MrInstruction

I got the blues. I got the 'I-swear-before-all-that-exists-if-I-fold-and-put-away-one-more-pile-of-FUCKING-laundry' blues.

To answer some questions:

   I am not a service dominant; I am service oriented. The word 'service' means something entirely different in my context.

   I am mixed race and my profile reflects this. Calm down. Form a line. Wait your turn. If you assumed that I am white because of my nature or any other factors, you have only yourself to blame. I am strict, dominant, and intelligent- all of which are not racial characteristics.  

Every now and then, I day dream about being a multi-millionaire. Good times. Good times.

For those of you who claim that you need to be forced into submission, I have this to add.

If you feel that you must be forced into submission, there are one of two things happening- either your real goal is to challenge authority, or submission is being required too soon. If the beginning of your relationship is a fight for submission, does it not seem likely that you would try to find rules to challenge and boundaries to test in the future? You have introduced a system of verification of the dominant's will, power, etc. and you are the gate keeper. The fact that you have agreed to submit does not give you the strength to stop this. You will likely always look for a sign of weakness, and you will leave the relationship exhausted if this is not what the both of you have been looking for.

I solemnly affirm that submission should only be required when there is an agreement made (contract or otherwise) to start training. Everything before that is part of getting to know each other. All submissiveness and dominance is playful and non-threatening before training. This is how I conduct myself, however, I cannot speak for everyone. Some of the submissives that I have spoken to have attested that they have been expected to submit first and 'prove' that they are indeed what they claim to be. If this is an interaction that you cherish as a dominant, why would you expect someone give it to you easily and immediately? Some have learned this behavior, while others do not know any better due to their lack of experience. Regardless, you can make the decision to walk away rather than to stay and lay down the gauntlet- unless this was the plan all along... 

For those of you who claim that you need to be forced into submission, I have this to add.

If you feel that you must be forced into submission, there are one of two things happening- either your real goal is to challenge authority, or submission is being required too soon. If the beginning of your relationship is a fight for submission, does it not seem likely that you would try to find rules to challenge and boundaries to test in the future? You have introduced an system of verification of the dominant's will, power, etc. and you are the gate keeper. The fact that you have agreed to submit does not give you the strength to stop this. You will likely always look for a sign of weakness, and you will leave the relationship exhausted if this is not what the both of you have been looking for.

I solemnly affirm that submission should only be required when there is an agreement made (contract or otherwise) to start training. Everything before that is part of getting to know each other. All submissiveness and dominance is playful and non-threatening before training. This is how I conduct myself, however, I cannot speak for everyone. Some of the submissives that I have spoken to have attested that they have been expected to submit first and 'prove' that they are indeed what they claim to be. If this is an interaction that you cherish as a dominant, why would you expect someone give it to you easily and immediately? Some have learned this behavior, while others do not know any better due to their lack of experience. Regardless, you can make the decision to walk away rather than to stay and lay down the gauntlet- unless this was the plan all along...