and burning needs in a way that the world at large simply would not understand or experience.



If this profile intrigues or sparks any interest--IF something about it makes sense to you or speaks to you, then perhaps we should email or chat. I am prepared of course to answer any and all questions You may ask.



Thank you so much for reading.
To answer the questions that many seem to ask:

I seek mature and balanced. And confident.

Yes, She would also, like me, in private, have a very high sexual drive and interest in things sexual together.

Yes, like me, She would have a very good imagination, and has goals of exploring intensities, and perhaps extremes, as we travel our own road to arousal and TRUE INTIMACY.

I long for my safe harbor, where ALL of these thoughts, concepts, ideas can be accepted, and explored and loved---where this dynamic fuels You and feeds YOU. Where there are no barriers, no judgement,  a place where we discuss, share, bond; a place where we conceive the dynamic, articulate it, and then over time put it into practice. A place where my best humor and intellect becomes yours, in proper balance with being truly YOUR slut.

How can i describe this?

Does anyone understand this?
A few important things.

1. I do NOT understand why men keep writing to me. I delete instantly.

2. Lesbian ONLY.

3. LESBIAN IS THE ONLY WAY. LESBIAN IS THE ONLY WAY.

4. Since putting up this profile, i have had a little more experience, but nothing remotely that approached what i am seeking, nothing approaching the places and even extremes in this dynamic i wish to travel.

5. Does a LESBIAN DOMINANT exist who has a sense of true Sexual Power, Celebratory Perversion, Total Exchange? Does SHE exist who has what i call "female testosterone" by the ton? 

6. At the end of this month, it will be one year since i have had penetrative sex with my husband, and yes, i long to celebrate this with another LESBIAN who understands the complete rejection of the penis. 

7. There is nothing more connecting, more bonding, than LESBIAN sexual power exchange and even behind closed doors addiction of sorts.

Just wanted to share a few things.

Hello. I am adding to my journal here as a sort of supplement to my profile. As I progress thru my journey--which so far has been a bit disappointing, alas--things are becoming clearer. The things I feel I am seeking are coming into sharper focus. I surely know by now that I seek someone BALANCED, and MATURE--Maturity can be in years, but certainly needs to be also present in attitude and experience, and even wisdom. The person I seek will want to help my full transition to complete Lesbian and complete Lesbian Sub. While I have no idea where this journey ultimately will take me, I am forming initial Ideas--my thoughts don't really go to extremes, although, who knows, for the right Lady, I may just be taken about anyplace. For the moment I seek something very intimate in terms of sharing, experience, understanding, and also in sexual Power, Sexual Greed; I seek that Lady who gets turned on by my situation and also by the Power of being the catalyst of my transition. But also, I seek something that is potentially ongoing, and a very deep friendship. Given my life here, and my ability to travel, I do not fool myself into thinking that what I seek is just around the corner, and if something clicks, I would be prepared to devote sufficient time to such a friendship and to time together, perhaps long weekend visits once or twice a month. I also travel to the east coast often and Canada, and even at times to London a few times a year. At this time, sexually speaking, I seem to have a chronically high sex drive and sexual interest in general, combined with a sort of out of control imagination at the moment. In this regard, I crave control, and especially orgasm control and supervision because these days I have become an out of control masturbating fiend--this clearly needs regulation, control, supervision, approval; I also crave being taught to pleasure the truly Awesome Clit of the right Dominant Lady--this is no fantasy, I long to take this kind of worship to a kind of level considered by very few--and in return She will have my Clit and my whole being as Her landscape and experiment. Hopefully for the right Lady, this all makes sense. 

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