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Lesbian Female Dominant, 53,  BRONX, New York
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*****UPDATE *****

Hello everyone,
I am not new here and truth be told ive been here almost 2 years now. My name is QN_SHARDEA Aka Misstressastassin1. Some call me Mistress and some call me QUEEN. Exactly who is QN_SHARDEA?

I am glad you asked. She is an ebony female lesbian bbw dominant that is mixed with cherokee indian. And yes i am a bbw and very proud of it. If bbws are not your cup of tea then get a life grow up and move on!!!

She is a very strong and an independant woman. She is a woman of substance . She is the woman that your mom warned you about. She is very kinky in her throughts. She plays hard and expects it in return.

She is uninhabited in and out of the bedroom. She can be very moody at times. And can go from 00: degrees to an ice cold bitch! Shes a very pampered person and shes used to getting what she wants when she wants it.

She has been a Mistress in the bdsm realm for 10 yrs now . She is the proud owner of 1 Slave and 3 Pets. At current im here seeking 2 women or 2 tgs, to join my house with the Pets/slave girls i already have.

At current i am not looking for 24/7 tpe. I am just looking for online right now. And as i get to know the person we will discuss 24/7 tpe down the line.

The 2 women that i seek must be from the ages of 20 to 38 yrs old.
All slaves that choose to serve me must have a cam. As i can see my orders are being carried out . I find most i talk to on here have a damn problem being seen. Truth be told i own 4 cams and i feel if u wanna see me on cam then u 2 must have a cam as well. No cam don't bother to write me. And upon writing me if you don't have a pic on your profile please include one in writing me or u will not get a reply from me in turn.

And i am addressed as Mistress at all times not hey you. Any mail without addressing me as Mistress or one liners will be ignored. Please note im a Mistress and not a social worker. And i am not into games. If its games you seek contact milton bradley.

Since ive been here almost 2 yrs now ive encountered alot of fakes and wannabes just seeking sex and nothing else. If that is all you seek and not serious about serving A very real and a no nonsense Mistress please don't waste my time nor yours keep it moving cuz i am not the one!!!

I have much experience in forced feminization,domination,submission,humiliation,cbt,chastity,electro,firecuffs,strapons,bondage,watersports,roleplay,pony play, sensory deprivation,orgasm denial,wax play, tit torture and tickle torture. With that said i would like to wish everyone goodluck in all their endevors.



I kneel, supplicant before you
my will
offered up in quiet acquiescence
awaiting your approval
or reproach
the fine line between pleasure and pain
becomes ever sweeter with your control
with every touch, kiss, word
smoldering embers are kindled
tormenting desires awakened
I quiver
captured by heat and hunger
bend me to your will
My Lord
show me what you most desire
my purpose but to serve
through your dominion I find myself
You, the Master of many
my only .












 Dominant Female


 New York

 5' 1"

 265 lbs



 African Descent



Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive female


Online Romance

 Lives For:

 Fine Dining (Expert)

 Flea Markets (Expert)

 Gambling (Expert)

 Garage Sales (Expert)

 Movies (Expert)

 Musical Theater (Expert)

 Shopping (Expert)

 Volunteerism (Expert)

 You begging (Expert)

 You worshiping my body (Expert)

 You worshiping my breasts (Expert)

 Disciplining you with a cane (Expert)

 Keeping you locked in tamper evident chastity at all times (Expert)

 Collaring you (Expert)

 Giving you corner time facing the wall (Expert)


 Electrical Play (Expert)

 Exhibitionism (Expert)

 Eye contact with me is not permitted (Expert)

 Disciplining your genitals (Expert)

 You massaging me (Expert)

 Erotic touch

 Fire Play (Expert)

 You kissing and worshiping my feet

 Gags (Expert)

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 You doing all of the housework (Expert)

 Humiliation (Expert)

 You at the end of my leash (Expert)

 Wearing masks (Expert)

 Placing you in masks (Expert)

 Massage (Giving) (Expert)

 Mental Bondage

 Modern Primitivism (Expert)

 Training you to be completely
obedient to me and only me (Expert)

 Total control of your orgasms (Expert)

 You worshiping me with recitations and rituals

 Sensation Play (Expert)

 Deciding what you wear

 Treating you like my butler (Expert)

 You servicing me with your mouth (Expert)

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Public Play (Expert)

 Role Playing (Expert)

 Rubber Fetish (Expert)

 Sensory Play (Expert)

 Spanking you (Expert)

 Speech Restrictions (Expert)

 Dominating you with a strap-on (Expert)

 Theatrical Scenes

 Vibrators (Expert)

