This entry is to answer all the enquiries about my neck.

I am still currently off work and yes my neck is still in a brace and looks to be so for a while longer.

Thank you all for your well wishes

What once worked so well for you, will eventually fail to bring the results you seek. So when conditions change, you have the valuable opportunity to change along with them.

Life by its very definition is always changing. People who make the most of life are those who expect the changes, welcome them, and find the positive possibilities in each one.

When you see changes occurring, instead of making a judgment make a careful observation. You cannot stop the changes that are already taking place, so your best strategy is to find the opportunities that are embedded within them.

And those positive opportunities are most certainly there. Rather than being fearful of the changes, be curious, and you'll see the hidden value in those changes.

You can count on the fact that the world will continue to change. And you can always choose to take the actions that will make those changes be for the better.

-- Ralph Marston

Go ahead and feel that disillusion fully, then ask yourself this question. What specifically would make the disillusion end?

Somewhere within you is a vision that is being stifled. Dig it out, and find a positive way to make it come to life.

Instead of being drained by disillusion, become energized by the vision that you long to express. Transform the reason that you're feeling down into a positive purpose that drives you forward.

Discover the meaningful challenge that you're aching to take on. Experience true fulfillment as you steadily work through that challenge.

Feel the disillusion, learn what it is telling you, and then you can leave it behind. For from that disillusion you can step forward to a new and higher level of accomplishment.

-- Ralph Marston

Truly desire

Stop wasting your time on merely keeping up the appearance of having a successful life. Put your moment-by-moment focus on actually living a joyous, fulfilling life.

Reach higher, not because it looks good to do so. Reach higher toward the accomplishments that will genuinely fulfill your purpose.

You have the power to attain what you truly desire. The key is that you do indeed truly desire it.

For it is authentic desire, and the deep purpose behind it, that will motivate you to sustain the effort. Authentic desire gives birth to focus, discipline, resourcefulness, effectiveness and persistence.

Take the time and do the work to fully understand what you truly desire. The more clearly you know what it is, the more surely you can make it real.

-- Ralph Marston

It's important to keep in mind that your sense of enjoyment does not come from anything that's outside of you. The enjoyment you experience comes from you.

Certainly you identify that enjoyment with various people, places, things and situations in your world. Yet the reason you know these things as enjoyable is because you choose to enjoy them.

When you're willing to let go of what you enjoy, you can actually enjoy it more. When your energy is not consumed by possessiveness or fear, you have more energy available for true enjoyment.

Every moment and every experience is precious for what it is. Instead of striving to hold tightly to it, let it come, let it go, and let the next moment bring its own unique treasure.

Allow enjoyment to flow out from within you. And there will always be plenty to enjoy.

-- Ralph Marston

Playing is a superb way to learn and improve. Consider how very many things children learn in their first years of life, and how much of that time they spend playing.

Being overly serious and rigid can bring your creativity to a standstill. Relax, and give yourself permission to play.

Those tasks you enjoy most are the tasks at which you're most effective. Approach your work with a playful sense of delight, and enjoy the experience of improved performance.

Allow yourself the special joy of being curious and playful. Even in the most complicated challenges, there's room for fun.

Play, and be an enthusiastic lifetime learner. Play, and create delightful new value in your world.

-- Ralph Marston

The possibilities in life have no limit. Those possibilities you fulfill are the possibilities you choose to embrace and embody.

Life is whatever you can sincerely imagine it to be. Those possibilities that you conceive of, understand, and value are the ones you bring to life.

If you continually hold conflicting possibilities in your mind, then that same conflict will shape the events and circumstances of your life. Focus instead on the good, valuable, desirable possibilities that support and complement each other.

The things you seek become yours when you allow your life to express them. Think of what you can do right now, in this moment, to bring to life your most treasured dreams and values.

Every thought, every word, every action matters, and adds to the substance of your life. When all that you do faithfully expresses the person you are, life is filled with richness and meaning.

-- Ralph Marston

Whatever may happen, whatever condition may arise, you can adjust to it and make the most of it. Not only can you survive in the face of changing conditions, you can indeed prosper.

When you look at new developments through the lens of your existing assumptions, they can often appear overwhelmingly negative and hopeless. Yet when you start working your way through the new conditions, brilliant opportunities begin to appear at nearly every turn.

