MistressZanthia

I've been here a bit over a month now, what an odd little site. Clearly not well advertised, or their would be more people here. This is a rant of sorts, if you find these things distastful, don't read any further.

I've been participating in the forums here since my arrival at Collarme, and it would seem that the "Ask a Mistress" section is little more than a farce, as the dominant males and submissive females seem to feel left out (even though they have an "Ask a Master" section) and simply cannot refrain from answering posts to us dominant ladies. Wonder why that is? 

As it stands the Maledom/subfem orientation has a monopoly on the BDSM community as a whole. Why do they have to piss in the Femdom/submale's cornflakes? What part of "THIS ISN'T YOUR ORIENTATION, SHUT THE FUCK UP, DON'T YOU UNDERSTAND?"

I could care less about their opinions and ideas because what works for femsubs doesn't usually translate and work for malesubs. Our dynamic is entirely different, get a clue!

Which explains the main reason I've stopped attending group meetings in my area. No one does demos or discusses or even wants to discuss the dynamics of Femdom/malesub relationships, techniques, etc. It is all geared to the Maledom/femsub orientation. Which bores me to no end.

I've had enough. I should be moving to Seattle in the next few months and the number one priority on my agenda is to set up and facilitate a "Femdom/malesub" only support group.  Afternoon tea parties with demos on techniques will be offered. 

Fun, fun, fun.

It has come to my attention, after looking at the profiles of the ones who are so resentful of my occupation, etc, that they are merely expressing their disappointment that I am not available for the type of relationship they desire... after all negative attention is better than no attention at all... so they write in the hopes I'll take notice of them, because clearly at least being able to converse even momentarily is better than never speaking at all.

Another odd thing. There are many dominant females out there who will play and dominate for free, no strings attached... by the same token (sex related BDSM play) that I am labeled a "prostitute" by these men, aren't they just the common whores and sluts?   At least I am honest and upfront about the costs to enjoy my scintillating company.

Hmm... food for thought.

New here and already the boys who have resentment and disrespect for my work are showing their true colors.

I love my work.  I can't imagine doing anything else and having as much passion, creativity, continuing educational benefits and meeting as many wonderful people (and getting to play with them) doing anything else for a living.  And I thoroughly loathe being likened to a prostitute for doing what I love. It is my life, my business and my joy to play, teach and introduce many into this lifestyle in the loving way I do.

What I have noticed however, is that those who quickly label me or any Pro Dommes as prostitutes have no applicable experience in the actual lifestyle. Most have never been to a BDSM event or support group meeting, or they wouldn't say what they do about us.  We are the lifeblood of education and creativity and we truly adore our submissives.  No one else advocates our way of life in the malesub/Femdom orientation, more than we do.  And it's not about the money boys... it's about the service.  Without us... one's fantasies would be empty.

So think twice before bashing a ProDomme for being who she is, she may have invented the latest form of CBT you enjoy so much.

~MZ