mistressarletta

Look, what I want is NOT complicated. See, there is this language, called English, which has many dialects and slang words, yes, but, it also has a basic set of words and phrases that really mean what they say, or close enough, so that when someone says "slave" the people listening know that they mean "unpaid worker that is going to work it's pretty arse off for me, make money for me, be a part of my life, follow orders, be polite and respectful to all, and generally not be an uppity bitch with delusions of godhood and way to many demands about what I should put up it's arse."

Get a frigging dictionary and a thesaurus! There are some online. Now, look up the definitions and use the smallest modicum of common sense:

I want a slave, or a few slaves, who will serve me in every aspect of however  I NEED them to serve, with the exception of those ways which would break their spirit, mind or body.

They don't have to be pretty, old, young, tall, short, fat, thin, male, female - but, they do have to be fully male or fully female, without dressing to pretend to be the other sex.

They don't have to be rich, poor, atheist, religious, introverted, extroverted, or anything else  EXCEPT ....  LOYAL  OBEDIENT  HARD WORKING THOUGHTFUL  CAPABLE   LISTENING  ACCEPTING OF PUNISHMENT but never seeking it and their fetish, their primary fetish must be to do things for other people out of a sincere and deep, driving need.

BONUS POINTS if they write real stories or novels, not technical books and not pornography or gore/horror schlock.

They must not be "toilets", and they must not expect sex with me.

Now, stop asking frigging stupid questions, sort your shite out, and if you really want to be owned by a truly dominant woman, rather than just to have your arse diddled by another fetishist, get in touch with me.

And, yes, dearhearts, I WILL test you! If you refuse to participate, then I know you are a fake. So, bye!

You know, when I was a slave, what I wanted to know, primarily, about anyone I served is 1) Are they going to respect the things that I cannot do (physically) or that I just will not do (social, spiritual, law abiding vs law breaking stuff)?  2) Are they any good at giving orders?

You can tell a lot about how serious someone is, not by how much they threaten you with pain (which anyone can do), but, by if their orders are clear, and, their willingness to clear up reasonable misunderstandings without resorting to insane bouts of screeching.

If they take being your owner seriously, in the positive aspects, they are almost certainly going to take the rest seriously, too.

Because I do not go around telling people that I am going to grind their face into the dirt, after spitting in their mouth, right before shoving a broomstick up their arse, because they failed to hang the toilet paper right, they assume it means I am incapable of grabbing them by their hair, pulling them down to their knees and standing on their head with one foot, while I whip them, for getting far too lippy and free with their speech.

Now, would I do that?  For that, probably not. For insulting my mother, almost certainly.

Example? Fair enough. When my ex was still my husband and it had already been established that I could kick his ass, when he tried to beat me down one day, we came to a sort of truce.  Allegedly. See, it was time for a family gathering. We decided to go to where mine was, as his didn't like him and no one liked them. But, I demanded a promise from him that he would not start insulting my nephew or acting  rude to my mother, etc.  We had a good, long talk about it and he promised. We get there, and, within minutes, not only is he acting rude, but, he is walking toward my nephew, saying horrible things and with his fist raised. So, I grabbed both his wrists  while reaching up to secure a finger of each hand and bend them back as far as they would go without breaking. And, I put my knee in his back and pull his arms backward until he loses his balance and goes down gently to his knees. Then, I told him "You promised me. Now, you can't stay." and marched him out, put him in the vehicle and made him stay there. I had the keys.  Yes, he could have left, but, I also had his wallet and all the money, and our children and the keys to the apartment.

Tried to beat me down one day? Yes. He told his friends, right in front of me, that he was going to bitch slap him a bitch. And, I told him we are not having that sort of relationship, so if he raises his hand to bitch slap me, he's going to find himself being the bitch that was bitch slapped with his own bitchy little bitch hand for trying to bitch slap a bitch. He did not believe me. Until he was down on the ground and I was slapping him in the face with his own arm.

I am strong, fast, intelligent, and resourceful. Not as strong and fast as I used to be, but, you know, more than enough to deal with the average man who is not insane, but, who does not want to be a slave; so, surely, for those who are going to be obedient, there should be no problem at all.

Of course, the more you doubt me, the more I don't want you.

"The practice of S/M is the creation of pleasure. … And that’s why S/M is really a subculture. It’s a process of invention. S/M is the use of a strategic relationship as a source of pleasure."Michel Foucault

Do you agree?

Before you go further, here are two very important, time saving questions.Be honest with yourself and answer them to yourself.:

1. Are any of your fetishes related to bodily fluids, emissions, or other releases (blood, urine, feces, scat), animals, children, extreme abuse up to the removal of body parts or the drawing of blood, burning with cigarettes, or anything of a similar nature?

2. Do you love, like, or live for any of the things which are on my hard limits list, over to the left - as in you are unwilling or unable to do without them in your life?

If the answer to either, or both, questions is yes, goodbye. If the answers are both no, proceed. 

I am not a fetishist. I do not seek fetishists. Some milder slave fetishes may be accommodated. The questions below will help to determine if we are of similar mindset. Answer them and I will tel you if it seems we should proceed, thereby saving us a lot of time, one way or another.

There is another saying , I enjoy: "Start as you intend to finish." I am not here to converse randomly with slaves. I am here to create a strategic relationship as a source of pleasure - mutual pleasure. You want to be trained to the will of another, I want to train another to my will. There is our common ground. Now, let us see if there is further compatibility.

If  there is, we will discuss contracts, and, if all goes well, begin to serve and be served, in short order.  I am, however, taking the advice of both sayings, and I am not compromising on those things most important to my lifestyle. I would have a better life with slaves that fit into it, yes; but, I would have a worse life with slaves who did not, whatever their earning capacity or other charms. Money is not everything, either is kink. Compatibility of personality and a working toward common goals are what brings people together.


There are rules for the reading and use of this profile. Read it through and follow the rules.If you send me messages without doing so, I will probably delete them and block you.

 Rule # 1: If you are a slave or submissive, do not contact me without reading this profile in full, regardless of whether or no you wish to apply for the position of being my slave. However, if you do not wish to apply for the position, state so in your first message, after reading it, and feel free not to answer the questions, etc.

Rule # 2: Do not expect me to initiate contact. It may happen, but, I doubt it. Even if I do, Rule # 1 applies.

Rule # 3: I need serious slaves who are ready to begin the process of becoming real, in-person, full time, 24/7, 365 owned slaves-actual (as in workers, companions, entertainment; not lovers, not friends). By the reading of this profile and taking action, you will be showing me that you are one of them. Do not begin answering the questions, unless you are sure you want to be owned, and you want to be considered as a potential slave for me. There is plenty of information in my journal entries, to help you decide.

Rule #4: I am not here to be judged by slaves. My ways are what they are. True slaves will reorient themselves to my methods. Do not ask my interests, or what I will or will not do to, for, against, or with you. When I have reason to believe you are acceptable to me, you will be told what you need to know.

Rule # 5: This is not so much of a rule as a statement of fact: I love God; I believe that Jesus is his Son, who died for our sins. I tell you this, here and now, because so many "slaves" claim that I never mentioned this to them (even though it is mentioned several times in journal entries, and usually mentioned on my profile, and definitely mentioned during conversation). If this is going to be a problem for you: goodbye! You may give excellent service, but, no one does enough to make me think I would choose them over God.

Rule # 6: Answer the questions below, cutting and pasting them into a message and giving your answer below each question, in a neat and orderly manner. Do not ask, or try to guess, what answer I want. What I want is honesty. If the answers are acceptable to me, we will have a more informal discussion by email.

1. Are you looking for a domme (woman who is a sexually dominant play or romantic partner) or a dominant owner (someone who sets the rules and punishments, guides, teaches discipline, in a non-sexual, non-romantic capacity)?

2. Are you seeking sexual play, physical pain, emotional pain, or acceptance? What is your primary motivation in being a slave? What do you think makes someone a true slave?

3. Are you truly relocatable? How long would it take you to relocate, and, why?

4. Is your entering into service contingent upon living conditions? How so, and, why?

5. Would you rather give or have it taken by force? (Regardless of what "it" is)

6. Does who you choose to accept as your owner is hinge upon them fulfilling your fetishistic or sexual needs - must your owner utilize them to motivate you to service? Or, are they something that you could forgo, altogether (or, do part time with someone else) for the greater pleasure of being allowed to be in full time service?

7. What are your religious and political beliefs, or lack thereof, and how important is this stance to you? Does whom you choose as an owner hinge upon their religious or political beliefs being the same as your own?

8. Do you want a Mistress who is a goddess, claiming to have powers over you, controlling your will and forcing you to perform vile acts? Or, would you prefer a kinder, gentler Mistress who is only harsh when you have displeased her, who can be put on a pedestal, but, never wishes to be worshiped as a deity?

9. If someone sets you the task of cleaning the kitchen, does your head fill with ideas related to sponges, scrubbers, how to operate their dishwasher? Or, does it fill with thoughts of you in stockings, face ground into the linoleum by the booted foot of your owner, feeling your butt plug jiggle in fear, as you are growled at and told that you did it all wrong and must do it again? Which of these two scenarios, above, comes closer to your thought processes?

10. Can you serve a woman who is/will be married to another man? What if the man was made your Master? What if he was just her husband, no one's Master? What if he was a slave? What if she were his slave?

11. Are you prepared for the possibility of signing a contract, a letter of intent, and/or whatever else is necessary for a fully legal, binding agreement, complete with exchange of address and other contact information, notarization of documents, and etc?

12. When someone says "service" to you, what thoughts pop into your head? Is it more about oral worship, or vacuuming? 

13. Which sounds better to you: quiet but stern or vicious and bitchy?

14. Which sounds better to you: weird and wild or sedate and classy?

15. Which sounds better to you: sexual domination only or total domination without sex?

16. Which sounds better to you: waiting for your Mistress to return home or traveling?

I will read and consider your answers, your profile, and decide if we shall continue past this point. As I will read your answers, your profile, and judge if you seem to be compatible, on top of answering the questions, you would be wise to go and rethink your profile as most of the "slaves" I have encountered on here, thus far, have done a rather bad job of representing themselves.

Rule # 7:  Rethink your profile and make appropriate corrections. Your profile should reflect
 a) (live for) those things that must be a part of your life, because without them you would break, and (hard limits) those things you cannot live with, because living with them, you would break.
b) (hate) those things which would be suitable for punishment, or which you hope not to have to engage in, but, which you will engage in if ordered.
c)(love) those things which, if an Owner wished to reward you or see you smile, they could give to you, do to you, or allow you to be a part of.

Rule # 8: You will also change your profile, ceasing to seek other dominants or anyone besides friends. At the top of the section where typing can be done, you will announce that you are being considered by me.