Circumstances are constantly changing, and even the changes are constantly changing. As you continue to adapt, and as those around you also adapt, positive new possibilities emerge and take root.

It's difficult to know precisely what tomorrow will bring. Yet you can know with confidence that whatever tomorrow does offer, there will be a way for you to make the most of it.

For the value and goodness of life never go away. They just continue to be presented to you in new and more fulfilling ways.

-- Ralph Marston

Experience, in that small way, the freedom of being in control of the way you feel. And realize that you can extend that control to every situation in which you find yourself.

The little things most certainly do not have to get you down. And neither do the big things.

At any moment, the way you feel is the way you choose to feel. The way you respond is the way you choose to respond.

Do you really wish to be under the control of those who do not have your best interest at heart? Of course you don't.

Base your feelings on the unique, valuable person you know you are, and on the positive possibilities available to you. Feel the genuine greatness of this moment, and you can bring it to life.

-- Ralph Marston

If you had the power to decide what types of opportunities would come your way, what opportunities would you select? If you knew that your experiences would equal your expectations, what would your expectations be?

In fact, you do have the power to choose the way that much of your world will be. You do have the ability to decide what kinds of events, experiences, opportunities and circumstances come your way.

For the world you experience is the world with which your dreams, your thoughts, your expectations and your actions most closely resonate. The world you see and live in, is the world you most sincerely expect to see.

The universe is filled with endless possibilities, and those possibilities keep growing more numerous with each minute. The way you live determines which of those possibilities come into contact with your life.

With your thoughts, with your actions, with your values, dreams and expectations, you do indeed choose what kind of world you live in. The way you are, is closely mirrored in the world you see.

-- Ralph Marston

All around you are things you can see and touch and physically manipulate. They are part of life, but they are by no means all there is.

You cannot hold love in your hand, and yet you know for certain that it exists. You cannot capture joy in a box or an envelope and yet you have no doubt that it is real.

When the outward concerns of life seem to be overwhelming, remind yourself, there's more. There is so very much more to living and being than those things you can see and hear, taste and smell, touch and possess.

Even those losses and disappointments that feel big and burdensome, are small in comparison to all the beautiful, positive possibilities living within you. Look beyond the noisy, superficial distractions and remember the miracle of your existence.

Live your life around the values in your heart. And those everyday pains and nuisances will lose their power to bring you down.

-- Ralph Marston

If you try to outrun life, you miss much of its beauty. Instead of racing ahead to cover more ground, see the treasures that are right here and now.

Rather than resenting or regretting what has already happened, focus your thoughts on the good you can do in this moment. There are plenty of opportunities when you choose to see them.

If you're constantly chasing life, the best of it eludes you. Decide to do a little less pursuing and a lot more enjoying.

You cannot do all of this week's breathing, or eating, or sleeping in just one day. There's plenty of time to get everything done if you'll just stop wasting so much effort on jumping ahead.

Seek to live in harmony with the rhythm and flow of life. Live life as it comes, and it will come to you in great abundance.

-- Ralph Marston

You have learned many things from the journey that you've taken. What do you wish to learn now?

From a vast array of possibilities, you have selected certain specific ones and successfully followed through with them. What are the possibilities that most interest you now?

It may sometimes seem that life is what happens to you. In truth, it is exactly the other way around.

Life is what you choose, what you do, what you think and what you create in each moment. All the other things going on provide the space and circumstances in which you make your life happen.

What do you choose to do with this day? Now is when you can bring your favorite dreams to life.

-- Ralph Marston

It seems fair and reasonable to expect your problems to be solved by the people who caused them, but stop and think about it. Do you really wish to give those people who caused your problems any additional control over your life and your future?

To move your life in the direction you choose to go, you must be willing to take full responsibility for it. That means moving past what's easy and accepting that things are not always going to be fair.

Perhaps life has given you a burden you don't deserve. Instead of seeing that as an excuse to give up, see it as an opportunity to give more.

Though you may not have brought the troubles upon yourself, you can nevertheless make positive use of them. Choose to take full responsibility for your own situation, and you'll begin to see how you can rise from it to a level that's higher than ever before.

Real success does not result from everything going perfectly. Real success comes when you're willing to move forward no matter what may happen.

