A borrowed share from a dear sub friend of Mine.
Borrowed with his permission...dear boy that he is.
hugs charles in his willingness to share with Me
below he asks....
"A few questions for struggling male subs
I haven?t posted in a while. I figured what the hell? This might be helpful. It is not a gripe. Not a rant. But I get a fair amount of males asking me to help them figure out how to relate to a dominant woman. I know some are serious, some are just looking for kinky sex. (I don?t bother with the latter) I know some guys will be insulted by my questions, but my purpose is not to insult. If you are serious about or just enjoy female domination, think about the following:
If it takes the average male sub 3 years and 257 attempts to get a domme to even respond to one of his letters and he finally gets to meet one for coffee, why would he even consider chickening out simply for a public meeting?
Do you think she is coming in full leathers, Goth make-up, six inch heels, a sneer on her gloss black lips, with handcuffs and a single-tail in her hand to Starbucks? I should be so lucky.
If a domme says she is sadistic and you are not a pain slut, why in the world would you say you are?
When you are firmly secured to her cross do you think you can just ?wing it? when she comes at you with a bowl full of needles soaking in alcohol and a big smile on her face?
When chatting with a prospective domme I wonder why you would be anything besides sober, fully clothed, dick secured away in your pants, be on your best behavior, and have the ?Be Honest With Yourself? switch in the ON position? She KNOWS what she wants. Do you?
Why does any male send a picture of his cock to a domme? Do you really think that a woman who has aspired to the level of sensitivity and intellectual pursuit that female domination is would actually care what is in your pants? If she does, you really hit the jackpot. I want to be on the rail making side bets when you play craps.
If you would be insulted and leave if a domme told you to go vacumn her car, why would you say you are a service submissive? Service doesn?t mean kinky games! It means running errands, scrubbing the floor, washing the dishes, bathing the dog, (not the domme) and yes, washing windows. Sub males don?t have a union.
If all you want is kinky foreplay before coitus, why even come to a fem dom site? There are a zillion women out there who enjoy kinky foreplay. Go to My Space.
If she specifically states, ?No one liners!?, why would you think she would respond to, ?Hi, I?m Bob. Will you spank me?? And yes, I know that is actually two lines. Guess what. That still doesn?t count as an intelligent request for an interview.
Why do the cut and paste approach to a hundred women? Do you really not care at all who and what the woman who will be standing behind you with an instument of pain in her hand is actually about? If you don?t, you do not need a dominatrix. You need a shrink.
Why would you approach a ?professional? domme specifically seeking clients and offer your ?personal? service? Don?t you think for a moment that she already has an abundance of ?personal? subs that actually know her and DO worship the ground she walks on?
Likewise if you are lucky enough to be well-off, why would you try to impress a domme with your money if her ad states she is seeking service, not money? Yes, there ARE women out there who could care less about your financial status. (But if you would like to try subbing to a guy, I love Cadillacs, prime rib, and 20 year old bourbon. And yes, I will give you a happy ending. Hey, I never said I couldn?t be bought.)
If you set up a profile/ad on a fem dom site why would you leave it blank or only have, ?Curious and Looking? as the total text? Aren?t we all ?curous and looking? in one aspect or another? For gods sake say ?something? about yourself.
It might take a vanilla woman weeks, months, or even years to really know you. But if you find yourself in the physical presence of a seasoned dominatrix, it will take her just about thirty minutes, (if that long) to be looking into the very core of your existence. Why would you even try to be anything but perfectly honest with a woman like that?
You might win a battle with a domme. You might manipulate her. You might hurt her. But when it is over, she has a hundred subs waiting in the wings to take your place. How many dommes are waiting for you?"
I thank charles for his wisdom as he shares it with all!