Rule # 9: You will write to me and ask me, specifically, to consider you.

Rule # 10: You will send a photo or video that has you (I need to see your face, your eyes) holding a sign that says "Please consider me, Mistress Arletta?" or something of a similar nature, to prove your existence. Or, you may write it upon your body.

Rule #11: If you want to know what I seek, think, feel, what interests me, then, learn to read. I will not reply to you if you ask, for now, as I have provided much by way of journal entry, and you may also look up my yahoo blog. In fact, Googling my name should provide you with much information, since very few people on the planet have this name, and, even less of them are 42 years of age, Caucasian looking, and in Tucson, Arizona.

Obviously, the rules, above, are for the sake of slaves who are in the beginning stage of getting to know each other. We will discuss things in more detail, after the rules are followed, and they may ask questions after I have proof that they have read at least some of my journal entries.

Since it has been asked: Yes - slaves, submissives, Masters, Dommes, Mistresses, or any other persons who feel the urge, may freely use these questions as a means of screening, or as an enhancement to their profile or journal entries.

Well, there is one "slave" proven an absolute liar. Yesterday, he was telling me he would sign any agreement I sent him and begging to be my slave (probably while he was jerking off). So, I went ahead and I sent him the same basic contract that I also sent to someone I believed, more, and, I just got it back with a note that he will not sign this contract.

So, that's it for him. As I said before, the best way to get rid of a fantasist is to interject reality into their life.

Movies that I have watched over and over again, and am likely to watch many, many more times if the chance comes up:

Camelot (musical, Richard Harris)

Stranger than Fiction (Do not like Will Ferrel, in general, but, love this movie)

Sound of Music

The King and I

Anna and the King

The Outlaw Josey Wales

 North To Alaska

Life of Brian

Star Wars (the real one)

Braveheart

Rooster Cogburn

The Quiet Man (always frustratingly in need of more)

That is not all of them, by any means, but, it is a good selection. Should tell you something, maybe, if you are the thinking kind.

In fact, Camelot and the two other King movies could teach you a lot about more organic forms of servitude. Do you see the Queen prancing with the other ladies? Do you think it in any way means she could not have ordered them jailed or beheaded, if they overstepped their bounds? Do you see the King dancing with the school teacher, who is his hired labor? Do you think he could not have had her beheaded, regardless of if she overstepped her bounds or no?

Yet, there is laughter, friendliness - everyone is not nude, endlessly shackled and full of wounds, are they? Do you think it means these people do not know their place, either the rulers or the ruled? If they have forgotten, on either side, will they not be quickly reminded?

I want this, more than all other forms. Yes, shackles and chains and whips and corner time and all that are perfectly fine extensions of lifestyle, reminders, tools - but, without that organic certitude of place, it all means nothing.

Is this stupidity or just taking the piss?

(slave who claimed to have read my profile and have become ready to proceed, which, if he had read my profile and even tried to understand it, he would not have messaged me to say, on being told goodbye):

am sorry please give me another chance

Me:

Then do it right, this time.

(slave):

yes Maam

Me:

Don't message me, again, not even to say yes Ma'am, until you have read my profile well enough to understand what needs to be done and have the time by which to do it.

(slave):

Me:

Goodbye

Newsflash "slaves": If you are too lazy to follow simple instructions or even to read them and decide you don't want to follow them, you are worth NOTHING as a slave; and, if you still can't follow them, or won't, lazy or not, you aren't worth anything as a slave, then, either.

If you spend your time thinking with your cock then go to a site for people who want cocks and nothing but cocks. If you want a genuine, serious relationship based on ownership, maybe we should talk. Maybe!

The easiest way to dissuade fantasists from continuing on is to interrupt them with reality. Hence my profile. There is a local man who keeps asking if he can come spend time with me, yet, he will not read my profile and answer those few questions.

This is not a man who wants to spend time with me; he just wants someone easy to get close to, who has feet.

There is another man who shows up, asks me odd questions and insists he wants to be my slave, begs me to send him contracts. Then, he disappears for indeterminate amounts of time. So, today, while he was telling me how much he needs to serve, I told him to order pizza from Domino's - that way, with no risk of giving out credit card numbers or anything silly - he will learn that I am telling the truth of my address and I will learn that he is telling the truth about wanting to serve.

It has certainly been more than a half hour, and there has been no delivery.

Why do I keep him around, do you ask? Because, when he shows up and annoys me, his questions help me think, and, in this thinking, my contracts improve.Usually.

What I have learned, this time, is that there is a site where I can send documents to have them electronically signed (actually learned that a wee while ago), but, to do so the contract would need to be written in a "The undersigned" kind of way, instead of giving specific mention of a person throughout.  Or, I would have to fix the area where the names go to allow for room for a field so that it could be filled out electronically, also, as the need came up. Something to think about, then!

More on strategy:

Where are you today, slave? What is it you are doing? Who are you doing it with?

Would you like to, ever, do it again? Is it important to you? Would your heart break, your insides break, if you never saw those people again?

Now, that is the sort of thing that should be negotiated in a contract!

Don't assume. Plan.

"The practice of S/M is the creation of pleasure. … And that’s why S/M is really a subculture. It’s a process of invention. S/M is the use of a strategic relationship as a source of pleasure."Michel Foucault

The key word, kiddies is: strategic.

What does it mean, to say that S/M (which for our purposes encompasses sadism, masochism, slave, master and the whole shebang) is the use of a strategic relationship? What is a strategic relationship?

Well, first off, we look at the last word: relationship, which means "connection" So, this is not just people coming together for a good time, who do not care about each other, personally. This is about people who are seeking some form of actual connection with at least one other person. It doesn't have to be romantic, or sexual, but, it does have to be a true connection.

Therefore, if you are here, looking for a good time, you are not looking for anything connected to S/M, or bdsm, but, are looking for just kink or slutty fun, and you are cordially invited to leave. Yes, I have the right, means, guts, and balls by which to say that, just as if I belonged here and you don't. That is because I am, in fact, seeking strategic relationships as a source of pleasure, and I know that there are many others on this site who agree with me.

I don't expect that you will leave, but, I wish you would, since, obviously, you are clogging up the works, wasting your time and the time of those of us who are seeking an actual connection with someone(s). So, why not go to a site for persons who are looking for fetish fun? This is not it. Or, it shouldn't be. This is meant to be a nice, sweet little "dating" site, not a meat rack, and is for people who are looking for people who want to be connected , emotionally, with people like them.

Now, on to strategy, which means "an elaborate and systematic plan of action designed to achieve a particular goal"

Strategy is exactly why I just suggested those other people go off to some other site. They are not strategically placed to get the most, or best, results for what they are seeking; and, due to their lack of strategic maneuvering, what I am seeking is much more hidden, on this site, than it should be. Therefore, it is part of my strategy, to get what I want, to help them to see that they would be happier somewhere more geared toward giving them what they want.

I am thinking of the quote, above (which is, also, currently on my profile), relationships, and strategy, this morning, particularly because of a man who wishes to be a slave. He lives in Cardiff, and his profile says that he is willing to relocate.

He approached me, a wee while ago, him having no knowledge of where I was located, what I looked like, my age, height, weight or anything; answered my questions, and we had a great discussion of things, finding ourselves to be very suited in some fundamental fashions. There were two that we found we were possibly going to be a bother, which is religion and romance; but, he assured me he could do without the sex and romance stuff, at least for a while, and, while I am religious, I have no intention of forcing that onto others as it would be rude to God to do any such thing.

Suddenly, however, he tells me that he does not think we'll suit because he does not want to relocate to the United States of America (although, without being polite enough to use the proper name, in any fashion), not even for a little while, and, that his home is too small to share.

Now, the sort of relocating we were speaking of, was only him being here for 6 months, or less, out of the year, and, me being there, in the U.K., maybe, sometimes at his place, for 6 months, or less, out of the year. This is because I have reasons I want to be in Musselburgh, which is nearish Edinburgh, in Scotland, in the United Kingdom, at least sometimes, and I would like to travel at other times. This was nothing where anyone needed to change residences. He knew that. We had discussed it.

So, today, I, thinking strategically, suggested to him that he change his profile to indicate where he is, or is not, willing to relocate to, as it would save him and the people who might otherwise be interested in him a whole lot of time. Now, I will share with you the emails, omitting his ID, etc.:

Me:

I was thinking about you, this morning, and your not wanting to relocate to the U.S. of A. Nothing bad, really; just, that's the sort of thing that should be on your profile. Because, you do say you are willing to relocate, and you do want to be a slave, so, anyone who took you as their slave would assume you are "willing to relocate" to wherever it is they get off to. Since that is not the case, you should specify where you are willing to relocate to, and make sure that when you have a contract, it also specifies such things. Otherwise, you could end up over here, anyway.

Him:

That's a fair point about relocation, but moving to the US isn't easy without a green card, as I think everyone knows. I always thought that 'willing to relocate' mean something like 'within one's own country.'

Me:

No. Willing to relocate means "willing to relocate" , and, you do not need a green card, if you are only visiting.

So, if you are "willing to relocate" , but, only to a certain degree, you should say so. It doesn't matter what you think - it matters what the people who are looking for slaves think, when they see it. More specificity means less wasted time.

Him:

This may be nitpicking, but relocating means "not just visiting" therefore a green card would be needed to relocate, therefore I think it would be usually understood not to be possible. I really don't believe that one has to say "I'm only free to do possible things" because that is kind of obvious.

Me:

Right. If you were only going to do the things that are easiest for you, then, you would not be a slave, at all. Do you want to be a slave, or do you not want to be a slave?

If you want to be a slave, then, you must accept the viewpoint of others, not expect them to reorient themselves to yours. And, since 1) It is not at all impossible for you to relocate to the U.S.A., generally, it would be thought to be a  big lot of bother, but, something that you, the slave, has said you will do (relocate, in general with no specific criteria listed as to where or where not and why), so, it would be no impediment were everything else right. and 2) it is not your province to dictate what other people believe relocation means, for their needs,  or how they would view what "willing to relocate" means, your alternative to wasting a good lot of time for yourself and others is to be very specific as to what relocation means to you.

And, I already told you that relocation, for you, would mean, to me, that you would not need a green card, as I wanted to spend a good lot of time in the U.K. and the weather here in the summer time is evil, so I only want to be here, in Tucson, half the year or less. Since persons from the U.K. and the U.S.A. are allowed to visit 6 months out of the year, without having to resort to changing citizenship or getting specific visas, it is not even remotely impossible for someone from the U.K. to serve me, based on my needs, unless they are excessively poor and I have no other slaves.

