I am currently in a very happy relationship with my newly-minted fiance! He is very supportive (as many men are :) of my bisexuality and is very much into the BDSM lifestyle and bondage, as well.
We've been a Fem-Domme couple from the start (we actually met on Alt.com, hurray for the internet!) and have spoken several times about finding a sub/switch female - whether for part-time playdates or as a polyamorous partner in the relationship/triad would have to be something we figured out in the future, although we're definitely interested in both.
I'm not sure exactly how to put this into words, but I'm looking for a woman who can challenge me intellectually outside of the bedroom and challenge me as a Domina inside the bedroom. Someone with a definite personality and mind of her own, but who has a very strong urge to serve, take instruction, and the occasional beating, as well as be cared for and cherished.
I am a stern Domina, but loving, and sometimes outright goofy during scene - bodily noises and 'oops' moments happen and I'm not ashamed to giggle at them. I will not laugh at another person's fantasies, nor will I ridicule them (unless they'd like me to :) for a lack of experience.
If you're not looking for something as serious as what I've outlined above, please still feel free to respond to our profile. We are actually looking for casual partners for playdates until that special someone can be found, as well as new friends in the lifestyle. We're in the Dallas/Acworth area NW of Atlanta.
For us it IS a lifestyle, we've just signed his slave training contract (previously he was submissive, but wants to take the plunge and go deeper into a slave mindset) and we try to live 24/7 as best as our current living situation will allow.
We live with my sister and another roommate in a house full of kitties, friends, cooking and college students - all four of us are currently in school for one degree or another - but no children. As soon as I've graduated and obtained my nursing license, my fiance and I will be moving into a place of our own while he finishes school - it'll take a while as he wants to get a masters in engineering.
Having a woman move in and live 24/7 with us would be amazing, but we've got a little over two more years before that will be possible. For the mean time, we have about once a week on the weekends (usually Saturday evening) that are available for private 'playtime,' as we call it, when the sister is at work third-shift and the roommate hides upstairs. We'd love to share that time with a submissive/slave/switch female and although our roommate will be in the house, he's very respectful of privacy and won't interrupt us.
If you survived reading our nearly-a-novel profile and would like to chat/meet up somewhere public, drop me an email. Who knows, we might just click :)
Time for an update!
About a month ago, my boyfriend became my fiance!
A few months before that his dog, Chester, moved in with us. Chester is around 90lbs, a Rhodesian Ridgeback (short-hair, energetic breed) and I'm including this in my journal because I know a lot of people out there are afraid of big dogs. I was actually terrified of big dogs for many years before getting to know and getting to live with Chester. He has a crate and has no problem spending time in there, especially if he gets a rawhide chewy to take with him ;) so no worries about having to interact with him if he makes you nervous. If I remember I'll put a pic of him up on our profile.
Just thought I'd include a head's up for anyone who's nervous around dogs - I know that's not necessarily something I would consider a 'pleasant surprise' when meeting new people for the first time. Obviously my fiance and I are major animal people, so there's bound to be cat and dog hair in my house, in case you have allergies, but I'm also very meticulous about cleaning up after the dog and the kitties. A fellow animal lover would be a plus, but isn't a requirement for casual playdates.?
Switch females: please be aware that I will not be
submitting to you at first, if at all. I know that sounds vaguely rude and I apologize for that. I just want to be up-front and clear on the details. I prefer that to getting surprised later on and so do most of the other BDSM-ers that I've met.
I do have my submissive moments, but
they're very rare. Submitting is simply not in my nature, which is why I seek it in others. (After all, where would all the Dominas of the world be without a subbie? Up a tree without a ladder, that's where :)
I would love to have someone willing to act either as a co-domina with me, or a
co-sub/slave with him. And if you're new to the lifestyle and are seeking
Domina training, I'm your gal! My slave is more than willing to be experimented
on and loves to submit to two women at once. And I love teaching! Yes, I really do :) It's just fun for me to watch someone else's confidence and personal expression grow, whether through dominance or submission. It's a really rewarding, enjoyable experience.
What we're looking for in a woman - She must be
into other women and preferably enjoy the following things, although we're
perfectly fine working within another person's hard limits:
Oral sex (giving and receiving), anal sex (receiving from a man or from a
strap-on), heavy bondage, kitties (I have several; I love the furry little
buggers) and have good manners and a strong desire to please/serve. I am more
than willing to offer training to newbies and/or enjoy playing with experienced
BDSM-ers.
For newbies - I've trained a few subs/slaves as well as been a slave
myself for about two years as an adventurous teenager. I love helping people
find/expand their limits, but have the utmost respect for those limits and will
not even push them if that's not requested. That being said, I'm a bit of a
sadist (lol, okay, a lot of a sadist, and my slave is a lot of a masochist) and
thoroughly enjoy offering pain to those who want to try it out or just flat out
want it.
I'd just like to thank scottb for the beautiful photos he did of myself and my subbie (viewable in my profile photos.) He is totally professional and a joy to work with. He's the kind of photographer who instantly puts you at ease. Thanks again, scottb - You did a gorgeous job!
