I am a Dominant female seeking intelligent conversation with other people who are interested in, dabble with or live the lifestyle. I have been engaged in the lifestyle for 12 years, although it has been actively on and off. I got my start as a submissive and was in the role long enough to know that it didn't suit me. Although I have much knowledge to offer a new sub or Dom/me and welcome any questions, I still have so much to learn myself. I and the lifestyle are ever evolving and the only way to stay on top of either is to continue to educate oneself. I am straight and interested in exploring the BDSM lifestyle with a truly submissive boy. I am looking for an honest, intelligent, sincere, dedicated, trustworthy boy 28-48 years of age(age is semi-negotiable if I feel one is worth the work, has the emotional maturity and we are compatible), for companionship and possible long term relationship. I am not interested in boys who are already taken.. this means married, engaged, or a LTR. I demand full attention and do not share. I love sex, have a high drive, but like to keep it within the confines of a long term relationship. I also know that BDSM does not = SEX nor does SEX = BDSM.... I believe that a healthy relationship includes both. I am not really seeking a play partner, but if I connect with someone special, I may be open to that option. I am very open-minded and love creative play. The way to my heart is through my mind.. I love intellectual boys. ~wink, wink~
*Know that if I feel that I am not compatible with you, there is a reason. I do NOT have to explain this reason to you. *If I choose not to get to know you better, that is my choice and I do NOT have to explain myself to you. *If I feel that you are being rude and disrespectful, I will point it out and you can correct it or move on! *Not all people are compatible... get used to it! *When I say no, I mean NO! *I am brutally honest. If you cannot handle the truth, do NOT message me! *I am NOT judgemental!!!
Fetishes:
Into: https://.com/fetishes/143024, https://.com/fetishes/85538 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/2 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/10143 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/70957 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/5 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/4258 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/599 (watching others wear), https://.com/fetishes/900, https://.com/fetishes/183872, https://.com/fetishes/793 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2294, https://.com/fetishes/101986 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/3924 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/179676 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/253384, https://.com/fetishes/6 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/7 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/10 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/2655, https://.com/fetishes/12 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/2128 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/14 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/131 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/16, https://.com/fetishes/273 (watching others wear), https://.com/fetishes/601 (watching others wear), https://.com/fetishes/22 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/3051 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/23, https://.com/fetishes/125 (watching others wear), https://.com/fetishes/905 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/590, https://.com/fetishes/3324 (watching), https://.com/fetishes/1149 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/30 (watching), https://.com/fetishes/34 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/36 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/3593 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/289 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/305, https://.com/fetishes/231, https://.com/fetishes/480 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/43 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/111 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/1158, https://.com/fetishes/22976, https://.com/fetishes/603 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/46 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/42184, https://.com/fetishes/2318 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/3305, https://.com/fetishes/50 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/1121 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/247 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/458, https://.com/fetishes/356 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/65 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/891 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/37800 (watching), https://.com/fetishes/191 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/841 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/71 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/251, https://.com/fetishes/218, https://.com/fetishes/324 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/189 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/72 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/110823 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/75, https://.com/fetishes/76 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/81, https://.com/fetishes/519, https://.com/fetishes/89 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/92 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/279245 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/94, https://.com/fetishes/1064 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/3040, https://.com/fetishes/4325 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/96 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/35 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/1547, https://.com/fetishes/349 (watching others wear), https://.com/fetishes/100 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/6976 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/108332, https://.com/fetishes/103, https://.com/fetishes/46970, https://.com/fetishes/105 (giving).
To those of you viewing my profile, if you've taken the time to read my entire profile-congratulations!! To those of you that made it through my long list of fetish interests and curiosities, yes, I have many interests and a curious nature! This list and these curiosities do NOT define me, make me who I am, nor do they give you a right to put me in a category of your idea of some type of unsuitable Domme because I am curious about poly households, because I have certain kinks or enjoy some fetishes.
I too am looking for long term relationship--one that is built on trust and respect, that is full of love, a submissive who is loyal and wants to serve, a friend, partner, lover---to grow in the lifestyle together. You don't know me, so quit judging me based on what your perception of some words thrown on a page are and get to know me---- Otherwise, FUCK OFF!!!
I just need to make a statement that would seem really obvious to most people, but maybe not newbies who lack experience and are unsure about what they are really seeking.If you meet a Domme online and she offers to collar/own you or put you under consideration after only speaking with you for a short period of time, please be wary. No one in their right mind would consider a submissive/slave without knowing them unless that person has an ulterior motive. Because I have watched this happen to many submissives and I am the "friend" who is there to help pick up the pieces afterwards, I felt the need to put this on "paper".
Be cautious!!
I would encourage any submissive who is truly seeking a Domme to read the article in this link. It's quite informative and explains what most of Us are looking for in a submissive/slave.
Getting packed and the countdown begins for SINergy. I am so excited!! I guess events are probably a better way to meet real lifestyle subs than doing so online. I am feeling less jaded and more hopeful. I am also super excited to spend time with the girls, it's not often that I get away!! I'm looking forward to the upcoming weekend---Camping, Kink, Education... what more can one ask for??