Which is why you should make your profile as informative, in brief, as possible. Because, obviously, it is not about the green card - since the green card is not something required to serve me. I don't care what it is - I am not asking you to justify yourself to me - I am giving you good advice on how to prevent this particular b.s. from happening again. Being "willing to relocate" has no boundaries attached to it. And, many fine slaves do add a little something to their profile, such as how their company has branch offices in these three cities, so those are the places they are willing to relocate to, or how they do not want to leave their family so they are only willing to relocate within this limited area, or they absolutely would only relocate to other places in America or in Europe, or etc.

I was giving you that advice for your benefit. I don't know why that makes you angry or argumentative, but, I do know how much I have to put up with it. I'm blocking you for the rest of the day.

Yes, blocking him may have been a trifle harsh, but, then, maybe not; if he was my slave, and insisted on getting lippy, telling me I had to accept his interpretation rather than for him to accept mine, I might gag him. Might even do more than that. So …

Strategy is important. Which means, yes, nitpicking is important. It is how one gets rid of pests, after all.

So, if you are someone who knows what you want, lay it out on your profile and in your journal entries. Even if you only know a few things, let those particular kitties out of the bag, so that when people pass by your profile, they will see what it is you know you want and they can quickly determine if there is a reason for them to message you and find out more.

Also, read other people's profiles, as the ones who are most serious and knowledgeable as to what they want, have usually developed a profile that is more strategically apt. Yes, sure, it seems like a waste of time, but, how much waste is it to read 1-10 minutes of writing, versus reading hours of writing, for the next few weeks, before it is determined that at least one of you is wasting time? Read the profiles, as part of your strategy, to help you save time and energy, and keep you moving along in your search, without too many pit stops or too much disappointment.

And, if you don't know what you want, figure it out. If you don't know yourself, enough to be able to say what you want, at least for now, then you have no business even being in a relationship. No one can connect to you, until you are all there.

If you do not want pain, then do not seek an owner who will want to give it to you. That is my advice to you.

Me, personally, yes, I can give pain, but, I do not get turned on by the idea of torturing people. If I was going to whip someone, they would have earned it by their own bad behavior and it would have been seriously bad behavior. Or, perhaps, at first, I might give them a whipping, just to put them in mind of the fact that I can and will do so, so that when I tell them what not to do if they do not wish to experience it, they will have a clear understandng. Perhaps.

In truth, I would just as soon have slaves who did their work well, were polite and never needed correction at all. Some I have known have come darned close to that, so I know it is possible. Unfortunately, most of them WANT to be treated badly.

"For sure, I could work and bring home the cash, but then there are even better slaves than me out there. My qualities comes from the need of serve, the need to please. I will turn myself inside out to know that I have brought pleasure to my Owner with no thoughts of myself. "

Absolutely beautiful! I keep trying to explain this to potential slaves, that the most important thing for a slave to have is the willingness to serve. Mind you, I haven't the resources to accept slaves who do not work  for wages BUT they seem to think that if they can offer some exhorbitant sum per week that means they are the better slave and they can play tradesies, getting me to change my hard limits for hard cash.

Whereas they look down on slaves who, yes, make significantly less money, but, who think of the person they are hoping to serve, listen to them, help them do things, etc. 

The best slave I've come across on this site is not relocatable, has no money to spare,and is making me no offers to serve me, because we both know that we do not have enough nickles to rub together to make a bus ticket appear or anything. However, he knew I was tired, one night, and swamped with work, and, instead of demanding my attention as the other "slaves" were doing, he asked me to allow him to help with the typing.

He did help, too, quite a bit, even though I had to take time to train him.  And, that is why he is the best slave - he's proven he is polite, thoughtful, trainable to task, with no need to be "broken" into slavery. He wants to be that way, and so he is.

Mistress Arletta:
You sound very interesting. Pity about the occultism and not being relocatable. I like your attitude, as expressed. I hope you find someone who fulfills your need to be a slave.

Slave/sub:
Thank You for Your kind words. Indeed, I'm only interested in local dommes, but I love getting to know people no matter where they are :). Now, I must look at my profile again when I have a moment. I have an interest in the occult, but it's "just one of those things". I should make sure I haven't expresses more of an interest than is there :). Thank You again for Your kind note. I hope You, too, find what You seek. I also hope we can still converse, and that our paths might cross in the future. Nice people, like You, are rare enough in the BDSM world, I regret to say.

Mistress Arletta:

Well, thank you. I don't know how intense your interest is in the occult - I just know how intensely I would like to avoid having it be a part of my life lol Yes, you are right: nice people are rare. Not sure I qualify, but, I'll take it and thank you, again.

Slave/sub:

Nice Dominant women in the BDSM world are very rare. At least, around here! Maybe it's the lousy weather we get around here?

Mistress Arletta:

Maybe it's the fact that I keep being turned down by potential slaves because they think I am not dominant, since I am not screaming at them, calling them filthy demands, or otherwise acting like a spoiled bitch in heat? Most men expect, and demand, abuse and sex, and they do not believe a woman can really just have a dominant personality, otherwise. Most men are twonks. So are women. Yet, some, of both sexes, can give one hope.

Slave/sub:

"Twonks"? That's my new favorite word of the day! I think that the BDSM world becomes a giant echo chamber. Women can be unpleasant and get away with it. Men start expecting that. Men get nowhere and stop really trying, becoming jerks. Women get so accustomed to that that they treat all men that way, making them more unpleasant. But, we keep trying. And we jeep searching.

Mistress Arletta:

Well, I would say it is the other way around; but, then, that is because I keep getting men trying to force me to be unpleasant. That's the way it has always been, even if they are looking for submissive women or just a girlfriend. Men tend to like nasty women. Not strong minded women, not strong bodied women - not usually - just bitchy, rude, money grasping women who would cheat on them quicker than a wink. They either want to submit to them or they want to subdue them. What they have no time for is intelligent, strong minded, strong bodied, reasonable women. So, yes, if I wanted to just find someone to do what I wanted, and I had no moral issues with it, I would go and call someone a few names, threaten to stick something up their butt, and, voila!: my bills would be paid, I would be ever so much healthier and prettier, my ex-husband would be beat up for being mean to me, and all would be lovely in my life, except for that amazing lack of conscience and tact. I like having a conscience. It keeps me entertained on those otherwise lonely nights.

Slave/sub:
I'm enjoying our conversation. My afternoon is a bit frazzled, but I promise I'll reply in a few hours!

Mistress Arletta:

Yes, well, I should be doing lots and lots of work, but, I have viruses, thanks to some jerk or another on this site. There's some person who claims to be from New York who has many profiles and sends out nasty viruses. Sometimes, unfortunately, he also claims to be from other places, or I would just avoid New York people. I have reported him, but, support never listens. So, my afternoon is very frazzled. See you later!

Slave/sub:

Hi, Ma'am! i'm finally home from work, so i can actually read Your profile and not try to write notes to You on my phone! 

i can see what You are talking about, where men are demanding a certain sort of behavior to fit their image of a Domme.  Is it really any different than a man expecting the Domme to dress in tight leather?  Or a man with a lengthy lists of things he wants You to force him to do?  These all have one thing in common: relationships, getting to know each other, are not the topic of interest.  That's not from where i come.  i love to play, too . . . but i want to get to know the person first and during and after. 

i have a silly question: how did someone send You a virus on CM?  i've never encountered that!

Mistress Arletta:

I don't know how someone sends viruses. If I did, I would be a far more dangerous person than I am now. Rahahahha. No, I still wouldn't be. I would just have a less messed up computer. See, I have issues with all of it. A man who is going to be submissive or a slave should not be making any such demands at all. I find it ludicrous that, in the main, the relationships stay exactly the same, and so do the outfits, regardless of what the sex is of the person claiming to be dominant in the relationship. The best way to determine if a woman is truly dominant, versus only pretending or only sexually, is to check her shoes, how many layers of makeup she has on, etc. Leaving room for interpretation by personality, profession, etc. I pretty much never wear makeup. When I do, it's because I want to. Otherwise, I don't, because I don't have to, just to feel like I have a face. And, most of the time, most people do not even notice. When they do, they are usually women, and they say things like "I wish I had the confidence to do that." And, yet, they often are the ones who think they are dominant. If you are a dominant female, you have the confidence to do that. Or, to dress up instead. Or, whatever. And, you are probably wearing comfortable shoes. I've never had to wear makeup and heels to attract attention. I have had to eschew them to limit it, though.

Slave/sub:

do agree with You.  Many people in the BDSM world have never "done anything".  They've thought about it forever, but they haven't actually done anything.  As a result, they don't really know what they want.  They think what they want is a woman to dress a certain way . . . they want certain acts, they want to be spoken to in a certain way.  In reality, they don't know what they want at all.  The problem is that these people don't seem to realize they don't know what they want.  Many of whom suffer from that lovely combination of "too little clue" combined with "too loud a voice"!  

For me: i seek a woman with whom i can have a conversation.  That's usually, in my eyes, a good start. :-)

Mistress Arletta:

That's a very good start. Having much luck with that? I've just had some nasty emails from a man who is local who says he is upset because I am unclear on what I want and obviously deceitful; but, in reality, he is a cross dresser and he knows I don't want one, so he is acting out. (sigh) Why do people take me making a choice of what I do or do not want as a slave as a personal insult? Why can't they just accept that what it means is we are not compatible and, then, move on?

Slave/sub:

It doesn't work well at all for me, given that I remain unattached. I've heard many people describe that sort of thing: a simple "I'm not interested" turning into huge personal insults. I don't quite understand this mindset, except to say it is SO frustrating as a male in the bdsm world! We are a dime a dozen, and finding anyone -- let alone the right woman -- can take so much out of a person! Not a justification or excuse, of course.

Mistress Arletta:

Yes, but .. I did not tell him I'm not interested. My profile says that if what you are into falls under my hard limits, not to waste our time, or something like that. Cross dressing is on there. We were not emailing each other, or anything. I had zero intention of personally rejecting him, as I did not know he existed.
If we had been in contact, I would understand it .. better.

Slave/sub:

By the way, on a little tangent, a LOT of dommes don't like cross dressers. 99% of the time, if I see a domme that shows an interest in cross dressers, she is a "pro" and needs to do this because of clients (pro dommes are often guided by what customers seek). One domme once remarked to me "what is so humiliating about wearing a dress? I wear a dress every day!"

Mistress Arletta:

From my viewpoint, well, for one thing I am not a domme. I realize that, for some people, it just means any dominant female, but, in point of fact, it refers to dominatrices, who are not necessarily dominant by personality. They are women who sexually dominate their partners and playmates, and, usually for money.

