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	About MsKChicago I am a married female lifestyle dominant. My husband accepts my lifestyle and participates often in a social and private role. I own a permanently collared male submissive CD. She is a permanent part of my family. My submissive lives 10 minutes from my home in a house, which is also the location of my dungeon. I am here seeking friendship with those who are serious (no game players, if you are married and your partner does not know, do not contact me. If you are looking for sex, please go elsewhere). I do get along with others and expect fairly high protocol to be displayed by my submissives while in public. At home, I enjoy a much more relaxed atmosphere. If you own a brain and are willing to use it, feel free to contact me.

For those of you wishing to send me a message (those who might fear they lack writing skills), please consult this link FIRST!!

http://grammar.ccc.commnet.edu/grammar/

What started out as "two close friends (yes E, that would be you ) talking about how to meet up with other female dominants for a bit of relaxing social time", has turned out to be so much more than I ever expected.

The idea of a high protocol tea party came about as a way for female dominants to relax and enjoy the service of their submissive partners.

While we are enjoying wonderful tea and goodies, as well as each other?s company, our partners, along with a very few hand selected single submissives, are encouraged to learn and then implement a very high state of protocol.

There is no SM at these events, only the D/s aspect is present. I believe this allows service from the heart, with the reward being a job well done. (Yes, most, if not all of us, practice SM to varying degrees, however, that is reserved for later in the evening)

At this point, the attendance list is closed. With 8 femdom couples attending, 1 well trained single submissive (who is awesome in the kitchen), there is no need for further applicants at this time.

We will accept inquiries from female dominants only, who wish to discuss their possible attendance in the future.

The interviewing process is going well thus far. Out of the many responses I have received, only about 5 percent appear to have some understanding of what "service" actually is, and only 1 percent actually show up for an interview.

No matter how long I can claim to have been out and about within the community (going on 20 years now), "no shows" still amaze me. Those who seem to want something so badly yet can not come up with the smallest amount of courage to show up to a public place for coffee, it baffles my mind.

Has the internet corrupted the meeting process so much, by its draw of fantasy, that no one is strong enough to pull themselves away from it? All the fantasies in the world can not compare to human contact, yet far too many relinquish themselves to words on a screen rather than submit to real life.

However, I digress.

I am preparing for the next tea party, which will be held in the middle of July. To those of you who have met with me, I look forward to your service.

Update: The first of many tea parties was this past weekend and it went exceptionally well. The three servers who were in attendance surpassed all expectations and have set the bar quite high for future servers. Directions were given to those serving at this event and not another word or correction was needed.

Thank you housesub4you for the wonderful service, the time spent learning about the tea to be served, and those scones, who knew they could taste soooooo good?!?!?!?

The women in attendance were very pleased with the service of the submissives and all commented on how relaxing this event was. I will post comments as I feel they are appropriate.

Thank you again "E" for sharing such a special gift with us all, he is truly a treasure.

I can not wait until the next one!!!!!

Many have inquired about the "uniform" which the submissive servers will be wearing at the tea party events. To avoid any misunderstandings, it is as follows:

White gloves, a Bow-tie, and a ribbon which holds a numbered tag.

Yes, that is it and it is provided to those serving.

Well now, it appears there may actually be a few service oriented male submissives on Cm after all.

I have been fortunate to find 4 thus far, though I still need to meet with three of them (yes, if I have been communicating with you, then you should know who you are).

It is amazing how many people do not know the basics of high protocol. I am hoping that the high protocol tea parties I am starting will have, if nothing else, a small impact within my community. When all is said and done, I know they will be educational as well as very enjoyable for everyone involved.

I am going to add, for the record and for those who are curious, what is expected from the submissives serving at these events:

1.Do not speak unless spoken to.

2.Never let your knees touch. Keep them a full six inches apart unless walking. Keep your eyes to the ground in front of you. No glancing, no staring, etc.

3.Show the utmost respect at all times- address the Dommes as Ma?am unless you know they have a preferred way to be addressed.

4.If you must speak, request permission first and wait for that permission to be granted.

5.Always refer to yourself as "this slave".

6.You will be wearing a number- answer to it as you would to your name.

7.You may be assigned duties such as a flower holder, candleholder, table, tea server or other.

8.Do your assigned task with pride.

9.Exhibit that you understand it is an honor to be at this event.

10.Look happy as you serve us.

While these protocols may appear to be very basic, they require a strong will and desire to execute them exactly.

I almost hesitate to put anything in my journal, which will cause a flood of responses, many being useless. For the sake of future plans, I will have my submissive screen all emails from this point on.

I am looking for "MALE SERVICE ORIENTED SUBMISSIVES" to serve at female dominant tea parties, to be held at a private residence.

Those chosen to interview will need to show an understanding and willingness to properly serve in a high protocol setting.

When I refer to "service" I mean just that, service. Not sexual, not fulfilling YOUR laundry list, strictly service. You will need to know how/learn to serve tea, you will know at the very least, the basic concepts of a formal tea party. If you do not, look it up and learn before you contact me.

I wish to send this out to those of you who keep trying to add me to your friends list. Just to clarify: YOU SHOULD ALREADY BE A FRIEND IN ORDER TO JOIN MY FRIENDS LIST. As I do not cyber or chat on line, those on my "friends list" are known to me in real life.

All righty then. I feel I must post this email which I was going to send back to a "submissive male" though found I was blocked before I could send it out, so here it goes:

What the hell am I talking about? Have you not gone back and re-read any of your emails (as you informed me)? Have you no memory of the pictures you have sent on more than one occasion (which I might add were not solicited)? As far as I am concerned, there is no excuse for doing such a thing.

It takes a lot of balls to send someone you don't even know, pictures of yourself naked, except for boots. Would you show up to a "meet and greet" wearing only boots? So, why do it here?

Perhaps you need to read more about certain protocols within our community. A book on manners wouldn't hurt either.

You admit, in previous emails that you might be a bit arrogant and cocky. You also admit to being a bit "juvenile" to see if you can get more responses. Are these really the responses you were looking for?

So, to answer your question "What the hell are you talking about?", your whole approach is what I am talking about. Perhaps you should try not sounding so much like the "do-me" submissives on this site and acting more like a person who wishes to communicate with another person. Instead of whinning that you were "frustrated, nervous, something", how about "thinking" before you hit the send button.

MsK

I feel the need to add a small disclaimer to my profile. If you are "out of state" or "out of the country", please look elsewhere. I am a "hands on" woman, meaning, I like the feely touchy kind of a relationship. I do not cyber, webcam, or "talk dirty".

Wow, show someone a real situation and after they have their little temper tantrum, they go and delete their account. Who knew one could get rid of the game players and wankers so easily.
Do people really believe they are so needed to be sex sluts and nothing else? Are they so convinced that dominants want sluts to baby-sit and take care of? (Persoanlly, I only play with adults)They come on here and bash the dominants that are lifestyle and real and not just "on-line" because these real people don't fit into their little fantasy world.
I personally would believe there is more to life than living behind one's computer.

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