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About NewinClearH20
We live in a grass is always greener on the other side, or BIC disposable instant gratification type of society. I'm interested in meeting someone who would keep it on OUR side of the fence, keeping her portion green and nurturing it so much so that anyone who views his side can only dream of this green pasture which we share together. I also believe we are on this planet for such a short time, in order for us to be remembered we must leave a positive ripple or echo similar to that of a stone tossed into a body of water, how it's ripples continue to grow long after the stone is gone.
As my heading suggests, I am looking for a playful relationship with a submissive. I am not interested in being 24/7 Dom to a pure masochist nor becoming a “pro-dom”. Let Me be very clear in that I am not a sadist and do not enjoy inflicting excruciating pain on anyone. Sensual pain and punishment are another matter. However, I do have a wicked and perverse imagination. Quite fond of light bondage, blindfolds, spanking your bottom with my large firm hands when you misbehave and other delicious forms of humiliation and “fun torture”. I am to be cherished, worshiped and adored, and I expect you to please and satisfy Me in every way I command, and as a reward I will give you your fantasies and more...
For years I desired to be a switch (UPDATE: I have found that my previous idea to attempt being a switch may not be the right path for me...I know who I am and what I hunger for, yet I want to allow myself to think of other ways to indulge this erotic passion.)....I embrace and love the creativity of being her slave one moment and tormentor the next. Pleasing her one second and the next her worshipping me. Wouldn't you love that? UPDATE: I know that my nature within this erotic world (as well to the outside world) is one of a true Dominance and cherish a woman who allows me the opportunity to hand her the keys to the kingdom. My dream is that she would take the keys and understand the treasure she has been given...since she will never disappoint as long as she understands and appreciates there never ever has to be a single lie. There is never a reason to lie within this "world" since you could have whatever you wanted, whenever you wanted and wherever you wanted...the passion is endless; the desire is real.
As a female, you may consider yourself as being highly sexual, but also realize that your previous partners have no idea what to do with you...leaving you empty afterwards, where you literally hunger for that which you cannot verbalize, but often drives you to tears...as you know there is more, you crave it… But then again, that is already what you are questing isn't it? To attain that inner peace and centeredness that has long eluded you?
I expect you to have come to the realization that what you seek transcends mere kink; rather that it involves the synchronization of the mind, the emotions as well as the flesh.
I'm a 44 year young corporate career minded individual who also has a wild side to him. I have an assertive personality and I tend to be aggressive about life and love. In a college psychology class I was tested as an ENFP and it does very much fit my personality. Most people find me warm, emotional, and friendly, but often intense and passionate as well. My sense of humor is dry at times and encompassing, sometimes a little more introspective, for the most part I am a very upbeat outgoing and happy person that can't stop smiling. I think anything in life is possible if we only believe in it and ourselves and then take the prudent effort to make it happen.
I love to travel and have combined that with one of my main passions for scuba diving to see all the different parts of the world. You have not seen the true natural beauty on this planet until you’ve seen the coral reefs of our Earths oceans first hand. When you see their destruction, you’ll start to understand the dangers of global climate change.
I love almost all music genres except for twangy country western and nasty rap. I enjoy ozzfest as much as I do techno raves, Jazz, Blues or Classical events. I love to go clubbing with friends. I like the music, I like the dancing, I like meeting new people. I’m a social person and am always looking to make new friends. I love wines and attend many wine tasting events looking for new tastes.
My sexuality is erotically strong and sometimes complicated. The majority of my experiences have been with only a few women. I've been involved in the lifestyle on and off for over 17 years now. I've had two long term D/s relationships and a few short term ones as well. In the lifestyle I was submissive to the woman that introduced me to it, but found myself allowing her to dominate me more than willfully submitting to her. We both quickly found my personality was a better fit as a Dom. However, this is not a hard and fast rule. So much depends on the person you're with and how the two of you relate to each other in a relationship as well as what I refer to as “the chemistry of the moment.”
I am always positive, a hopeless romantic with a sassy fun wild side. Willing to please the right person, in all their desires... I am a melody of diversity yearning to discover new ways of enjoyment together on all fronts. The protector and Dom, the one who will make you laugh and then question life's deeper secrets. Depending on my mood and the situation you can find me at such extremes as fine dining to being at a local pub in Polo shirt and jeans listening to a new band. Cheering on my favorite driver, team or fighter to attending the ballet, opera, or theatre. I'm a Gentleman who enjoys being a man in ever sense of the word.