I am a Mistress, because I am the head of my household, always have been ever since I was an adult, and so I shall continue. But, that is a totally different tangent, and, most of the time I don't care, because I know the titles get interchanged, quite frequently, regardless of walk of life, around here.
I find cross dressers offensive. I have no qualms with men who are pretty, who want to put on makeup, who love to wear shiny satin things, or etc. It is no more natural or unnatural than when a woman does it. However, women do it to enhance their femininity, and their femininity is natural, because they are women and that is what being feminine means.
I am equally offended by women who simper, dress in sexy outfits, act brainless and prattle about how great it is to be feminine, because, they, like the men who do these things, have reduced the strength and beauty of the female sex into a gross caricature.
In the case of the men, however, they are also denying the strength and beauty of their own sex, instead of enhancing it.
People are too wonderfully made for that sort of shenanigans.
Besides, most cross dressers try to compete with women, and that's just wrong and weird. We get enough of that from other women.
What really, really offends me is T-girls, because they outright claim to be straight women on a lot of sites, and there are men who are looking for T-girls claiming to be straight men, and that makes it very, very hard to find someone to talk to if you are really just a heterosexual man or woman looking for your counterpart of the opposite sex.
Besides, high heels be damned, those boys have not put in the time or pain that comes with being female. When they pick up a guy, they do have to worry about being beat up, sure, for not being what he wants. However, so do women. On top of that, they have to worry about cancer of the uterus, cancer of the cervix, periods, PMS, possible pregnancies .. so, unless those men want someone to cut them open, implant a baby so that they can get stretch marks and permanently altered hip structure, etc.; or, unless they want someone to stop by and stab them in the lower back every month for a week or two, so they have some concept of the pain and trauma that is associated with being a woman, they should just not their silly shite off!

Slave/sub:

I've heard similar arguments about that: until he has to deal with PMS, what business does a man have to speak of his own femininity? :). But You have a very good point that most cross-dressers are trying to dress and act like a caricature of what it means to be feminine. I suspect this is because in the BDSM world, cross dressing is about humiliation. The humiliation is about losing ones masculinity. As a result, the whole thing becomes about taking something away, not about enhancing anything.

Mistress Arletta:

But, to me, it does not insult him - it insults femininity. Anyway, if someone likes doing it, it is hardly being forced. So, yes, what is so humiliating about wearing a dress? She is right. It would only be humiliating if you made them do it in front of their family or something, who were not aware and who would be shocked, and that would be mean to people who made no agreement to be treated that way; or, it would be humiliating for a man who was absolutely against it. And, I have done that to men, who kept saying "Why don't you get all dolled up?" and "It's not that hard to keep your stocking straight, your makeup  and hair 'done', and to walk in high heels and it enhances the mood, so there is no excuse to not do it. Women have to be men's fantasies."
Yep, I have taken some of those men and forced them to wear women's clothes, keep their makeup and hair done, walk around in high heels, and act like they think women should act in public, so they would have some clue of what they were talking about. They were not so much humiliated, as horribly frustrated, broke from all the money that goes into it, and with painful feet.

Slave/sub:

I knew one woman that was a Domme that lived with her sub boyfriend. He used to cross-dress a lot, and she got SO annoyed that he could handle heels better than she could! Ultimately, there is nothing humiliating about wearing a dress, in and of itself. It can, however, be quite erotic in the right mindset, with a couple that shares this together. But, a man demanding "make me wear a dress, dammit, so I can feel humiliated" is a bit silly! I do recall an experience that was not humiliating, but humbling. I have been put in a maid's uniform at various times when dommes have me do maid service. The simple uniform puts me in a mindset that I am a servant, here to serve. Not humiliating, as I said, but humbling: something very different.

Mistress Arletta:

Yes, well, I no longer deal in generalizations. That is to say, it does me no good to say "Some people like it." as I am not here to find out what some people like. I am here to find what suits me and cross dressers do not suit me. I would not find it erotic, I would find it insulting and I would throw the baggage out.
Besides, I believe with God there is some leeway, due to circumstances (ie:David eating the loaves of presentation), but, those circumstances truly have to warrant it, and he says not to dress as  a man if you are a woman, or vice versa. Obviously, a man who wakes up to find himself dumped in the desert, nude, should not eschew the dress when it is proffered by the helpful group of ladies traveling through. That is a very good reason to wear a dress, even though you think it is wrong.
I have to think it is wrong, because I believe in God and he says it is wrong, and, in most cases, he is provably right, since most men who dress like women sexually confuse themselves and other men and this adherence to assuming the visual aspect of "femininity" is what makes someone feminine hurts the relations between the sexes, promotes useless selfish sex above love and companionship, and generally helps screw up entire societies. The proof being that the entire societies are screwed up and very few people have any clue, anymore, who or what they really are.
However, there is this weird little desert tribe where, every so often -  I can't remember if it is every 5 years, once a year,  or what - all the men put on excessively odd makeup and robes (they look like desert dwelling drag queens) and perform very weird dances and facial tic sort of movements (think Tina Turner as the Acid Queen in Tommy) in the hopes of enticing women to them, and, then, later, they come around on camels and steal the women away from their home, if the woman wants to go.
Now, those men are doing much the same thing, by way of dressing, as the men who are cross dressers. The difference is that they are not denying that they are men, or trying to sexually confuse anyone, or wearing women's clothes so as to even inadvertently cause that sexual confusion. They are just being men, as men should be, according to their ways. So, it is not what you wear, so much, as WHY you wear it.
Also, there is the fact that part of being a Dom, Domme, Master, Mistress, etc. is to teach and guide the other person to being a better, more capable version of themselves. Now, there is nothing about abusing someone's mind, making them feel bad about themselves, that can possibly be construed as teaching them and guiding them to be a better person.
Better can be construed in several ways - but, if you are making them into something that is non-functional without you, or a total outcast in society, or a caricature, or in denial of their own true, born natural state of being, then what you are doing, whatever it is, is not something that can possibly be construed as "better".
People always ask "Well, what do you do for me?" and to some extent they are right to ask that, because there is no good reason to put yourself into the hands of someone who is simply going to use your money, ruin your mental and physical health, and, then, toss you aside when you can no longer play to their satisfaction. Those people are not Masters of anything. They have nothing to teach, they have nowhere to guide you, and they will not make your life better, in any fashion.
However, what truly dominant people do for slaves and submissives is rather subtle and hard to explain. It is not so much that they perform a specific task, usually; it is that, by their strength, they become a most excellent catalyst, focal point, touch stone, sounding board .. they are a strength to turn to, with rules to bind you in and keep you safe from the world when it is too much, and someone to care for the opinion of beyond all others - but, not so that they can send you out to a Qwik Stop with cum on your face, and you feel good about making other people uncomfortable; but, so you can move more confidently in society, knowing that, whatever anyone else thinks, you are doing the right thing and you know it, because they have told you that it is so and your goal is to please them by what you do.

Therefore, sometimes, there are things that are needed - again, not specific activities, but, more, things that bring about specific feelings - from time to time, for the sake of helping the slave or submissive remember that they should, can, and do please this person whom they belong to. That is why it is good, for instance, to sometimes cage a slave, so that they learn to wait with patience and that they can do this; or, to make them hold a position, so that they learn that they do have endurance; or , whip them, so that they know they can endure pain to reach a desired goal. That goal, in that case, being the knowledge that they endured, that they were brave, and that they pleased their owner. But, it translates into the work environment, into self confidence, into being bold enough to raise a hand and say " I have an idea." when you are sure your idea is worth sharing.
That's what they should be doing for slaves and submissives. So, that, if the slave or submissive moves on, or the owner is tired of them and moves on, or the owner is ill or dies, this person who has served them is a more whole, better person, who has the wherewithal to brave the world by themselves and take care of business. Even if the owner is no longer there, they have the memories of the rules, the sayings, the activities that helped make them a better, stronger, more capable person to help them along.
So, just like with cross dressing, it is all about emphasis and most people's emphasis is misguided, at best. Which, if that's what they are into, is their problem. My problem is finding people who have the right emphasis, as I am very tired of slaves who think it is all about being broken down, tortured, abused, and abandoned - and, yet, still hope for love and romance, and walks in the sunset. (sigh)
I find men in stockings, by the way, enormously attractive. In the Rocky Horror Picture Show, I am totally enamored of Tim Curry's character, when he is prancing around in stockings and a garter belt, with his nipples showing, looking all manly. Then, he puts on a dress that has funny bumps around the chest area, and I lose all interest.
So, if a man were to tell me he wants to wear stockings, a garter belt and matching panties, I would be relatively okay with that. If he wants to stuff a bra, call himself Cynthia, and giggle girlishly at me, I have no use for him.

capable of having good quality vanilla sex too, I might be interested in  
you.

IF you want a non-sexual, fully committed Mistress/slave  
relationship based on old-fashioned hard work and servitude, where you  
would be a real slave whose treatment - whether very good or rather bad -  
would be at my discretion - if what you want most is to give, to serve,  
and to be guided in life - then I might be interested in you.

IF you want to demand that kinky things are done to you, or to be treated  
like anything other than human, go away! I  have a toilet, and I would  
like you to clean it, on schedule, not be it.  I have dogs  I can visit,  
and if I wanted any more, I would go get one, and it would be better  
company than a person pretending to be one, as well as a better  
conversationalist.

I am not weak, I am not scared of men, I do not need to make them less than men to handle them. Nor, do I hate them. Men are lovely, wonderful people, some of them and I quite enjoy their company. But, I am not having sex with one, unless I am married to him.  So, he can be a companion, a slave, but, not a lover or sex toy.

I hope someone reads this and understands, this time around!And, do not come at me with the usual b.s. about how I have to change my  mind, or settle, or etc.  Mistress' do not have to change their limits  
to please the slaves!It strikes me as very odd that the men who quote the alleged uber dommes, those few women who have bothered to  write about their experiences and ideas and publish them (who are, in no  
way, extraordinary in their dominance), and who clamor after that sort of lifestyle are:

1) Full of demands and ideas.

2) Afraid to commit or submit.

3)  self-admitted readers of books that the uber domme has said should never be read by men, and, therefore, disobedient to their ideal.

In other words, they are everything those women would have rejected. Quote me no more from books you should not have read, and compare me no more to women I am not. My life will be lived my way, and so shall my slaves be led.

If  you want to be a slave, start as you intend to continue. Practice obedience, hard work, make yourself ready to serve, and think of me -  learn about me - before you contact me. If you write to me,  asking what I am into, what I believe, what I want, or offering  euphemistic sex (as if I don't know that oral "worship" is still just oral sex), offering to be used in ways I do not wish to use anyone, I  will know that you are not taking this seriously.