 Wax Play (Expert)

 Whips (Expert)

 Card Games (Expert)

 Cybering (Expert)

 Horror Movies (Expert)

 Role Playing Games (Expert)

 Romance Novels (Expert)

 Science Fiction

 Simulation Games (Expert)

 Sitcoms (Expert)

 Blogging (Expert)

 Poetry (Expert)

 Writing (Expert)

 Female Sovereignty (Expert)

 Lifestyle BDSM (Expert)

 Nineties Music




 Seventies Music

 Christianity (Expert)

 Baseball (Expert)


 Amusement Parks (Expert)


 Clubbing (Expert)



 Travel (Expert)

 Violating your rear (Expert)

 Blindfolding you (Expert)

 Tying you up (Expert)

 Cages (Expert)

 Feminizing you

 Forcing you to wear diapers (Expert)


 G-spot Stimulation

 Local BDSM Community (Expert)

 You being my domestic servant

 Erotic Hypnosis

 Gas Masks (Beginner)

 Hoods (Expert)

 Medical fetish play

 Going to munches


 Plastic Wrap Bondage (Expert)

 You worshiping me in stockings

 Suspension Bondage

 Tickling you while you are bound (Expert)

 Vacuum Stimulation

 Watersports (Expert)

 Arcade Games

 Board Games (Expert)


 Comedy Shows (Expert)


 Online Chatrooms (Expert)

 Puzzle Games

 True Crime

 TV News

 TV Sports

 Web Surfing (Expert)

 Alternative Medicine


 Astrology (Expert)

 Candle Making

 Cooking (Expert)



 Online Auctions (Expert)


 Singing (Expert)



 Psychology (Beginner)

 Alternative Music


 Folk Music


 Pop Music


 Volleyball (Expert)



 Coffee Shops (Expert)




 Ultimate Frisbee

 Yachting (Expert)

 Outdoor Bondage

 Body Art

 Cross Stitch (Beginner)

 Drawing (Beginner)


 Investing (Beginner)


 Meditation (Beginner)

 Painting (Beginner)

 Pottery (Beginner)


 Political Activism

 FLR Options (Expert)


 Victorian Lifestyle

 Eighties Music



 Horse Racing (Expert)



 Antique Shows

 Bar Hopping

 Bicycling (Beginner)


 Hiking (Beginner)

 Hunting (Beginner)

 Martial Arts (Beginner)



 Shibari (Beginner)


 Historical Shows (Beginner)

 Art Collecting





 Hip Hop Music


 Basketball (Beginner)

 Curious About:

 Horseback Riding (Beginner)

 Rafting (Beginner)

 Sculpting (Beginner)

 Soap Making (Beginner)

 Paranormal Phenomena


 Polyamory (Beginner)

 Vampirism (Beginner)



 Modern Paganism (Beginner)

 Scientology (Beginner)

 Wicca (Beginner)

 Body Building

 Kick Boxing (Beginner)


 Art Galleries (Beginner)

 Bird Watching (Beginner)

 Going to the Opera (Beginner)

 Renaissance Faires (Beginner)

 Climbing (Beginner)

 Pilates (Beginner)

 Rollerblading (Beginner)

 Scuba Diving (Beginner)

 Skate Boarding (Beginner)


 Surf Boarding (Beginner)

 Tai-Chi (Beginner)

 Weightlifting (Beginner)

 Yoga (Beginner)

 Chemistry (Beginner)

 Cryonics (Beginner)

 Swinging (Beginner)

 Veganism (Beginner)

 Working Out (Beginner)

 Agnosticism (Beginner)

 Auto Racing (Beginner)

 Badminton (Beginner)

 Football (Beginner)

 Golf (Beginner)

 Ice Hockey (Beginner)

 Paintball (Beginner)

 Skiing (Beginner)

 Sky Diving (Beginner)

 Snowboarding (Beginner)

 Soccer (Beginner)

 Street Hockey (Beginner)

 Tennis (Beginner)


 Fishing (Beginner)

 Nihilism (Beginner)

 Keto (Beginner)

 Druidism (Beginner)

 Feng Shui (Beginner)

 Hinduism (Beginner)

 Islam (Beginner)

 Judaism (Beginner)

 Kabbalah (Beginner)

 Latter-day Saints (Beginner)

 Reiki (Beginner)

 Taoism (Beginner)

 Hard Limits:

 Objectification (Expert)


 Gourmet Cook

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Journal Entries:
6/11/2008 5:17:50 AM

Damn has it ever been somedays that you thought you should of stayed in bed. Or just days your mama told you there would be days like these?

