msdenise216


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	About msdenise216 Those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music. (Nietzche) I am not a Domme or a Dominatrix. I am a Dominant Woman. I don't have any other way of . . . being. This is not a game to me. This is not something I do. This is something I am. Generally speaking, I do not like submissive men. I much prefer men who are submissive to me. There is a difference. And just for the record - men who say they are not worthy - usually aren't! I truly believe that the essence of submission is choice and that there can be no submission without inner struggle. In the Interest of Transparency During chats I have been described as amazing, strong, intelligent, impressive, and interesting among other things. Whether those things are true or not, I know that I am not everyone's cup of tea. The following 3 things about me are considered to be deal-breakers for some. I am Black; I have a disability; and I am a BBW. It's all about perception. Do not waste your time or mine. A Few of My Favoirite Quotes The unexamined life is not worth living. (Socrates) We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be. (May Sarton) Submission lies not in the act, but in the will. (Unknown) Submissive men, men who desire to serve as consensual slaves, are on one of the most difficult journeys in the world today, because they have rejected patriarchal privilege and embraced their own hearts calling instead. (Tammy Jo Eckhart) Many men desire you. I want to serve you. (Unknown) Truth is not only violated by falsehood; it may be equally outraged by silence. (Henri Frederic Amiel) It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change. (Charles Darwin) There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably desirable. (Mark Twain) And then the day came when the risk to remain tight, in a bud, became more painful than the risk it took to blossom. (Anaïs Nin) If your dreams don't scare you, they are not big enough. (Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, the first woman president of an African nation) Know thyself. (Socrates) https://fetlife.com/users/58495

Hmmmmm, quite a quandry.

Someone I was messaging as a friend keeps sending me messages. When I try to respond it says the mail was not delivered and that I may be blocked. I asked a friend to message him. Same result. I can handle being blocked, however I think he has inadvertently blocked everyone and does not know it. Any ideas what to do?

It Is What It Is.

I hate feeling like I have been played.

My Spidey senses definitely were not tingling as much as they should have been.

I guess it is true that, as someone once told me, time is the test of everything.

Oh well, back to the drawing board.

10 Random Thoughts

There are many ways to own someone. Some burn them down and rebuild. Some water them until they bloom. Both are sacred.

I don't know if I am looking or not. Every time I convince myself that I am not looking mr. "I Wish He Was the One shows up." Ugh.

I think we all need two things - roots and wings.

Only you can decide what peace is to you.

One surprising thing about grief is how small the world gets . . . you don't go to that one restaurant, you don't listen to that one song, you don't use that one coffee mug . . . you don't because the association with that one person is just too strong.

I would think that being allowed to serve one who respaspects that service would truly delight a slave.

I would rather regret my kindness than my cruelty.

Sometimes I forget how much it means to a submissive to be able to serve me.

Three of the most important things I have done in my life are learn other languages, learn how to play musical instruments, and to travel.

Time is the test of everything.

A Challenge

I have seen profiles of people and chatted with people who say the are *fully trained*. I cannot help but challenge that notion.

By definition training is "the process of learning the skills you need to do a *particular* job or activity." It is the "formation or modification of habits, skills, procedures, behaviors and thought processes."

When I use the term I use it to define the process of someone getting to know me, learning what I like and don't like, how I process information, what I will accept and won't accept, what I expect, etc.

I find the idea of someone telling me they are fully trained to be ludicrous. How can someone else train a person for me/to serve me? Do they know how I like my coffee or if I even like coffee? Am I a morning person or a night owl? Latex and leather or jeans and t-shirts? You get the picture.

It is not so much a red flag for me as it is a caution sign. I am pretty sure they are trying to market themselves in a positive light, in a way they think will garner approval. I don't think they mean any harm and really believe they are speaking the truth . . . at least as they see it or have been told it. While that may work for some people, in my book, however, it speaks to inexperience and/or cockiness, neither of which usually works for me. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

Just my 2 cents.

Are You The One?

Are you the one I have been waiting for?

Are you the one who intrigues me? The one who haunts my thoughts? The one who has captured my imagination?