If you were taking it seriously, and you thought we might be a good match, you  surely would read this profile and my journal entries, maybe even ask  the people on my friends list what they know about me. I'll do  
it, when considering you! And, if I find that you are lying - like the  Dom/slave who claims the transexuals just come and ask him to befriend  them, when, according to them, he is the one who started chatting them  
up - you will be no part of my life.  

 


1. To what extent should you be allowed to set the tone of the relationship?

• "I have had offers of the kind you have---and when the rubber hits the road, they DISAPPEAR. Because guess what? I am a person with credentials! So Mr Sub and I are entering into a binding contract, complete with engagement letter, description of services and expectations, etc etc. There is NO WAY I would let myself get busted for failing in fiduciary duty to satisfy someone's kink. Sure, I'll count your shekels and keep you on an allowance AFTER the legals are done."
• "You're not laughing because you're not intelligent enough to understand how clever I am."
• "I don't think you need to worry about him, they love to talk about the idea but the moment they'd have to pay they disappear.
• "I've been joking with a few female friends around here that it's hilarious, if you block them they come back with another name, but if you pretend you charge, they disappear all by themselves! "
• "I worked as a pro Mistress for years and one of my earliest lessons was, don't ever take a sub who wants to feel exploited seriously. He will be presently getting off on the idea and will keep you talking and arranging things as long as possible but when you reach the point where your ready, he will be ready to disappear. Don't let him waste anymore of your time."

Dear Mistress Sarletta,

I think you misunderstood my question. I understand that it isn’t all about sex and that some mistress/slave relationships are non sexual to the extreme. But even in antiquity household slaves were expected to adore their owners. Whether the owners showed affection towards the slaves probably depended on the owners. But these were slaves that were purchased and the owners held the power of life and death over them. In consensual slavery, the slave relinquishes control to the mistress not out of fear but out of adoration. And I can not speak for others, but to be manacled to a bed every night, get up at the crack of dawn to perform the prosaic and mundane chores you require, and suffer the punishments you met out for infractions, there would have to be a very deep bond between us (not a sexual bond but something even stronger). I had a mistress who like you considered the idea of any type of relationship with a slave to be repugnant and even though I did not want a sexual relationship it bothered me that she felt that way. If I serve you and you allow me to serve you, we are doing each other a service. But if you feel repelled by my service then how can you expect me to continue?

Dear Mistress Sarletta,

I have contacted you before to tell you how much I enjoy your journal entries. Even though we are miles apart in distance, age, and what we seek in a relationship, I use your thoughts, ideas, and wants as a sort of Rosetta Stone to decipher my own views towards this life style.

I can well imagine that the plethora of idiots on this site keeps you busy answering emails, but I wonder if you might answer a question that I have? Since we live in an age and country where forced slavery is outlawed, what we have on CM is consensual slavery. You, as a potential slave holder, can not go down to slave market and purchase a male to serve you in the manner which you describe. So you are forced to find a consensual slave to serve you. But if you prohibit that slave from possessing any romantic notions toward you and certainly no sexual contact (and in fact state that the idea of an amorous relationship with your slave, because he is your slave, is repulsive to you) what is the motivation that would bind a slave to you? I am not taking about these idiots who get there jollies fantasizing about being under your whip.

If you have the time and the inclination, I would cherish your response.

Answer:

It is Mistress Arletta, (name removed)

What is it that keeps people being in awe of Buddha even though he is long dead and was really just some guy who walked around and thought things?  What is it that makes a student love that one teacher, even though they are teaching a hard subject that the student never wanted to learn before?

Slaves are not for sex, they are not about sex. If anyone is looking for a sexual relationship out of it, then, they are not a slave. Slaves, consensual slaves, are persons who desire to do for, and give to, others. It is what makes them feel fulfilled. They want to be owned and cherished, having been accepted for what they are. And, believe you me, there are plenty of them out there. Unfortunately, most of them have been extremely abused by people who think it is all about sex and pain - which are fetishes, not components of slavery; and, many of them are not relocatable.

To slave means to work, you know? There are many people, the world over, who want to work and to do what they work at well, and to be appreciated for that. Some of them would like to go a bit deeper than that, and, some of them would like to do it while wearing shackles. They are all lovely people, who should never be despised or abused. And, for those people, the relationship is set in these activities. It is their deepest fulfillment to serve, to be allowed to serve, without anyone trying to make them feel as if it is wrong, unwanted, or unappreciated.

I was a slave to two men, whom, if they showed up, I would still do anything for. They were the only men in my life who did not try to force me into a sexual relationship. One of them beat me with his belt, once, and then he learned who I was, and more of who he was, and stopped doing that. I never had to give them money (but, sometimes I did anyway), nor did I expect money or other compensation (though, I got it, sometimes, anyway). I helped them with their work, and I was glad to be of use, to help someone further their own goals which I could respect, or to do their work better so that whatever was bad about it had less negative impact upon the world.

What kept me there was mutual respect and love. Any sex we had was always with someone else. One does not need sex to feel love or respect, and, often, it causes the opposite reaction. If a woman is having sex with a man, and he is enjoying the sex, she never knows, after all, how he feels about her.

I do know that most people who claim to be slaves would not serve me unless sex was a component of the relationship, so, I do know how they feel about me, and how that is, is that I should be serving their penis. Which is hardly a slave-like attitude for them to be having, so, at least we are all in agreement that they would not be good slaves for me. Pity, though, about the few really good, true slaves that are just too far away. (sigh)

1. Do you believe that you should set the tone of the relationship or that your owner should?
2. Do you accept the fact that woman have the right to decide what to do, or what not to do, with their own bodies?
3. Is it more important to you, personally, that you should sign over everything to your owner or that your owner does not ask for everything to be signed over?
4. Are you seeking someone to have their way with you, or are you seeking someone to have your way with you?
5. Can you work for others, or engage in sexual activities with others, without it affecting your loyalty or service to your owner?
6. Are you looking for a romantic relationship with your owner?
7. Are you looking for a sexual relationship with your owner?
8. If someone sets you the task of cleaning the kitchen, does your head fill with ideas related to sponges, scrubbers, how to operate their dishwasher? Or, does it fill with thoughts of you in stockings, face ground into the linoleum by the booted foot of your owner, feeling your butt plug jiggle in fear, as you are growled at and told that you did it all wrong and must do it again? Which of those two scenarios comes closer to your thought processes?
9. Does who you choose to accept as your owner is hinge upon them fulfilling your fetishistic needs?
10. Does who you choose to accept as your owner hinge upon them fulfilling your sexual needs?
11. Does who you choose to accept as your owner hinge upon them being the religion that suits you best?
12. Do you believe slaves are less than human?

A. For cursing or being ugly with the mouth, the slave may be slapped in the mouth.

B. For being testy (bitchy, cranky) or argumentative, the slave will be given corner time.

C. For using the Mistress dishes to eat with, the slave will be gagged with a locking gag and not allowed to eat for the rest of the day.

D. For using the Mistress' toilet, the slave will be locked in a cage and not allowed to use the restroom again until morning. He will, however, be fed and watered, liberally, and expected to eat every bite and drink every drop. He will, then, clean up whatever mess may have been made as a result of this punishment. He will, then, clean himself up, and clean the Mistress' entire restroom.

E. If the slave fails to perform all his duties for the day, due to punishment (such as in D.) he will finish them and his next day's duties on the next day. If he has still failed to finish all his duties, he will be punished as at F. This is also true of slaves who fail to remember not to cuss, repeatedly, are argumentative and not easily corrected, or for any other behavior exhibited by the slave which seems to point to them being incorrigible, as obedience, loyalty and respect are also duties.

F. If the slave has failed to finish all his duties on any given day, by his own failure and not by the order of his Mistress or circumstances beyond his control, this punishment may be utilized: his duties will be assigned to other slaves for one day, or they will be set aside for one day. During that day, the slave will be caged, gagged, and bound or trussed up in some fashion pleasing to the Mistress, for the majority of the entire day. At intervals, the Mistress will have him released from the cage, so that he may position himself to receive between 1 and 15 strokes with a whip, belt, taw or similar tool upon his back, buttocks and/or thighs. After this whipping, the slave will have his gag removed, receive a drink of water, have his gag replaced, and be returned to the cage where he will, again, be locked in and bound into position (not necessarily the same position as before). This will continue through the early morning and possibly into the late afternoon, after which, the slave will be allowed to cleanse himself, the cage, the ball gag, etc. as necessary before being manacled to the bed he has been assigned, to rest. Any or all of these activities may be done by force, with the help of other slaves or other persons, if necessary. It is hoped that by the next morning, the slave will be very eager to avoid this, and, so, not dilly-dally about his work.

G. If the slave breaks a dish, the slave will replace the dish from his own allowance.

H. If the slave engages in a fight for any other purpose than the protection of others, the slave will be whipped, flogged, caned, or striped with a belt, tawse, or similar tool, no less than 25 times, by the Mistress.

I. If the slave is sexually explicit toward the Mistress, family member or guest of the Mistress, other slave, or other person in general, so as to disturb and give offense, making them feel sexually assaulted or harassed, the slave will have much the same punishment as F., but, the use of Tiger Balm, red pepper flakes, icy hot, ice cubes, or other painful but not permanently damaging ointments, unctures, additives, spices, etc. may be used on his scrotum, penis, mouth, or rectal area, including the possibility of fresh, peeled ginger being placed inside his anus.

The Mistress reserves the right to alter, omit, administer in part, or administer more than the punishments listed above, and the slave and the Mistress both accept that this is the right of the Mistress without necessitating the rewriting or breaking of the contract, in that the slave has agreed to obey the Mistress and the Mistress has agreed to love and train the slave, each to the best of their abilities.

The Mistress is desirous of a gardener, The priorities of gardening take precedent over all other duties of labor, save the duty to earn wages. To this end, the slave will study gardening for the Southwest, and, should the Mistress relocate to another climate, the slave will study gardening for that area. The slave will attend classes and lectures, read books, talk to other gardeners, join gardening clubs, submit a list of needs to the Mistress for the purpose of the care and keeping of her plants, or whatever other methods need reasonably be employed for the purpose of being a worthy gardener, and do his utmost to make sure that the Mistress' garden, plants for landscaping décor, and house plants flourish.

