MistressWriter

Female Dominant, 33, bronx, New York

Dominant Couple, 47, Ava, Missouri

Female Dominant, 35, ny/nj, New Jersey

Finally got my internet back at home... took forever. But my computer is still slow, and all of a sudden, as soon as September hit, so did several hundred forum post updates from into my email inbox. I'm still trying to get through those before I get to this inbox. So, if you've sent me something since sometime in August and I haven't replied yet, I'm not ignoring you. Yet. Of course... if you NEVER hear back from me... there might be a very good reason, and it won't be on my end. Just sayin'. Also, my other blog, linked below, is the best place to keep up with what I'm doing. Pretty soon I'm going to be wrapped up in writing a novel in a month and I won't have time for anything else. Now, it's late, waaaaaaaaaay past my bedtime, and I said I was going to sleep ten minutes ago, so I'm signing off. When I'll be back... I just don't know.

I'm losing my internet at home for a few weeks and can't visit this site at work. So, if I'm not here, and don't respond to emails, that's why. Again, check out my wordpress blog to see what I'm up to.

Life is so busy I can't get on here to respond to my mail as much as I'd like. If only this site was worksafe, I'd have more time for it. Check out my other blog for why I'm so busy, since that is worksafe, even if all of my content might not be.?

www.mistresswriter.wordpress.com This is my official new blog. Check it out.

The music video to Cheryl Cole's Parachute is HOT! Someday, I hope to be able to dance like that! I wish I'd known about this song ages ago, but, alas, I've just found it, finally got to see the video, and I'm loving it! I keep thinking about this song, even after I've posted about it. I thought I might change my thoughts on wearing a dress for this kind of thing... but cancel that thought. I'll take the trousers, the white shirt, suspenders (vest... whatever), everything her male partner is wearing. THAT'S even more exciting! lol. I wish I had a hardwood floor to dance on right now. Drat the ugly carpet.

Life is extremely complicated and difficult. Love is even more so.

So, I've come to the realization, as I'm sure many already have before me, that saying what you want and how you want it done is very different when you're talking hypothetically as compared to real life. At the same time, it's a lot of fun discovering what each other likes and dislikes. I mean, sharing loooonnng emails every day, yeah, totally fun. ;-) If you haven't noticed, I changed some wording at the very end of my profile, for a certain someone, who shall remain nameless for now. Hopefully, it will be a comfort to know what I've written and help to ease a few fears. So, in regards to what I first said, and to end the discussion I've been having with myself in my journal here (HA!), forget the Ma'am. lol. Yeah, that again. Stick with my penname, MistressWriter (btw, there are no spaces in it, so it should always be written that way), or, if you know my first name, then use that for communication. Yes, I've joined the ranks of Mistress's out there who prefer to go by their first name or penname, rather than a title. Makes sense. We are human beings first. And, I guess, while I'm here, I may have stopped taking sub requests (at least for now), but I have to say it really bugs me when people send me a first email and don't say anything about themselves. "Hello. How are you?" hardly counts as an introductory email. Especially if there are grammar and spelling mistakes. I hate those. Your email is my first glimpse into who you are. If I don't like your email, I won't check out your profile. I also can't stand those emails where subs just beg to be used. Right. I know nothing about you. Did you even read my profile? I'm not going to use you until I know you very, very intimately. Got that? Ok, done ranting. lol. I'm going to go grab some dinner and get some work done. EDIT: I've changed the background color on here to a dark orange. I know one person had trouble with the dark red, which I understand. I just don't know where to see how it looks for myself, and I know all computer screens are different. But, if people still have trouble viewing this journal, just pop me a message, and I'll change it to something else. Sadly, dark red and dark orange are my two fav colors. So, I hope this one works. -Mistress Writer

Well, I'll take back my last statement about Ma'am. I'll stick with it. *sigh* I'm too tired to think, and there's just so much more work that needs to be done. btw, if I don't respond to an email, don't take it personally. It might take me awhile. And I thought I was busy before I joined this website!

I have got to find another word in place of Ma'am. I've read on the boards that some women find it makes them feel old. Well, now I've been experiencing it first hand for less than a week, and I can understand that feeling a little. Or, maybe it's just that I'm not used to this type of attention yet. That might be it. Might be a question for the boards here... but I'm inclined to believe that if I haven't collared someone, nor have I even met them in person, they shouldn't call me Mistress. I think I rather like the idea of the one slave I pick out of the hundreds out there, being the only one who can call me that. *sigh* It could go either way, I guess. At this point, I'm just not sure. On the other hand, I've been thinking about it, and I've realized, or forced myself to realize what I've known all along,? which is the fact that I really do have an inner Domme. I really do want to take on a slave and do things to him that would make my mother faint. (I know, on this site, this sounds kinda 'duh!', doesn't it?) I've read in the forums before of slaves/subs commenting that their Mistress's weren't harsh enough, or even Mistress's themselves that didn't think they could be tough enough. I feel the same way about myself. But I have a feeling I can be that way, I just have to find my inner Domme and bring her out, tell her it's ok not to be so goody-goody all the time. lol. I sound dorky saying that, but I think that's what I need. On the outside, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, or make anyone think badly of me. On the inside, however, there are times I just want to say, or do, what's on my mind. -Still getting used to the idea that her inner Domme can be let out of her cage, MistressWriter

This is my first journal entry. Wow. I can't promise to update it regularly, as my life is pretty busy with other things, but I'll try. I just updated my profile to include more of the BDSM lists I'd left out the first time I went through it. I have to say, as a beginner in everything here, it was fun reading all the definitions. I'm weird, I know. Anyway, I hope you like my profile. Please, if you're going to contact me, read my profile thoroughly, so you get to know me and know if we'd be a good fit. Also, as I'm still new to this whole thing, I would like to start off slow, as friends first because I believe a strong friendship is a good base for something more. I'm not saying be friends for ten years before anything happens. I guess I'm just new to this and want to test the waters a bit before I cover my head. Does that make sense?

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