-- Ralph Marston

Realize what a grand opportunity exists in even the smallest of matters. Today is a day like no other, and you are magnificently blessed to be a part of all that it encompasses.

The wind blows, the sun shines, night falls, and some days bring brutal cold while others offer stifling heat. There is beauty, there is tragedy, and there is exquisite fulfillment along with bitter disappointment.

On the surface, life is filled with much adventure, activity, change, confusion, excitement, joy and frustration. Underlying it all you'll find abiding peace and goodness that can never be denied.

You have the unique, unmatched good fortune of being you, right here and right now. Take a brief moment to realize and remember who you truly are.

Then look out at the vast expanse of possibilities that surrounds you. And dive lovingly into it in your own special way.

-- Ralph Marston

Enlightenment is not the accumulation of knowledge or wisdom. It is the full realization of what you already are.

Richness has nothing to do with material artifacts or financial transactions. It is the surrender to an abundance that has no limit.

What you seek is not somewhere else, or this or that. What you seek is now.

The more you look for it, the more it hides from you. Relax, remember the source of your deepest yearnings, and allow yourself to know their fulfillment.

-- Ralph Marston

Being open to the abundance of life means being open to the unknown and unexpected. If you hide away from what you do not know, you'll never discover anything new.

The world is constantly changing, and many of those changes can seem frightening. Yet within each and every change there is opportunity.

When the world changes, legions of positive possibilities are born. When the unexpected happens, there is much new value to be created.

Choose to welcome the constant newness that is essential to life. For it brings new ways to more fully express and fulfill your own unique purpose.

In every unexpected turn of events is a pleasant surprise waiting to be discovered. Open yourself to the freshness of each dawning moment, and find those magnificent treasures that have just been born.

-- Ralph Marston

I was browsing through some profiles today and found this on one of the profiles I looked at. I thought it made for some very interesting reading. 

10 Ways to Lose Your Mistress

1.  Being more interested in your  own fetishes than those of your Mistress
2.  Not making sure she knows she matters and is a priority to you
3.  Not calling her or responding to her ASAP
4.  Not devoting yourself to making her life more enhanced by having you as her pet
5.  Mistaking her politeness for a weakness
6.  Not being honest with her at all times
7.  Not showing her respect at all times
8.  Not being appreciative that she chose you for a pet
9.  Trying to top from the bottom
10. Assuming she will be your last Mistress 

How can you move toward your dream when you don't think you can do it? Set your thinking aside and follow your heart.

Thoughts and feelings are powerful and extremely useful, yet they do not have to control you. You control you.

Pay heed to your feelings and listen carefully to your thoughts. Then act according to what you know, in that part of you beyond thought and beyond feeling.

Thoughts and feelings are important parts of life, and yet they are not the whole essence of life. Keep yourself connected to that ineffable presence that is life itself.

Be guided by what you think and what you feel. And all the while, be true to who you are.

-- Ralph Marston

Your perspective gains much value when you consider it from the viewpoint of another perspective. Those who willingly, respectfully and thoughtfully entertain skeptics become the most authentic, passionate and convincing believers.

The value of what you know depends on being aware of what you do not know. Learning arises from the acceptance of your ignorance.

The most valuable experiences are those which are filled with surprises. The sights you've never seen before, and the sounds you never expected to hear, can open you to higher levels of awareness.

There is no end to the variety in the universe, and it grows with every moment. Do not hesitate to seek it out, for there will always be more.

You are never too old to feel the childlike wonder and delight of experiencing something new. Step outside of the world you know, and keep on finding new worlds to explore.

-- Ralph Marston

The more you live and experience and accomplish, the more fully you evolve. Every moment is an opportunity to add strength and effectiveness to your life.

Every experience helps you more clearly see and understand the magnificent, enormous potential of your life. The joys and the sadness, the pleasures and the frustrations all enable valuable discoveries.

The more fully you understand who you are and what you have, the more effectively you can put it all to use. Take advantage of each opportunity for discovery, in each moment, in each encounter, and in each challenge.

Every experience is a learning experience. Every day is a voyage of discovery.

A lifetime of discovery awaits you right now. Climb aboard, eager and enthusiastic for whatever experience awaits, and begin the journey.

-- Ralph Marston

Savor the exquisite joy

What you focus upon becomes real because of the energy you give to it. What you are most thankful for becomes stronger and stronger.