The slave will be absolutely required to clean the Mistress home and the slave quarters, in addition to gardening duties and earning his wages. Since the slave has no absolute schedule for his wage earning work, there will be allowed the ability to transfer one day's work to another day, on the days when the slave must be working for his wages for an extended period of time which keeps him from his housekeeping, as the wage earning does take priority. In general, however, the housekeeping, and other duties currently known to be needed to be performed by the slave at the time of signing of the contract (starting when he has relocated to the “slave house” ) will be and go, without excluding possible additions, subtractions or alterations of duties as the Mistress sees fit, as such:

1. On all days:

a. the preparation of breakfast, lunch and dinner, following suggestions, menu plans, or guidelines provided by the Mistress; unless, of course, the Mistress chooses otherwise. This includes helping the Mistress to prepare meals if she so chooses, serving the meals to the Mistress, and the making and serving of any beverages or snacks as required by the Mistress.

b. Cleaning the kitchen after the preparation and/or serving of each meal, snack or beverage, including the rinsing of dishes, putting away of leftovers and condiments, and ensuring that, by the end of the day, the dishes will be clean, dry, and put away, the kitchen will be tidy, and all trash (including from other rooms) will be removed from the home of the Mistress and the slave by 10 pm at the latest, unless instructed otherwise by the Mistress.

c. Chauffeuring Mistress to shopping, movies, visits with friends, or other forms of entertainment, to doctor's appointments, or wherever else the Mistress may need, or wish, to go, as the Mistress prefers; and, joining or aiding Mistress in these excursions as she sees fit.

d. Possible assistance to the Mistress in the pursuit of her artwork, as needed, in whatever way is needed.

e. Cleaning kitchen, living room, bathroom, bedroom(s), hallway(s), etc. as needed, generally as prescribed by the Mistress through her 15-minute room clean up plans.

f. The slave will be responsible for all laundry duties, including learning which garments need to be cleaned by hand washing, dry cleaning, separation of darks, whites and colored garments as is necessary (which it is not always necessary); proper washing, removing all soaps that might irritate the Mistress' delicate flesh; the use of dryer sheets or fabric softener; learning to “turn out” fleece garments; stain removal; cleaning of equipment and laundry room; folding; ironing; and, putting away garments in the correct place and in the correct fashion. The slave will keep track of the dirty laundry and at any time there is enough for a load, it will be completed immediately. If the Mistress discovers anything folded or hung incorrectly, it will be redone. If a garment is destroyed, through the fault of the slave, then the slave may have to pay for a new garment, pay the price of the old garment, and/or may be physically punished for this carelessness.

2. On Mondays: After a training period, the slave will take over the majority of the work of the Mistress at her work as copy editor. This work may also need to be done on Thursday, Friday, Saturday or Sunday, but, is usually done, in the majority, on Monday and usually lasts between 4 - 10 hours.

3. On Tuesdays: Traveling to the house of the sister of the Mistress to clean living room, kitchen, and bathroom in manner prescribed by the Mistress, except where reasonably altered to suit the needs of the sister. However, this may be transferred to another day, at the will of the sister.

3. On Saturdays: Washing of clothes for both Mistress and slave, if needed.

4. On Sundays: Chauffeuring to meeting.

General Morning Behavior/ Protocol

A. The slave will awaken at approximately 5 a.m., by what ever method best employed to waken himself (alarm clock, asking another slave to help him, for instance). Upon waking, he will remove himself from the bed he has been assigned for the night, make the bed, move to the bathroom to wash himself, brush his teeth, floss his teeth, rinse with mouthwash, moisturize himself, take his morning supplements if he has been assigned any, don his loincloth (or other clothes if he will be leaving for work or performing outside chores or otherwise has been told to wear other certain types of clothing), brush or comb his hair, and to wait. Another slave, the Mistress, or someone the Mistress sends will come to unlock the slave from the manacle that binds him to the bed and help him into his day time wrist manacles.

B. The slave will, when unlocked from his bed and dressed for his daily work, eat breakfast in the slave quarters, and then report to his assigned duty, unless the assigned duty is to prepare breakfast. If the assigned duty is breakfast preparation, the slave will immediately report to the kitchen of the Mistress to consult the correct menu plans and cook or otherwise prepare a meal for the Mistress. If she has guests there, the slave will prepare a meal for them, as well, if instructed. Since the slave is serving in the kitchen, the slave may make himself some of the same breakfast as the Mistress, at the same time as he makes her breakfast, to be eaten in the kitchen, after the Mistress and/or the Mistress' guests are served; or, he may choose to eat the same breakfast the other slaves ate, instead, after he has finished in the kitchen. The slave will clean spills and drips as he goes, rinse dishes as they are no longer in use, and make sure all dishes, burners, etc. that he used or touched are clean before he departs the kitchen. After the slave meals are done, and the Mistress is also through with her morning ablutions and her meal, the slaves will come and kneel, greeting the Mistress good morning and telling her of anything that might be different about this day (ie: longer hours, shorter hours, they feel ill), while she checks the calendar for appointments, etc.

C. The Mistress will have her second meal at, or near, 9:30 am on most days. This is because the Mistress prefers to have the majority of her meals, excluding possible snacks, before 3 pm, usually having dinner around 2 pm, at the latest. It is better for the digestion. Lunch protocol will be much the same as breakfast protocol, with the other slaves seeking out a snack or meal from the slave quarters but the slave on kitchen duty being allowed to eat the same food as the Mistress, except that he must wait until the Mistress is served, before he eats in the kitchen.

D. Most housework of the more intense variety, such as clothes washing, cleaning of specific rooms, cleaning the oven, car repair, building on the courtyard, etc. will occur in the morning, whenever possible.

Afternoon Behavior/Protocol

A. The last main meal of the day will generally be served around 2 pm. The slaves who are able will attend this meal and eat at the same time as the Mistress, though she will always be served first. They will bring in their lower table and stools or cushions for a place for their meal to be served, or simply sit on the floor to eat, but, will never eat directly with the Mistress in her own home. The slave assigned to help with or cook the meal will serve his fellow slaves before eating, but, they will remain until he is also through with his meal. There will be conversation about the day, or wherever conversation leads to. All slaves will help clean the kitchen and dining area after the meal, before returning to their assigned duties.

Evening Behavior/Protocol

A. In the early to mid evenings, there will be entertainment, if there is entertainment wanted by the Mistress. The slaves will attend and/or perform as she has given order. If they are not to attend or perform, and their duties are finished for the day (as they should be) they will either address themselves to more work, be lent out to another for more work, or retire to the slave quarters where they will change out of their loincloth, be manacled to their bed, and may, instead, improve their minds with reading before sleeping for the evening. However, on most nights, if the Mistress is around at all, the slaves will attend.

As this slave exists for the pleasure of the Mistress and is a human male of an adult age and at least average intelligence, this slave will devote himself to learning proper procedure, protocol and etiquette, as defined by the Mistress, to include, but not to be limited to:

Every day /”Any situation” Protocol:

A. Addressing the Mistress as Mistress, Mistress Arletta, or Ma'am in private or in public at such times as when public speech can reasonably considered to be private; but, addressing her as Ma'am or Arletta when in public where speech cannot be reasonably considered to be private.

B. Always waiting to eat until after she is served, regardless of whether in private or in public, unless ordered to do otherwise.

C. Walking at least a few steps behind the Mistress, on most occasions; walking ahead of the Mistress in order to open doors for her in public settings or at the outer door of the entrance to the Mistress' home when she is either leaving or returning; walking beside the Mistress when crossing streets.

D. Only entering the home of the Mistress when scheduled or invited, unless due to an emergency situation such as fire, flood, serious injury, serious illness, invading armies, earthquake, gas leak, or other emergencies which threaten loss of life or limb of the Mistress, the slave, or someone of their acquaintance.

E. Kneeling and waiting for permission to enter, at the entrance to whatever room the Mistress occupies, when she is at home. Yet, always moving ahead of her, to enter the store first, open the doors where doors need to be opened, step out and open her car door when parked, etc.

1. If the slave is chauffeuring the Mistress to some place where he will not be entering in, the slave will pull up to the nearest legal position, relative to the door, and allow her to exit; he will then watch for her to exit the buildings, so as pull up to the entrance or as near as possible to pick her up when she is ready to leave. This is the same rule for any family or guests that the Mistress may have the slave chauffeur.

F. Addressing all other females as Ma'am or Miss, and all other males as Sir, regardless of their position or status. The exception being that the slave may continue to address his own family and friends, should he be addressing them at all, in the manner that they are accustomed to.

G. Never testing the Mistress, to judge the Mistress' worth as a Mistress. The slave will do his best to follow protocol, perform tasks and chores assigned, generate an income for the sake of the Mistress first and the “slave house” second, show politeness to all, refrain from fighting with other slaves, and to serve the Mistress in any other way she wishes or needs to be served.

H. To always look for ways to build up the Mistress' life, by increasing comfort, happiness, health, safety, and general well being in ways that reflect the Mistress' own choices with how to live.

I. To always greet the Mistress good morning and goodnight, though it does not always need to be those exact words.

J. To keep a journal and write in it, at least 15 minutes a day, detailing his thoughts, feelings, and activities. This is to be shared with the Mistress whenever she requests it.

K. Online, if the slave should remain online and in such a site as there might be persons who are considered Mistresses, Masters, Dommes, slaves, or submissives, where the site is geared toward bdsm activities or talk, the slave will represent himself as the property of Mistress Arletta, and will not seek out conversation with other Mistress or dominants, real or pretend, without the permission of the Mistress Arletta. To whit: the slave will change his profile on the site where he met the Mistress to indicated that she owns him, and he will also change his “actively seeking” status to the one indicating that friends are all he is seeking.

L. When the Mistress family or friends are at her home, and they are family or friends who are not aware of the slave and Mistress relationship, or if someone in a more official nature in society (work men, police officers, clergy, postal employees, etc.) is present, the slave will not enter the Mistress home, even if scheduled, unless summoned.

1) If the slave is already in the home, when the door bell rings or someone knocks, he will immediately shut off any noisy tools, such as a vacuum before Mistress answers the door. He will shut off any water he may be running, turn off any cooking that may be dangerous to leave for a few minutes, and move quietly to the exit which will allow him to move to his slave quarters and await the Mistress there.

2) If the slave finds or suspects that he is unable to make a discreet exit from the Mistress' home, he will, instead, remain quietly where he is, trusting that the Mistress will do her best to keep the visitors from him, or to explain his presence to them should that be impossible to keep them from the presence of the slave.

