MistressMagyck

So sick of time wasters and fake profiles! Do you seriously think Im gunna fall for that shit?

• The sub is responsible for learning/ knowing all rules, positions and expectations placed on them during their training. To demonstrate this knowledge the sub is expected to be able to recite the rules at any time.

• The sub is responsible for keeping a daily journal/diary covering at a minimum her significant activities and thoughts for each day, as well as all activities directed by her Mistress and all thoughts related to her training or sexuality. The journal shall be kept in a form that can be shared with her Mistress on a daily basis.

• There is to be no sexual stimulation without her Mistresses direction. When directed any sexual stimulation will be met with great lust and zeal whether self, Mistress originated or mechanical.

• The sub is responsible for maintaining her health. This includes but is not limited to:

• Adequate sleep

• Healthy eating

• Exercise

• Moderate consumption of alcohol only

• No chemical abuses (legal or otherwise)

• The sub will address her Trainer as "Mistress" in every written or spoken communication as part of every thought or answer communicated. Unless in the company of “vanilla” friends, family and acquaintances.

• All questions asked by her Mistress will be answered completely, openly, honestly and promptly, no matter what the subject matter or who might be in the audience to overhear.

• The sub shall submit only to her Mistress.

Further, unless agreed upon prior to consummation of training, sub is prohibited from participating in any non-platonic relationship with anyone except Mistress unless directed to do so.

• The sub is responsible for asking for clarification of things which might be unclear in her orders or rules. She will continue to seek clarification until clarity is achieved.

• The sub is responsible for speaking up when too much is being asked of her - whether her time is over-demanded, or her limits are being pushed too hard – SAFE WORD!!!. She must handle with grace any questions resulting from this for they will be to learn, not to continue to push.

A Reminder.....

10 ways to lose your Mistress:

1. Trying to top from the bottom.

2. Being more interested in your fetishes then your Mistress.

3. Not calling or responding ASAP.

4. Not making sure she knows she matters and is a priority to you.

5. Not devoting yourself to making her life enhanced by having you as her pet.

6. Not being honest.

7. Not showing respect at all times.

8. Not being appreciative that she chose you for a pet.

9. Mistaking politeness for weakness.

10. Assuming she will be like your last Mistress

Since each person has different goals, desires, fears, needs and limits in submission, each will also have different objectives and ends in any kind of training. These are things that should be clarified before any serious training begins to prevent problems from arising during the training period.

Questions which you should be prepared to answer include:

• What you want from submission/slavery/service

• Specific things you would like to be trained for

• Specific things you would like to explore

• As many limits as you can elaborate

• A list of things you think you need to do to consider your training complete

• Why you wish to go through training

My role as you trainer is to facilitate your exploration of submission/slavery. There are some things which I beleive to be part of what the role of a submissive/slave is yet which may not fit with what you are trying to become. These are not necessarily all that important to me unless you should choose to enter a longer term arrangement than just a training.

There are some things which I will try to get you to do as much as possible:

• Physical lack of privacy

• Mental lack of privacy

• Physical positions

There are some things on which I will not bend. If you choose to enter training under me, then these are things you must agree to:

• Complete honesty

• Communication - while things are on the net, this means daily email in the form of a dairy/journal as well as normal email conversations and some mechanism for a more real time conversation for at least an hour a week (chat systems, phone, etc)

• Agreement to my training rules

There are many things that I hope to find in someone who wants to be trained or wants to learn BDSM. The first is that she wants to be trained by me. Without that, there is no need for me to look any deeper.

Assuming interest in having me train them, I look for:

• Intelligence - I'm a cerebral person and like to connect with something between the ears before connecting with someone between their legs

• Openness - If one is not willing to share, one is hard to trust

• Sense of Adventure - Be interested in trying new things, no matter in what area of life

• Strength - Weak people can not choose to submit, and I am only interested in teaching someone who has the strength in them to choose, & who also has the strength of character to follow through with her promise to submit at the points where I'm too stubborn to budge

• Honesty - First, one has to be honest with themselves before they can be honest with another. Honesty is important as I need to know what someone is thinking/feeling, not merely what they think I want to hear.

• Patience - While this is something that can be increased with practice, it is still something I look for to make things go smoother.

• Dedication/Commitment - I have talked to many people who are interested in learning BDSM and in being trained. Many of them are interested, but not seriously, to them it is a game, something to explore and play with, and while there is nothing wrong in that, for itself, I take this much more seriously than that. While this is something that I do not expect to be offered immediately, I do hope that the dedication to explore and live the role is there, for it needs to be offered before things can really get going. It may take months before one is ready to offer this commitment, or it may take months before I am ready to accept it and commit myself to training her. During this time, we talk and get to know each other, etc., with the only commitment being her interest in continuing to get to know me as a potential trainer.

• Self control/Discipline - One can not give what one does not have. If you can not control yourself and your own urges, you can not expect someone else to do so for you.

Along with the above qualities I look for someone to have positive interests and reasons for wanting to be involved in a BDSM relationship. While BDSM is a very healthy exploration of one's self and one's sexuality, there are many people who come to it for all the wrong reasons and it can do them more harm than it ever does good. Some of the wrong reasons include: seeking control over one's own life; not knowing any other way to live (a past of childhood or relationship abuse can contribute to this feeling of low self-esteem and a feeling that one deserves nothing more than to be used and humiliated). Good reasons include: sexual excitement; a desire to please; a freedom or release from everyday responsibilities and choices; and perhaps an innate knowledge that one will be happiest when serving (some people I have talked to have had fantasies as early as age 3-4).

Something else that I look for that I can not describe here fully is the ability to interact with me well. Some people just do not get along, and some can interact quite well on a superficial level but fail to actually connect on any kind of meaningful level. The only way to know if someone matches up well here is to spend time talking.

In the ideal, someone that I train should be someone that I am going to still be calling "friend" in 10 years or more. I would like to be able to get along with her long past the time that I am helping her to explore in a training relationship.

(the use of “her” is to be taken to mean male subs also)