monsherrie

GLLA was a great experience! i met some new people, made some new friends, reaquainted with old friends. i was able to witness an inspiring blood ritual. i saw a cruzifiction complete with scourging and nailing to the cross. I attended some fun and inspiring classes. i learned some new understanding of the leather community. What more could one ask for? lol

Why do people seek to hurt others? Not Bdsm kind of hurt but emotionally deep down hurt. Why do some feel the need to pretend its about caring, understanding and the heart when honestly for them it really comes down to just plain sex? Then theres the complaint of having trust issues. Well when dishonesty happens repeatedly and hurtful people continue to carelessly disregard the trust placed in them then yes it becomes harder and harder to trust, not impossible but more difficult. How often do we disregard those hurtful people as just a lesson to be learned? Unfortunatly the ones who should be paying for that lesson most often dont. i wonder what would happen to those hurtful people if there wasnt quite so much tolerence? Would they really be less selfish or self absorbed? Would they be any less callus?

A daddy/Master is one who treats his sub like the little, submissive girl she is. Using paternal, firm hannded guidance to bring her into realms she is unaware of. Providing punishment and discipline as needed. Unconditional love and understanding provided as she can tell Daddy of her deepenst and darkest fears and desires without reprisal. Supportive, yet strict, demanding obedience and encouraging the girl inside to remain alive.

sub vs slave... I found this writing on Master Hootens profile and He kindly allowed me to add this to my profile. i found it very insightful .....To be a slave does NOT mean that one is tied up in a cellar somewhere, kneeling 24/7 in cuffs, or giving up her dreams, career, educational and/or vocational pursuits, aspirations, etc. While many kinksters think that's what it means to be a "slave", I disagree. For me, being a "slave" or being "slave-wired" is simply a MINDSET... it goes to where her PRIMARY motivations, happiness, and so forth begin and end -- where her PRIMARY fulfillment is derived from. A sub, though submissive, tends to primarily focus on (or give equal weight to) HER fulfillment from submitting to another, where a slave tends receive her PRIMARY fulfillment from HER MASTER's pleasure from her submission -- it's where the focus is, and has ZERO to do with any particular activity(ies). It's all MENTAL/EMOTIONAL... where does her PRIMARY fulfillment come from? From HER submission, or HIS pleasure in her submission. If it's the latter, then that's slave-wired. Note: I'm not stating a "sub" does not seek to please her Dom, nor am I stating a "slave" does not receive pleasure from her service, it's simply where the PRIMARY focus is. Okay, another example... picture two girls kneeling. Just looking at the two, the action itself (i.e., the physical act of kneeling) is the SAME. So which is the sub and which is the slave? You can't tell, can you? Again, that's because it has ZERO to do with the physical -- it's all mental/emotional. If she's kneeling because her submission gives HER pleasure to do so, she's likely a "sub". However, if she's kneeling because her fulfillment is derived from pleasing her Master -- again, she's focused on the pleasure HE receives from her submission and from her service -- then she's likely a "slave". Make sense?!! Unfortunately, many girls will shy away from the term "slave" because of the silly connotations and nonsense the fantasy folks associate with it about losing all of her freedoms, goals, aspirations, and so forth. But again, the physical does not a slave make -- it's the mental/emotional. Thus, a "slave" absolutely CAN have a life of her own, a career, outside interests, and so on, as these things and being a slave are NOT in any way mutually exclusive. We're all people first and anything else second. And please note, neither sub or slave is better or worse than the other, just different.

Wow STL Beat Me Bash was awesome! Tried some new things that surprised even me, bought my first leather dress, met some great new people and learned a whole lot.  Will definately be one to attend again next year.

Female Dominant, 32, Los Angeles, California

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