My brain needs as multiple stimulation as other things in order to click with someone. I’m more attracted to intelligence and unique personalities than I am to the traditional perceptions of physical beauty. I also don’t necessarily subscribe to the traditional stereotypes around submissives. I want someone who can be many things to me, for me as I will satisfy a plethora of realms for her…
I also was taught some slightly different philosophies on this lifestyle with people I've talked with that are “not vanilla” over the years. Both parties bring something to the table in this type of lifestyle, and for both it should be a spiritual exploration and overall positive in nature. The sub gives the gift of complete trust and service to another. They live for another's happiness. The Dom gives the gift of responsibility for another. It is the Dom’s role to ensure the safety, well being, satisfaction and growth of the sub. In other words, it's a symbiotic relationship that is mutually beneficial to both partners, not just the dominant. Each gives in this relationship and together you satisfy each other.
To me the lifestyle isn't about sexual fulfillment; that comes naturally in a relationship. It's about emotional fulfillment. It's about reaching a point with someone where the secrets we lock deep away in our souls can be shared with each other. The parts of ourselves we don't tell others about for fear of rejection. It's about having parts of your soul you don't easily accept yourself accepted by someone else. It's about the trust, the intimacy, the acceptance, the release, the compassion, the spirituality of a true union with another soul. It's not a dark world, it's a loving world with dark overtones because we all have those in our souls and need to release them to truly feel content in life. To reach our inner place of peace.
I believe the lifestyle must be built on top of a real relationship to truly experience it, and I need to express all my sides in a relationship. What that means to my prospective partner is sometimes I will be firm, perhaps perceived as harsh and wicked, yet always tender and caring, fair, firm and consistent...
Above all I'm a nurturing type of personality. I don't live this lifestyle as a 24/7 Dom so if your looking for someone to Dominate you all the time, I'm not for you. If you're looking for someone who can give you a good flogging till you cry, and then kiss you, hold you, I'm a much better fit. If your looking to explore the emotional side of this lifestyle, I can help take you to the pits of despair, and then pull you out and help you feel the euphoria of love and bliss that follows.
I'm not so arrogant that I feel my ways are the only way in the lifestyle. Really the only perceptions of the lifestyle that matter are the ones shared by partners experiencing it together. I am a Dom who understands the need to temper discipline with praise and punishment with reward.
One does not BECOME submissive after reading a book such as The Story of O, or seeing a movie such as The Secretary, or simply waking up one morning and making a cognitive decision to be submissive...or slave. The book or the movie awaken that innate slave soul that one was born with...however, it needs to be something felt at one's core, something "real",...NOT something intellectually arrived at via some analysis or because you are “bored with vanilla.”
The innate soul that a real submissive/slave was born with may have been buried and denied in the attempt to assimilate within polite society where their genuine essence was literally imprisoned...distorting their perception of reality....much like the prisoners of Plato's Cave. The movie and/or book referenced earlier may have served to expose their perceived reality as mere shadows allowing them to break free of their emotional imprisonment, but it is NOT something that they see as cool, trendy or a means of joining some counter culture.
A genuine submissive/slave is not obsessed about the trappings...they are concerned about attaining a harmony within themselves...where there is an absence of conflict/shame/embarrassment with their natural need to serve their Dom\Master\Owner, and be developed to where they CAN be free within themself. It is an emotional need....even a spiritual one...that the true submissive/slave needs its Owner to address and develop empowering an amazing journey together..
Having said that...and assuming that you have read this far...AND understand what has been said....AND feel that you indeed possess a submissive/slave inner mechanism, then by all means, write...as it will be refreshing to hear from one that actually "gets it and desires it".
My Ideal Person:
Show me you can be a friend: laughing with me, crying with me, supporting me. Not always feeling we have to relate to each other within the bounds of roles, but always knowing who each other is. Total honesty and enjoyment of reciprocation.
Show me you can be a lover: comfortable with my affections, my spoiling you sometimes, showering together, laying on the couch, sitting on a chair with you facing me or in the bed together talking the night away.
Show me you can be my sub: taking care of me before yourself, submitting control of yourself to me so I can take care of you in return, always in touch with my moods and understanding what's required because of them as I never disrespect yours.
Show me you can be my slave: embracing my darkest sides, my darkest moments. Those moments when I don't want you to give, I want to take.
If we do happen to talk at some point, understand you will not get the “DOM” from me. Don't call me “Sir”, don't approach me in a role. Show me you can be my friend before you show me you can be more. We will have several layers to peel back in order to know where each other stands today, discovering yesteryear while charting explorational adventures for the future… |
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