About a month ago i thought i had found my perfect slave to serve me.

But im not understanding ones desire to serve and they are never around to serve their owner.

For that im back to scratch and looking for not just 1 woman like before but 2 women for my Queendom to fullfill my desires. And i do hope the next women that wanna serve me has time for me. In the beginning i would like to know if they have any pryor committments that would prevent them from serving  me.

5/12/2008 4:38:57 PM


Please tell me why is it that some people namely men don' t read your profile fully before wasting your time and their own.

Be it known it does say on my profile i am here only looking for women!

Why is it some people don't understand that!

Everyone has a preference in what they are looking for and women are what im looking for! if you can't  understand that then kick rocks and keep it moving!

There was a foul mouth jerk that messaged me on here and when told im only seeking women and no men:

He calls me a Fake Ass Bitch!

When one is looking for an owner you never disrespect them.

He is not a sub/slave and he has no honour. 

A true sub/slave would never talk like that to a dominant.

If one comes at me that way ill block you faster then you can blink your eyes!

I  owe nothing to anyone here. I am already the owner of   4  pets!

Any Questions???

3/31/2008 6:58:00 AM
10 rules for dominants.


1) Be Patient

Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give you bottom time to get to know you and what you like. Finesse and subtlety are major elements of dominance. Similarly, strength and gentleness go hand in hand. The sensitivity and awareness (or lack thereof) that you show in the real world is likely to be repeated in the playroom.

2) Be Humble

You may be God's/Goddess' gift to the world, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunities to show how good you are - and plenty of opportunities to make a fool of yourself. No matter what you claim, the³real you will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for a failure by developing expectations that you know you can never reach.

3) Be Open

Although the top is classically considered to be the teacher in SM, you can always learn from your bottom, no matter how inexperienced. Be willing to learn from other dominants that may have a totally different perspective from yours. Try to approach by-now-familiar trips with an attitude of wonderment and discovery. Be aware that everyone has her or his own personal style.

4) Communicate

You are responsible for finding out basic, essential information about the people you play with, such as experience, limits, likes and dislikes, and health information. Playing SM without this knowledge is like Russian Roulette. Talk about your head-space and you review of SM with your bottom, so that any uncertainties can be dealt with before you start playing. Clearly spell out roles, rules, limits and contracts. Do not take for granted that your bottom instinctively knows the ground rules.

5) Be Honest

If you lack experience in an area that your bottom would like to experiment with, be honest about it. Your partner has a right to know that. Be honest with yourself and take your submissive only to those levels at which you are completely in control of the situation. Safety should always be the first concern, taking priority over how hot a particular scene is.

6) Be Sensitive

There's a very fine line between a sensitive, caring dominate and a self-righteous, insensitive overbearing clod. Your scene should be a creative synthesis of you needs and fantasies, and your bottoms needs and fantasies. Although, on the surface, your submissive is serving you, what actually is happening is that dominant and submissive are serving each other. Earn the complete trust of your submissive and never violate or even threaten to violate that trust. His or her submission is a gift to you. Use it appropriately.

7) Be Realistic

End the scene with the bottom wanting more, not wishing there had been less. Remember that power, control, and sensitivity are the keys, no just the intensity of the stimulation. Be clear about what is fantasy, and has little to do with what works in practice. Your favorite porno picture books may be stimulating in themselves, but don't try to imitate them to the last detail.

8) Be Really Dominant

Submissives are looking for someone who will take over their body and mind, not just for brute strength. Real people are wanted, not just cardboard images from ads or stereotypes. Your dominance enhances you whole existence. It does not cover up or substitute for other areas of your life - it is you. Make your submissive fall in love with you, and expect them to give themselves up to you totally. Follow up on rules, expect obedience, and punish appropriately when it is called for. Don't shirk your responsibility to your bottom or to your sister/fellow tops. Be dependable and expect dependability. You have agreed to take the dominant role - now take it!

9) Be Healthy

Like any strenuous activity, SM requires that its participants be in top physical and emotional health. Many factors, including the amount you sleep, your eating habits, and your alcohol and drug intake affect your performance and endurance during a scene. Don't attempt to do SM when your physical or emotional energy is low. As a dominant you have a special responsibility to be in control of yourself and on top of the scene. An attitude of ³drugs and alcohol don't affect me that much...I can do it anyway² violates your submissive's trust in you and can be dangerous. If you don't want to accept the responsibilities, you shouldn't be playing the game!

10) Have Fun

After all, sex is all about having a good time. You have earned, and you are entitled to the unique, intense pleasures which come from responsible, creative SM play.

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