Dive deeply into who you really are, and have the courage to explore your most treasured dreams. Keep yourself connected to those dreams, and they will play out upon the stage of your life.

The world is what you most authentically perceive and know it to be. There is no limit to the beauty and joy with which it can appear.

This very moment is the most profound and powerful experience ever. Because in this moment is the experience of life and its countless possibilities.

Allow yourself to savor the exquisite joy in the very best of those possibilities. Let all the value and goodness that is yours to live, find a home in your life right now.

-- Ralph Marston

You have learned many things from the journey that you've taken. What do you wish to learn now?

From a vast array of possibilities, you have selected certain specific ones and successfully followed through with them. What are the possibilities that most interest you now?

It may sometimes seem that life is what happens to you. In truth, it is exactly the other way around.

Life is what you choose, what you do, what you think and what you create in each moment. All the other things going on provide the space and circumstances in which you make your life happen.

What do you choose to do with this day? Now is when you can bring your favorite dreams to life.

-- Ralph Marston

Learn to love making a positive contribution, and your life will grow richer. Learn to love being around people who are different than you, and you'll gain many valuable new perspectives.

Learn to love discovering what you do not know, and your knowledge will greatly expand. Learn to love truly listening, and your wisdom will increase.

Learn to love giving, and your life will be blessed. Learn to love being thankful, and you'll know real abundance.

Learn to love the ordinary moments, and you'll find each day filled with warm golden treasures. Learn to love simply being, and you'll rise to a whole new level of awareness.

Learn to love something about each day, and your days will bring rich fulfillment. Learn to love, and you'll know how to live.

-- Ralph Marston

There is no limit to what you can imagine. And what you imagine, you have already begun to create.

Allow your thoughts to travel often to beautiful and magnificent places. In your mind, construct all the rich details of the life you wish to live.

In order to reach for a dream, you must know what it looks like, how it feels, and where it is. Long before you actually get there, your mind can enable you to experience all these things.

Every success is first a success of the imagination. What wonderful pathways will you dare to imagine?

Set your imagination free, and it will show you who you are. Let imagination guide your efforts, and your dreams will be fulfilled.

It is great to be alive, on this day, in this place, with things just as they are. And you are truly blessed to be you, with your own unique and valuable gifts to offer each new moment.

Making the most of this beautiful moment is really quite simple. Just allow the authentic, driving purpose that lives within you to be expressed in your thoughts, words and actions.

Sure, there are difficult problems and formidable challenges in this world. And yet even the challenges and difficulties eventually bring positive value to life.

For in working through those challenges, you learn, you grow, you create and you discover new, delightful possibilities. When life compels you to give your best, you end up getting better, stronger, and more capable of living with richness and joy.

Life is beautiful right now, as it is. And what's better, is that you can make it even more so.

-- Ralph Marston

Sure, you've run into problems in the past. Yet there is a way to get past every one of them.

When it is important enough to you and meaningful enough for you, you will find a way. There is a positive, effective step that you can take this very moment.

It will require effort on your part, as well as commitment and persistence. Fortunately, you are fully capable of all those things.

Yes, you can do it, and in the process you will more fully become the beautiful, unique person you are meant to be. You will grow more capable, more confident, more knowledgeable and experienced.

When your objective is connected with the purpose that drives every other purpose, there is no doubt that you can do it. Begin now to work your way there.

-- Ralph Marston

For in the unknown, there are possibilities that have no restrictions. When contemplating the unknown, your imagination has no limits.

Though the unknown can be frightening, it can also be magnificently beautiful and inspiring. You can put into it whatever you wish.

In the realm of things you do not know, there is plenty of room for the joy of discovery and the enlightenment of learning. There is ample space to dream, to envision, and to grow.

To act as if you already know everything is to deny yourself all the good things that are yet to be imagined and discovered. Mystery gives life a depth and richness that you would not want to be without.

As each moment passes, make good use of all the things you know. And be thankful that you don't know it all.

No limitations

If there were no challenges standing in your way, where would you go? With absolutely nothing holding you back, what would your life become?

It's easy to get so caught up in pushing against your limitations that you start seeing yourself solely in terms of those limitations. Yet you are so very much more.

Instead of identifying yourself in relation to the challenges you face, dig deeper and find the real person inside. For the truth is, you exist apart from any challenge or limitation, and it is a powerful exercise to get solidly in touch with who you are.

