MuddyPaws

Male Dominant, 27, Stafford, Virginia

Male Switch, 26, London

Male Dominant, 40, alabama

im in ur computer celebrating mai birfday!

i dont know. i will never pay for love. i will never sign up to a website and spend money on you to prove how much i am worthy. most subs are self concious, low self esteem, needy. they will do anything to feel wanted and loved. i am not most subs. i prove i am worthy by my own loyalty and love. maybe some might find this to be pretentious. maybe some will say i am unworthy anyway because im not willing to exchange money to feel wanted. some may call me a fool or a faker, someone who isnt legit. i dont care. im sorry. i may be a sub, but i have self confidence. ill never pay for you to love me.

merry christmas from the friendly neighborhood kitty cat! *tracks mud all over your presents*

so many good friends comming back into my life. somehow i think the expectations of the lifestyle got in our way. there is a freedom and excitement...even some contentment in friendship that was not there in subbordination. also, many new domme and subby friends have spoken with me. some new, some old. i enjoy every moment of it. ive been looking more and more at ireland...ive been speaking with a domme from there and she is close to my age, and very beautiful. stupid time differences! we never get to talk cause we miss each other regularly. i hope to get to talk to her more in depth.

*licks his whiskers, looking silent and pensive. after a long while he finally begins to type* perhaps i havent been clear in what im looking for. perhaps, i just have not been specific in what it is that will be right for me. i know what will be right for me.  i know what will make me feel peace. i am not a domestic slave. i am not a slave. ill never be a slave. im a wonderful companion. a gentle pet. a loving friend. repeat, i am a loving *friend*. i am very affectionate. i love to be held and to hug and to be petted and teased and to tease back. i enjoy softness and tenderness. i enjoy feeling loved. i am not into humiliation. i am not into "service". i dont get off on it, i dont crave it. if you want me to come over your house just to wash your bathroom, then youll have to see the slave three doors down and to the left. please dont take this the wrong way. because its not ment to be. i dont want you to think that i am lazy and just looking for a free ride. i will be of service because i *love* you. i will *enjoy* doing things for you because i *care*. but in order to care, we must first be friends. in order to love, that friendship must blossom. if i clean your bathroom, it is because its dirty, i care about you, it needs done, and i want to show it. not because i am screamed at and told id better clean it or itll be my ass. that is not the way to own me. it is not the way to make me love you. it will only harbor deep feelings of rejection and resentment that will become immediately visible when ive had enough of it. i will pack up and go. this is why i want to make sure that all who read this know that i have a high self esteem, i enjoy the living hell out of myself as an individual, a person, and a pet. i love how i do things, i enjoy being myself. im looking forsomeone who enjoys ME also. not what i do for you. not the cleaning and the picking up and the fact that your cable will never go bad because im there to fix it. but because you enjoy having ME around. and i will fix your cable and clean your tub and take out your trash because i enjoy being around YOU. not because i am slapped or hit or screamed at. not because i feel afraid of you. i will never fear my mistress. i will love her, she will love me. i will be her passionate lover, her best friend, her confidant, her most loyal companion. i will live and die for her. i will break her enemies and lift her allies. but i will never fear her. because that little part in my head that says "you should be scared" is broken.  the correct mistress for me will understand that loving compassion is better than groveling stupidity. that when i use my *precious* vehicle to do something for you, that a thank you and a hug will mean the difference between feeling happy for doing it and feeling used. please dont take this all the wrong way. please dont be upset with me or think i am just playing at this. im just trying to be clear. if you choose now not to contact me because of this, then perhaps it is for the best. love, MuddyPaws.

i think i am looking at ireland more and more. i always wanted to go where my genes came from. and since thats where im from, i wanna go i think

i dont mean to be disrepectful, but im moving slow. jumping onto me immediately and ordering me about, threatening me with being blocked and trying to force me to do things that i should really get to know you better for first is not going to win me to be with you. this is my decision also. i must make the decision if you are right for me, just as you must make the decision if i am right for you. im not trying to cannonball into a relationship with someone i do not know. crawling on the floor, getting spanked, etc etc, these are things that someone very special to me will have access to. not someone who has decided they now own me without even trying to get to know *me*. i feel some dommes try to prey on the inherent insecurities that are prevailant in the subbie mindset to bully people into a situation that is not healthy for them. fortunately for me, that time in my life i long past. i have confidence. i have the right to be happy and to love and be loved. i have the right to be fulfilled as a person. my needs are as important as the dommes. otherwise, it is a one sided relationship that cannot end well. im not trying to attack anyone. im not lashing out. im trying to make it clear. i am looking for the special domme who will fill a void in me that others cannot. im not looking for just anyone to grab my leash and drag me off. im not trying to be rude. im not even angry. if thats how this is comming out, i appologize to all who read it. if i dont love you, i wont enjoy cleaning for you. i wont enjoy fixing things around the house, taking care of laundry, walking dogs, scooping out kitty litter. i wont enjoy doing these things because the affection that binds me to the person will not be three. ill just be going through the motions hoping that maybe tonight ill get playtime. thats not how anyone should live. thats not how i will live. i pour my heart into everything i do. and this is no exception. if you want someone to strongarm and shove and yell at, im the wrong cat. if you want a great person to get to know and become friends with, some light play to see if we are compatable, and personality discussions in depth to understand each other, then im willing to take all the time in the world for you.

i have met many good friends since i have made this account. im glad that this time it has shown more promise than the last time. ive learned alot i suppose. now im just sort of taking it slow. i dont mind cybering, but for now, im happy that others also agree and accept my wishes to feel out my domme friends before making any commitments to any one person. thank you all. you all have made me very happy since i have returned to this forum.

Male Submissive, 27, Boston, Massachusetts

Male Switch, 42, New York

Male Submissive, 24, LA, California

Male Submissive, 18, chalmers, Indiana

Male Dominant, 21, Ontario

Male Dominant, 25, Ann Arbor area, Michigan

Male Dominant, 38, Eugene, Oregon

Female Switch, 18

Submissive Couple, 29, Greenville, South Carolina

Male Submissive, 34, Melbourne

Male Dominant, providence, Rhode Island

Male Submissive, 33, Summerville, South Carolina