M. The use of cuss words, curse words, swearing is offensive and shall not be practiced. It shall be practiced to not do these things. The exceptions are where the slave is quoting or naming a movie, entertainer, song, book, or person where these sort of words happen to have been used (and the Mistress wishes him to do so), reading this contract, explaining what was said by someone else to the Mistress, or in some other way being a legitimate use of the words for the purpose of informing the Mistress of something she needs to know. If the slave is found to utter these words or phrases that offend the Mistress, the slave will immediately be slapped in the mouth. If he continues, he may also be subject to more rigorous punishment. These words and phrases include, but are not limited to: ass, cunt, slut, fuck, god damn it, oh my fucking god, omfg, goddess, Goddess, asshole, shit, fuckle bunny, fuckhead, fuckface, ass rimmer, eat my ass, suck my duck, eat shit and die, eat shit and live, fuck you, fuck me, fuck my life, fuck the world, yeah well fuck them, fuck off, fuck off and die, burn in hell, go to hell, on the highway to hell, nig-ger, kike, spic, wap, dago, little white shicksaw, ofey, ofay, cracker (obviously, this may be used when mentioning the food or food group), white bread (same rule as cracker), jigaboo, jungle bunny, towel head, sand nig6ger. Obviously, the spirit of the speech is at least as important as the actual words used.

N. The slave, regardless of what other languages he speaks, will address the Mistress in English, preferably as spoken by the more well-bred American types, unless she has given him leave, or directly asked him, to do otherwise.

O. What is the Mistress' is the Mistress' and is not for the use of slaves, unless exceptions have been given.

1. If a slave is working in the home of the Mistress and finds himself in need of using the bathroom, he will remove himself to the slave quarters to do so. If possible, he will obtain the permission of the Mistress first. In absolute emergency situations, he will leave her home, without permission, for this purpose. If she notices, he will apologize, but, he will not interrupt her day to tell her of this, unless it is to inform her that he is ill.

2. Slaves who are assigned to prepare meals may bring their own glass to drink water, their own dishes to serve themselves food upon, and may even have some of the same drink as they have prepared for the Mistress in their own glass. They are not to use the Mistress' dishes or utensils for their own need, however; they will only use them to prepare food for and serve food to the Mistress.

3. Slaves will have their own laundry soap, bedding, dishes, toilet tissue, cleaning supplies, wash cloths, towels, clothes, etc. They will only touch the Mistress' items if in service to her or if she has given them express permission to do so. They will never ask to use them, but, will wait for the Mistress to give permission or not to give permission as she sees fit. IE: The Mistress tells the slaves to wash their loincloths and bedding, and they do not have enough laundry soap for the loads. They will inform the Mistress they only have enough laundry soap to do half the work, or that they have run out. She may, then, choose to tell them to use some of her laundry soap, to wash them without laundry soap, to only wash the loincloths and to wait to wash the bedding until more laundry soap can be obtained, or, whatever else it is in her head to order them to do.

P. The slave will earnestly seek ways to improve his mind, his understanding of the Mistress, his knowledge of ways to serve the Mistress (ie: learning about gardening in the southwest), and will ask the permission of the Mistress for time set aside to pursue these goals, for such things as reading time, the attending of classes (which he must also ask if the Mistress will pay for, if they are not free classes), the seeking out of other persons with more knowledge in this area of service or work, etc.

Q. In general, the slave will not leave the home of the Mistress without the Mistress or a family member or a guest of the Mistress being with the slave. On the occasions where the slave must leave by himself, or only in the company of another slave or other slaves, the Mistress may assign him a cell phone by which to stay in communication. The slave will leave the cell phone on, whenever possible, and answer it as promptly as possible. If there is an emergency, he will call or have someone else call, the Mistress as soon as possible. If it is still possible, and affordable, the cell phone will be one that has the capability of only calling the few numbers the Mistress allows. Regardless, the slave will be accountable for the minutes used, and if the minutes are significantly more than can be accounted for by his conversations with the Mistress, the slave may receive a paddling or stroke of the whip, or similar punishment, for each excessive minute used, at the discretion of the Mistress and upon explanation by the slave.

R. As the Mistress does not celebrate birthdays, national holidays, or religious holidays, outside of the Memorial of the Death of the Christ, the slave will not greet her with holiday greetings, wishes for a happy birthday or speak to her in ways that indicate he is celebrating such even so much as near her property; nor will he purchase presents for those occasions for the Mistress or for her guests or for her family. To speak so will be considered the same as cursing or swearing and will receive the same punishment.

S. The Mistress will not be interrupted in activity or speech, for any reason barring emergency.

T. The slave will not engage the Mistress in conversation, without permission. If she chooses to speak to the slave, he may respond, but, he will not initiate conversation, except in matters of extreme importance. He is expected to be out of sight and out of mind, unless the Mistress chooses to grant him an audience or otherwise spend time with/on him.

1. There will be a very small lamp in the living room that has a small nite-light bulb in it. If the slave needs to speak to the Mistress concerning something significant or extensive, the slave will turn this light on. When the Mistress see it lit, she will approach the slave at her convenience, and allow him to converse.

2. If the Mistress chooses to allow the slave the freedom to speak, she may turn the light on, or, she may simply inform the slave in writing or in person. This indicates to the slave that he is free to make general conversation as the Mistress would enjoy it, at this time, and he may speak openly, but, respectfully.

3. The Mistress will have several areas throughout the “slave house” for writing notes to the slave, as well as having provided charts. There will also be an area, near where the Mistress sits to write that will have a message center where she will know to check for messages from the slave, should there be a need for him to leave any. This will be one of the primary methods of communication between Mistress and slave.

When in doubt, the slave will fall into proper social etiquette as defined by current polite Western societal standards or as define by Miss Manners; slave will ask for clarification of what he does not understand that he needs to understand, give good advice and/or physical assistance to assist his Mistress in matters of which he is likely to be more knowledgeable or capable, or sees her making a definite error (but, always, politely and keeping in mind his status and her own); and, slave will use his own mind to be self-governing enough not to make unreasonable demands upon his Mistress for time and attention. Unreasonableness is to be defined by Mistress, as well as Mistress's laws and rules, and societal laws and rules of social etiquette.

• It was not written for you, specifically. 
• Some things are highly negotiable and some things are not negotiable in the least.

1. Financial aspects of service: that this will happen is NOT negotiable; but, how it will happen and to what extent is extremely negotiable.
2. Chastity: That the slave will be non-sexual towards me is not negotiable; the wearing of chastity devices, what kind, for how long are all negotiable.
3. Relocation is not optional; how, when, and where to one does relocate is.
4. Obedience, loyalty, respect, acceptance of punishment are not negotiable; what sort of schedule, punishment, duties are.
5. The lack of use of butt plugs, dildos, strap-ons is not negotiable; the use of manacles, cages, bondage is.

Slaves wanted.

• Read my interest list? Are you compatible with it? Do you have many things you like, love, or live for that are on my hard limits list? Be honest and rational, and let us not waste our time.
• Must prove ability to follow simple commands, understand writing, and efficiency.

• I do not care about your looks, and I am not here to cater to your fetishes.

• Possible allowance of outside relationships that do not interfere with service to me and mine, in order to fulfill a need of the slave which is not to be fulfilled through service to me.

• This is what will work up to a 24/7/365 live-in position, long term, with reassessment and possible renegotiation of contract on anniversary (or near to) of signing contract.

I believe in behavior modification, discipline through the setting of schedules and tasks and reasonable consequences for most behaviors and mistakes that are likely to occur in decent, task oriented slaves. There may be mild play with cages, shackles, etc. or more serious play with them, but, I am not a bully and I will not be bullied into becoming one just to satisfy your pain fetish.

You must be:

• Heterosexual by nature.
• Respectful and respectable
• Interested in serving and giving to others, first and foremost.
• Willing to enter into a 100 percent non-sexual slave/Mistress relationship.
• Able to withstand much oddity, weirdness, and silly talk.
• So sure of your desire to serve me, that you are willing to relocate, willing to beg to be allowed to serve, and ready to prove yourself to me.

If you fit the criteria, please do message me and I will allow you to view a basic contract which may be, if we progress to that point, altered to suit the talents, abilities, and schedules of the individual slave.

I am a religious person, as in I believe in God, and I believe that slavery is not wrong, that it can be acceptable to God, if it is done well. "Done well" means, for one thing, it is not about the oppresson of a certain ethnic group, and it is with the understanding that one still does unto others as one would have done unto them. In other words, I will not treat a slave in a manner that, if I was a slave, I would not enjoy being treated.

I am not into pain, or a slut, I have no wish to have my face used as a stool, I do not like to be insulted, I do not wish to be raped, I do not like to be laughed at or poked with sticks, and I darn sure do not want anyone pissing or crapping on, or in, me.

I do, however, enjoy a wee bit of ritual, non-sexual bondage, isolation beds and tanks, chains, gags, speech restrictions at times, good solid punishment when I have truly done wrong, and, mostly, clear, firm instructions and rules from someone who I know has personal knowledge of my capabillities and who will allow me to be of use, who will appreciate the work, and who will value me for what I have done, and, to some degree, also as a person.

So, since I know this is the sort of slave I would like best to be, and these are the things I would have someone do unto me, these are the things that will be done unto you. It's not all pleasant, sometimes it is exhausting, painful, scary, or downright tedious - but, it is also fulfilling, rewarding, and, sometimes, fun.

"The recent work adds a new twist to older theories about the roots of human aggression. While Freud saw aggression as a basic human drive that had to be channeled by the controls of the ego and superego, many psychologists now feel aggression stems from faulty thinking and a penchant for retaliation that verges on the paranoid.

Some current findings are consistent with such older views as the idea, inspired by the work of Alfred Adler, that the bully is compensating for deep feelings of inferiority.

''We find that bullies have a strong need to control others,'' said John Lochman, a psychologist at Duke University Medical School. ''Their need to be dominant masks an underlying fear that they are not in control, and they mask the sense of inadequacy by being a bully.'' "

Hmm .. and, what does that mean, in regard to the aggressive Doms and Dommes, who have to insult and threaten, treat subs and slaves with extreme cruelty, in order to appear dominant, Professor?

And, what does it say about the slaves who  believe that's what dominance looks, acts, and growls like?

So many people, so afraid to simply be themselves! Tsk tsk ...

It is now my sincere belief that there is one guy on this site, who writes the profile of every straight or semi-straight Canadian slave  male, and who then, for reasons I cannot fathom, uses each one to contact me and see how many weeks of my life he can waste.

Funny, the Canadians I knew, when I lived in Alaska, were good, thoughtful, honest people who would never tell you that they belonged to you and then proceed to pull the rug out from under you, after wasting a good bit of your time in negotiating contracts. One could take them at their word, totally.

What happened to those Canadians, and who replaced them with this large pile of ass hats which has, unfortunately, infiltrated CM?

Well, as I said to the last one, just now (11/29/2010):

"No? Ah well, you haven't done one thing for me, yet, so why start now? You are an idiot, you know? You would have had what you were seeking, according to everything you told me that you wanted. Which means you either lied about what you wanted, or you walked away from it due to your lack of understanding. Either way, that's pretty stupid. If you want to be a slave, you need to learn honesty and understanding.