Yes, there will always be obstacles and limiting factors. And the best way to get beyond them is by knowing that they do not define you.

Imagine a world with no limitations, and discover who you are in such a world. One by one, the challenges will fade in the distance as you express the limitless vision that is yours to live.

-- Ralph Marston

Make it real

The past seems so real because you know so much about it, and as a result it commands much of your attention. Consider what would happen if you could put your full, undivided attention on the valuable and creative things you're now able to do in the present.

Whatever you focus upon grows more and more influential in your life. Because the things you focus upon are the things you act upon, and every action has real consequences.

Your life is what you choose to make it, and the time to choose is right now. What you do with the moment at hand is more important, by orders of magnitude, than any past disappointments or present difficulties.

This is the day for you to make a difference. This is your moment to transform nagging problems into magnificent opportunities.

You are able, right now, to choose any thought, any action, and any path. This time, you can choose the very best and truly make it real.

-- Ralph Marston

Had an interesting weekend. Spent some time with friends catching up.  Had breakfast with a dear and close friend yesterday and caught up with  "flight boy" again.  Hope to see him next weekend.  What a busy day yesterday was.


Starting a new job which is going to keep me rather busy during the week just leaving weekends to catch up with friends, so here's hoping they will forgive me for not being as available as I once was during the week.

Hope everyone has a great week

Positive thought for the Day


Do not be afraid to shine.
This world needs what you have to give.
Open up the areas of your being,
Expose them to yourself - to others.
You are valuable.
You are unique.
You have much to give.
Do not be afraid to give it.

As we risk ourselves, we grow.
Each new experience is a risk.
We can try, and maybe fail,
And, as a result, grow-
Or hold back and stagnate.

You have the potential
To be anything you want.
You are free to choose.
You are limited only by your fears.
Let your dreams take over.
Fly with the eagles.
Soar into life.
The world is waiting for you

                                                       Author Brian A. "Drew" Chalker

Positive thought for the day

Who you know you are

Many of the good and valuable things you do will go unnoticed by everyone else. Do them anyway, because you will know.

Many of the contributions you make will not be fully appreciated by others. Make them anyway, because they're the right things to do.

It's great when you receive recognition for the work you do and the high standards you maintain. Yet even when there is no possibility of recognition, there is still plenty of reason to give your very best.

Even when no one else is watching, you are watching. Even when no one else appreciates the value of what you're doing, you understand that value.

Your honest, authentic view of yourself influences all that you do. And that view is formed largely during the times when no one is watching.

Be ever true to yourself and to the values you hold dear. Your life is a living expression of who you truly know you are.

-- Ralph Marston

An interesting weekend all round. Munch and play party went well and all had a wonderful time.

Met the subby boy and while all is good, circumstances prevent it going anywhere but at least we each have a new friend.

Had a visit from the "flight" boy, as I call him, today and he looks great after being so ill. Things look promising. Time will tell.

Piked out on a dinner date tonight because of feeling very tired from the weekends fun and work related activities and lack of sleep over the last few nights.

Back to work tomorrow .. what a drag

What an interesting weekend I had. Faced some demons from the past, had lunch with a lovely friend.

This week I hope will go quickly because next weekend is going to be filled with fun and excitement. 

I have a subby boy coming for a visit. Wonder what he will think of the Melbourne scene when he meets a few of us at the Southern Munch?

It's been a hectic week trying to combine work and have a social life at the same time.

I have become re acquainted with a friend from my very long past business life. I am looking forward to watching them explore and grow within the scene. You know who you are and I wish you an exciting journey.

The munch for Australia Day looks like having a good attendance considering how many functions are available that weekend for the Melbourne scene.

I will be meeting a boy on Australia day weekend who is visiting Melbourne for a couple of days. Who knows what the future holds there?

My life is good. I have my sons who love their mother for who she is. I have many wonderful friends who love and care for me as I do them. 

2008 is going to be an exciting year.

A New Year Thought

"It Depends on Us... Another year lies before us like an unwritten page, an unspent coin, an unwalked road. the pages will read, what treasures will be gained in exchange for time, or what we find along the way, will largely depend on us."
-- Esther Baldwin York

Positive thought for today


Allow Your Own Inner Light to Guide You