My duty to a sub is quite
strong and defined. It is a Domme's responsibility to safeguard their subs
mental and physical well being, answer their questions, and assist them in
finding the place within them selves where they can feel safe and
comfortable in exchanging their power and giving their Gift.
Submission is a Gift. a very very precious one. meant to be cherished and
treated with the utmost respect. The giver of such a gift is meant to be
treated in the same manner. It takes much strength and courage to be submissive. It takes a strong spirit
and a willingness to explore and learn not just about submission, but about
themselves. It is a Domme's responsibility to assist a sub in learning to
love themselves, to respect themselves, to explore who they are, and to give
beyond themselves.. It is our responsibility to be sure the sub understands
what their limits are, which ones may be tested and which ones are set in
stone at that time. Just as in life, as we grow and learn, limits change,
and the Domme must change with the subs needs just as the sub changes with
the Dommes. HOWEVER it is always a give and take. It is also the Domme's
responsibility to be sure the sub understands that they CAN walk away any
time, that they CAN say no. It is also our responsibility to be sure that
if the sub wishes to challenge a limit that is intense. or that they are not
sure they truly wish to challenge, that they are safe and secure in doing so
and if it becomes too much for them that the activity is stopped then and
there till they have time to regroup and decide if they truly are ready to
explore that area. It is a subs responsibility to be sure they communicate
their true desires and needs to their Domme, their fears and limits and to
be sure if they become uncomfortable. mentally or physically, that they
indicate that at once. Limits are not to be barreled through like a road
block. They are to be slowly opened, and every aspect of them explored in
detail and time given for each step forward. They are like rock climbing,
you must make sure you have a solid footing before you try to go further,
that your pinions are well secured and your safety ropes are strong. if you
do not you will fall.and there will be nothing to catch you. It is a
Domme's responsibility to be sure that a subs footing is strong after each
advance and that the safely gear is well in place before a new advance is
taken. Slow and steady is an imperative.
I take my responsibilities as Domme very seriously. I will
always make sure their footing is solid and secure before another move
forward is taken.