UPDATE!!!!! For those of you who do not know this, you can hover your arrow over a message and read it without opening the message. Yes it does say, "Unread" once you delete it, but that does not mean that I have not read your messages. It means that I have so many messages to read that sometimes I just do not open all of them and if they do apply to me or are not something that I am interested in, I am not being rude but trying to quickly read through the many, many email messages that I receive every day. I do have a bulk batch and I also read through those, even though they are in bulk for a reason ie. you live in another country, you do not meet my age requirements, you are a fe/male Dominant. If I find one that interests me, I will respond to it, but generally I receive messages that say things like, "u have beetuful foot" or "ur sexy". I have no reason to respond to such well thought out messages. ~rolls my eyes~ If you think that I have deleted your message without reading it and feel it was worth my time, then try and message me again...it is much nicer than sending me nasty emails trying to gain negative attention from me.
So a recap for those who do not read entire entries. UPDATE!!!!!!! YOU CAN HOVER OVER A MESSAGE AND READ IT WITHOUT OPENING IT!!!!
I have returned from my vacation, but my days seem to be just as busy. I am trying to make some time for chatting but am having little luck with it. My sleep cycle is all off and I am up for 18-32 hours at a time and then still not able to sleep. I'll need to discuss it with my doctor on Friday. I feel completely wiped out!!!
Since I've been asked this question a few times as of late, I do not have a collared submissive, nor am I actively seeking. I am here to talk to people I know well and to get to know people that I feel I have some type of connection with. If you fall into either of these categories, you definitely know it!! I stopped actively seeking because it just hasn't been working out for me. I cannot seem to find exactly what it is that I am looking for or when I find someone that may work... he backs out because he is scared. It's difficult to actually connect with someone when he lives so far away, cannot travel, is too busy, or lies about who he really is. It's not only difficult for you subs to find the right one, it's equally difficult for a Domme to find the right one as well!! Good luck and happy searching.
This vacation is keeping me very busy. I got the chance to attend a munch and will be attending another one on the 3rd..I am so excited and just cannot wait. I met new friends and had wonderful conversations. If I do not respond to your messages, it is because I just do not have the time right now. I will get in touch with those of you that I feel deserve a response when I have more time on my hands. If you do not hear from me it is because we are not a suited match, I am inundated with messages and I cannot answer them all. I do appreciate anyone's interest in my profile, but I do recommend that you read it in it's entirety and you will be better equipped with information so that you do not need to ask me stupid questions. I wish everyone a wonderful summer and will be talking with you soon.~~Cat
I am enjoying my vacation. To those of you who respond to my profile in the next 5 weeks, please know that I am very busy with family and friends. When I have the time to get back to you, I will do so. I have not been on YM lately, which is where I chat with some of you who are more well known to me and I may come on collarme to clear out my message box, but do not have the time to properly address your message-be patient, as I will get to them as time allows. ~Kindly, Cat
I am currently vacationing in the Traverse City area and visiting with family and friends. I can't wait until the July Munch to see old friends and meet new ones!! I'm excited about being back in the lifestyle and searching for my perfect submissive. I know which characteristics I am looking for and which to avoid. For you boys out there that do read my profile-just because we share similar interests, don't assume that you are my "perfect" sub. Please take into consideration that I am on vacation and busy. If you decide to message me be patient for a response and don't inundate me with repeated messages because it may get you blocked. Enjoy your 4th and stay safe in this heat and humidity!! ~Cat
I am currently not seeking a submissive. I am at a place in My life in which I am happy, satisfied and satiated. If you wish to chat for the sake of friendship, I more than welcome that, but be certain you will not convince Me to change My mind regarding taking a submissive. There was one who had My interest and things went where they usually do.... Nowhere. Why is it that people represent themselves as one thing, appear to be, but in the end turn out to be something totally different?~Cat
To those of you who chat with Me, then erase or close your accounts... please don't bother Me in the first damn place. I don't have the energy to play your games and waste My time on you.~Cat
Journal entries are for opinions and comments of the user writing that entry. If you are offended by My comments or do not wish to hear/read what I have to say, then it is clear that you should just refrain from viewing My profile. I shall write what I wish here, and each will take it as they may, some with a grain of salt, and some will feel the need to comment. If you have nothing important to say, or you already know that I don't wish to hear your generalized bs, then don't email Me. This applies not to just any one person or group of people, but to everyone in general. I have the sense and control to keep My opinions to Myself, and others should as well. Now that I've had My daily rant, which is My right, unless I wish to hear from you, leave Me alone. I am coping with the death of a close family member and you are making things much worse!~Cat
Had an interesting day today, chatted with a slave.He wasn't what I expected, and couldn't offer much information as to why he's a slave. Believes that everyone should know what makes a slave a slave.... All I saw was a hurt little boy, who felt the need to close his eyes and ears, assume that the world was his and only his, and that nobody but the right Owner could understand. If one walks through life assuming, with eyes and ears closed, how is he to find an Owner??? Anyway, I was blocked for the first time in My life, and apparently I am now a stalker. ~laughs, rolls eyes a bit, and laughs some more~ I've been stalked in real time, as well as here online, I know I don't have the necessary qualifications! Anyway, to each his own.
Enjoyed living in Hawaii, would do it again anytime!!. Loved living on base, all those men in uniform.... yummy! Unfortunately, I am back in Michigan now for about a year and a half, missing the warm sunshine and beautiful scenery. ~Cat
Things are starting to to fall into place and keeping Me really busy. I will be relocating to Hawaii at month's end. A move that I am looking forward to, though I am feeling a little apprehensive. I am ready to get away from all this cold weather and hopefully I will be missing out on winter's snow. It will nice to be able to see Mine again, but saddening to leave behind friends and family.
