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Obsessed with: aesthetics in film, video, and photography of all sorts; collecting books and neckties; thinking, talking, and writing about gender.
Coming from a history of shame around my masculine sexual aggression, I struggle some with reconciling feminism and my desires to dominate feminine/female bodied people like my amazing partner (SexyLexi)-- but it's becoming more clear every day that our safe and consensual play will keep me sane.
Queer and transgender but not transgendered, thank you Collarme. Although my gender has come about through many tricky transgressive maneuvers I'm usually not socially gendered by strangers as a tranny (because for most people that's not even up for consideration when gendering a body), but as a boy (the kind of really faggy boy girls want to take shopping but wouldn't expect to love curves and clits). I move through the world as a masculine/male bodied person and feel most comfortable as such.
Along those lines, I use testosterone and have had chest reconstructive surgery. If this is gross/freaky/bad-weird to you and you're confused/angry, you probably need to think harder about your own gender AND you should have stopped reading already! If this is new/exotic for you and you're intrigued/curious-- woohoo! Please keep general questions which can be answered by Google/Wikipedia to yourself. Honest questions about my gender/trans identity as well as engaging conversations involving queer (race, class, age, ability) theory as it intersects with BDSM are welcome, especially from other gender transgressors.
I'm also relatively new to learning a lot of the technical stuff of BDSM, so if you hold a lot of knowledge on anything you're willing to share I'm incredibly interested. Book knowledge is good, but sometimes hands-on knowledge can be better.
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