If you are the one, then you know what I seek.

You know that I seek power, strength, submission, and obedience. Your power. Your strength. Your submission. Your obedience.

And you also know that I do not wish to diminish you in any way. Quite the contrary. I want you to be better, do better, and to thrive.

I do not seek a mere playmate, or a kinky boyfriend. Nor do I want a puppet, a sycophant, or an automaton.

I want someone who can stand on their own two feet, yet who chooses to kneel at mine.

I want complexity. I want authenticity. I want a challenge. I want someone who knows their worth.

I want us to be the personification of "iron sharpens iron."

You have waited long enough . . . as have I.

Possession Of Your Soul

I do not want possession of your soul.

That is for God.

I want possession of your heart, mind, and body.

I Know You Are Out There . . . Somewhere.

#7simplewords

Things for Which I Will Not Apologize

I will not apologize for not being your fantasy.
I will not apologize for not doing what you want me to do.
I will not apologize for not being what you want me to be.
I will not apologize for not being a fet dispenser.
I will not apologize for not being like the ones who came before me (no pun intended).
I will not apologize for walking away.
I will not apologize for distancing myself from drama.
I will not apologize for recognizing who and what you really are.
I will not apologize for recognizing what you really want.
I will not apologize for not wanting what you want.
I will not apologize for being honest.
I will not apologize for saving myself.
I will not apologize for not reconnecting with people or situations that are not healthy for me.
I will not apologize for wanting what I want.
I will not apologize for being my authentic self.

Dominants Are Not Perfect. We're People Too.

No Pretending. Just Being Who I Am.

I Am Not Stereotypical . . . In Any Way.

Perfection Is Not The Goal. Compatibility Is.

Dinosaurs R Us

Although I may not be a charter member, I certainly am a member of the Dinosaurs R Us Club. LOL

Why, you ask?

Because I remember when BDSM groups were mostly about educating people about the lifestyle --- unless they were sex clubs, dungeons, or swingers' groups --- and play was an add-on. Now it seems that most groups are about play and education seems to be the add-on.

I remember manners and respect --- from both sides of the slash.

I also fondly remember the days before 50 Shades of Grey.

I remember all this and more.

For those of you who might be thinking the Dinosaurs R Us Club is only for seniors, it is not. Membership in it has more to do with your BDSM age than your chronological age.

And --- just for the record, in addition to a wealth of tradition and know-how we have great rocking chairs! LOL

Oh, and one more thing --- you can teach an old dog new tricks!

What's Your Kryptonite?

Smh

This lifestyle, online and irl, is so male dom/fem sub oriented that sometimes it makes me crazy.

10 Reasons Not to Contact Me

So as not to waste your time or mine, please do not send me a message me if:

You think I am the solution to your sexless marriage, or any other kind of marital/relationship problem;
You have a fetish list of things you want/expect me to do to/for you;
You consider yourself to be merely a toy or a slut;
You do not know (without Googling them) who Mr. Ed, the Professor and Mary Ann, or Will Robinson are;
You have not read any of my writings;
You cannot spell D-o-m-i-n-a-n-t;
Your profile is littered with poor grammar and misspellings;
You merely want "someone to play with;"
You think the best representation of yourself is a picture/photo of your genitalia; and finally
You write something in a message that you would not say to me in person

There is a difference between wanting and needing.

Service or Kink?

Which is your priority?

Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa, Happy Boxing Day and/or just plain old Happy Today! No matter what you do or do not celebrate I hope that you are enjoying this day for the gift that is.

Rejection and Respect

I respect the men who are able to accept rejection with grace and dignity.

I respect the men who do not give in to name-calling and character assignation merely because our views, likes, dislikes, and desires do not match.

I respect the men who do not hurl insults and then block you . . . like the cowards do.

I respect the men who don't allow rejection to define them.

I respect the men who recognize that rejection is a part of life . . . for all of us.

I respect the men who can turn rejection into a learning experience and move on from it.

I respect the men who are strong enough to let go of the negatives around rejection, to take care of themselves, and to keep putting themselves out there and searching for what they want, need, and crave.

Loviante

Page 5 is one of my favs - https://www.twpornstars.com/loviante?page=5

“People know me as Loviante and I’m an artist based in Bucharest, spending part of his spare time creating digital illustrations that depict fetish scenes. I’ve always been passionate about magical realism in art and I think some of that love is reflected in my illustrations a little. What I enjoy about BDSM is the ritualistic aspect of it, it is like trying to take sexuality to another level and bring more complexity to it. It gives the common sexual behaviour an intricate twist.”
– Loviante

Loviante is a profession artist and fetish illustrator who produces glorious femdom art. Delicate, black and white fantasy scenes, set in a bygone era and seeped in an air of Deco decadence. They detail superior aloof ladies in a world where women rule supreme. The men exist as objectified servants and slaves, always naked, exposed and vulnerable. Often bound in ‘Heath Robinson-esque’ elaborate and ingenious torment contraptions.

He uses interesting composition shapes for his pieces. With his subjaspects depicted in almost hyperrealism aided by his amazing use of depth; you feel like you are looking into his work, it has a 3D quality. Importantly enhancing the story he is telling in each of his unique works. This is truly what makes his art so glorious, as each piece tells such an intricate femdom story. You feel the players come alive, you fill in their back stories and imagine what the rest of their day must have been like.

Maybe This Isn't For Me

I am not like the others.

I am not a kitten with a whip.

I don't pretend. I don't see the reason to do it. I don't like it. I have never been good at it and the truth always comes out in the end anyway.

I am relatively low maintenance.

I am not a girly girl. That means I don't wear makeup, no fake nails, and my hair is natural . . . no wigs, extensions or dyes. I am more tomboy-ish than girly-girl-ish.

I am down to earth.

I am not a screaming, shrewish bitch . . . not here or in my 'nilla world. I rarely raise my voice. In fact, the quieter I am the more dangerous I am. And when I quit talking . . . that is never a good sign.

I am not going to throw around harsh commands at you or have fake hissy fits.

I am not going to yell insults at you. Is calling you a slut boy really an insult if that is what you are?

I don't want your money. If you are the right one you have something far more valuable to me than money.

I laugh a lot and I am a giggler. I can't help it. Something about someone allowing themselves to be tied to my bed knowing full well that what is to come could to be . . . well, let's say . . . interesting . . . just totally cracks me up. I love it! I guess that could be the sadist in me.

Sometimes I think this isn't for me.

Then I realize that D/s moves me in a way that almost nothing else does. It is ingrained in me . . . deep . . . to the core . . . through and through. It is the perspective from which I view the world and how I relate to others, vanilla and otherwise.

This is for me because, quite simply, it is who and what I am.

Where Are They?

Are there other people out there who don't really like play parties and who rarely attend munches?
Where are they?

Are there people out there who, although intensely involved in this lifestyle, are private in nature and would rather spend time with a small group of people or perhaps at a private party?
Where are they?

Are there people out there who, despite having been involved in this lifestyle a number of years, do not boast or brag?
Where are they?

Are there people out there who are more interested and involved in D/s than B/d or S/m?
Where are they?

Are there people out there who want more than a play partner?
Where are they?

Wherever they are, these are my people. I know they are out there, but where are they?

Where are you?

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Things for Which I Will Not Apologize

To Anyone Who Has Ghosted Or Blocked Me

Thank you.

When a person ghosts or blocks me I think it says more about them than it does about me.

When someone ghosts or blocks me I say a little prayer. Well, that's not the first thing I do. The first thing I do is to probably to say a few little curse words --- just a few of my favorites --- and then I say a little prayer. I say the prayer because I am thankful that I dodged a bullet.

I think that people who ghost or block others are weak and cowardly. They don't have the strength of character, integrity, honesty, or courage that I want, in fact, require in anyone that I am associated with whether it be a friend, a submissive, a colleague, or anyone else. They are doing me a favor by ghosting or blocking me because I am better off without them.

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msdenise216

About msdenise216

In the Interest of Transparency

A Few of My Favoirite Quotes

I Know You Are Out There . . . Somewhere.

Smh

Loviante