You would have been worked very, very hard and gone to bed exhausted, because you would have gotten up to do your wage work and then you would have done hard labor, in between periods of studying and going to classes to learn more of what I needed you to know, and you would have been lent out as labor for the sake of helping others, and oh my how tired you would have been, and how useful.

And, that's not even including the enforced cage times, the times of serving as a footstool, the enforced whippings on schedule just to practice submitting, the times of being forced to serve as a pony for the other Mistresses at the parties,  the exercises, and etc.

But, you said it all, with your little ego trip telling me how you'll find a Mistress who deserves all the bounty that you offer. No, not your words - mine are better. However, it is what you meant.

All you needed to do was listen and trust.

And, we would have both been happier; well, more fulfilled.

Idiot."

If someone says "I am slaving away at the dishes.", what does it mean?

Does it mean they are caged at the dishes? Or, that they are bound and broken at the dishes? Kidnapped at the dishes? Being forced to give blow jobs at the dishes?

No. It means they are working hard at the dishes.

So, if you are a slave who would toil for your Mistress, I may want you. That is a true slave to me. If you are a slave who wants to be bound and broken, I have no use for you. People who are bound and broken are no good at cleaning the kitchen. They tend to bleed all over it and drop cups with their clumsy little bound and broken fingers.

Seeking slaves of the straight, male, non-cross dressing, absolutely not sissy, hard working variety: "worker drone" is an apt descriptive. They must want to work, be obedient, to serve me.

There is not a specific set of criteria for the slave beyond this, as I have a wide variety of interests. I am a writer, so writers, especially those who enjoy Douglas Adams and Terry Pratchett, are very welcome. I want to invest in Real Estate, and/or to fix up homes for people because they need help, so, handymen, floor installers, carpenters, and those knowledgable in house repair, remodeling, plumbing, electrical work, etc. are very welcome.Those who wish to be worked hard and financially dominated will be considered, too.

However, I do like companionship as well as domestic service, assistance in projects, yard work, etc. You will not be an "it", you will be a well rounded person who I can respect and be respected by as individuals, outside of our roles we live out together,  as well as in them.

I used to tell people I don't have a fetish, but, that's not exactly true. I do have a fetish. Now, I like leather, and spanking is fun, and flogging someone can be darling. However, those things I could take or leave, most days, so they are not my fetish. Ownership, directing others, making things work, putting the pieces together into the puzzle so that the picture becomes whole, that is my fetish. I want to own you, to know you inside and out, good and bad, and mold you into what, for me, is good. That is my fetish.

And, so, what I seek is the companion for that - the one who wants to become the good for me, for me; who wants to give, to be controlled, to be one of the pieces put together to make a beautiful picture. I have no desire to take away your life. I want us to enhance each other's lives, so that we can be a comfort to each other against the world, our home an oasis away from those who do not understand our true natures.

Here is an idea:

• If I am not your type and I contact you, indicating that I am interested in you serving me, politely say you are not interested and move on.
• If I do not contact you, do not contact me to tell me so, as it wastes both of our time, and move on.
•  And, while you are at it, do not assume that simply because I contact you it means I want you to serve me, I want to serve you, or there is some sexual interest on my part, as I assure you, if any of those things were true, I would tell you.

Today, I walked down to Fry's (1/2 mile), then to Wendy's (1.3 miles), then to the Family Dollar store (1.1 miles), then back home (0.7 miles). This is the same day where I read a nasty little message from an allegedly dominant male as to how he would think "lazy slobby ick" about me, if he were a slave. Hmm .. I wonder how far he walked today? I wonder how far he walks in a week? I wonder how far he'd walk with a cold, in the hot sun, in the dust that he is allergic to? And, I wonder how pretty he would look while doing so?

Then, I wonder where the hell he gets off, realize that he doesn't - and we are both in agreement about that, I guess - and, I go on about my business.

Then, after I wrote that, above, I walked to Fry's, and back home, again. (1 mile)

The Mad Queen Ardeliah

That is a digital painting/digital manipulation by me, and is posted here for those who want to know more about my artwork.

This is the description that sits beside it on the art site where it has been posted for some time:

"You will see this on another art site, under the ID of Eclectia. That is because Eclectia is me. So is DSWilde! Anything bad you read about either is only borne out of jealousy. * grin * Here is what the description says:

I was inspired by a wonderful photograph of some stairs in France (you can find it in my favorites) to finish this piece.

Took me several hours to complete – not quite sure how many severals but more than usual, I can tell you!

I have many variations that now I must decide to toss or keep. This is how I end up with a room cluttered by disks!

Thank you for the inspiration, handsome man whose name I forget!

This illustration is for a story I started long ago, which has altered much over time, and so far is just something I amuse myself with. It is being considered to finally set it down all in words and to send it out into the world. I’m a little hesitant as once it is penned (so to speak) it will be permanently as written and. . well .. I guess all children must grow up and be what they will, even the ones we create in our minds and with our hands. Yes?

and here is what the handsome man, whose name I forget had to say:

*euristis:iconeuristis: Jan 9, 2007, 6:17:11 AM
wow! Thank you so much, your postwork is amazing! I’m honored! :hug:
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Just so you know I had his permission to play with his stairs!
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The Mad Queen Ardeliah is from the land of Ordine, in the world of Ordem, in a parallel’esque universe. Or, if she’s not strictly from the land of Ordine, it is, at least, wherein she has/is reign(ed) "

Long ago, I had a Master who observed that, as I did work for him of the sort that I had decided it is best I do (for I knew how to do it, while he had yet to learn it all the way, and I was a faster typist, etc), that he spent his time fetching me tea and waiting nearby, on a stool, until I needed him.

"This is hardly right," he told me "that the slave girl should be sitting so comfortably, demanding silence, while I fetch tea and wait on the stool."

"But," I explained, "It is right, because I am doing this work for your benefit, and the cord for your computer only reaches so far, and your chair will not come out from behind your desk without disarranging your whole office. There is no choice, but, that you sit on the stool, because you need to be here and the stool is all there is."

"And, the tea?" he inquired.

"If you need a car to work, you give it oil. If you need a slave to work, sometimes, you give it tea." I replied.

"Then, it seems to me that I would be better off as the slave." he replied.

"Then, be the slave." I replied.

"Okay, I will." he said.

"Good, "said I. "Now, slave, go and fetch me that tea, then, sit there quietly on the stool in case I have need of you. I have work to do."

This is around the time in my life when he quite gave up on training me as a slave, and, instead, ordered me to start training slaves.

As he observed, at the time, regardless of title, what I saw as fit to do was what was done, so, it is best that I train slaves to do as I see fit.

The slave, mentioned below, who told me that he belonged to me, has just been told, by me, that he blew his last chance for my attention.

After much ignoring of me (in that he, sometimes, read messages, but, he did not reply to them), he finally messaged me and told me he needs time to step back and decide if this is really what he wants. Which I find excessively odd, since he has been on this site rather a long time, and he has pursued a relationship with me more than once and cried off claiming fear, then, it was he who came to me, again, and told me that he was sure this time - both that he wanted this and that it was with me that he wanted it. And, now, we are back to waffling? Really?

Well, I gave him some very light orders to follow, while he was thinking. Nothing involving money, very little involving time, just a little something that would help his thinking and give me reason to believe he was at all serious. I told him he could start by acknowledging that he got that email. He read it yesterday evening. I know that because I checked to see if he had read it this morning, not because he wrote to me and told me he read it.

So, no acknowledgement of its receipt by him and no following of the ever so mild orders within. Therefore, today, I told him that those orders had been his last chance. As in, I am done. I will not be writing to him, I will not be considering him. I told him if he ever wants me to believe him again,he will have to do something quite big, quite impressive, to capture my attention and prove that he is actually serious. Otherwise, he needs to stop wasting my time.

To be fair, he is no worse than many others, who also do much the same. There are so many men, here, who waffle on the edge of slavery, never stepping in, never shuffling off to whatever it is that does not frighten them, but, standing there, calling for attention, wasting the time of persons who stand in its reality.

Well, men: as long as you live your life being afraid to take what you want, even when it is offered to you directly, you are going to be very bored, possibly very miserable, people. And, yes, I can say this is mostly about men, not just because I am seeking men, but, because most of the real slaves I have ever known have been women. They are able to make that level of commitment, with it actually being what they say it is, instead of pretending they are bargain shopping for the best curves for the least price- as if that is what slavery is, ultimately, about!

There is another slave who is, currently, engaged in the same thing. That is, he is engaged in consideration of if to serve me or not. He has not approached me numerous times, beforehand, so it is not the same situation. However, it feels like it is leading into it. So, I told him, today, of a point in time at which he has to have decided, at least, whether or not he will be serving me.

I mean, if you know what you are, what you want, and, that this other person is real and claiming to want the counterpart of that, you should be able to decide, fairly quickly, if they are the person for you or not. Especially when they are not asking you to immediately sign over your finances or etc.

Will he decide? I don't know. What will he decide, if anything? I haven't a clue. All I know is that I have spent far too long on this site, with having almost zero results, although I usually hear from several slaves a day who claim to want to serve me as I wish to be served. (sigh). Something has to give!  It's exhausting me, and, all this rejection over trivial details is not kind to one's ego.

"Oh, yes, Mistress, you are everything I want, and none of the other Mistresses have ever offered me anything close. Only, may I have a butt plug, too?"

"No, slave, you may not. I'm not into that."

That's usually when the cussing starts. It is always when the leaving occurs. Mistress will not cater to his every whim, Mistress will not tart herself up like a whore for his amusement. Therefore, Mistress is not real.

(sigh)

Where are the real slaves?

I am headachy, tired, and, probably, I shall have to go help clean an apartment today, as well as attend my daughter while she goes to buy her dress - which will, hopefully, still be at the store. My knees and fingers hurt, I want to collapse. Where is that dratted slave with my tea?

Well, I have a slave now. He did, indeed say so.  Waiting for a change of profile and location, now.

And, we are off to a bad start. (sigh)

Well, he told me he was scared, and being scared is understandable. Not paying attenton to your Mistress long enough to know that she gave you a very simple order, much less not following the order, is less so.

There is a teaching of Christianity, slaves, that goes like this: Faith without works is dead, as is works without faith. What does it mean, and why am I telling it to you, now?

It means, it is not enough to believe, you must also do the work inspired by the believing; and, it is not enough to do the work that someone who believes would also do, you must believe.

In the same way, a slave must not just want to be a slave, but, the slave must do the things of slavery; and, it is not enough for someone to go through the motions of slavery, but, they must also want to be a slave.

You can tell me that you are my slave, and, I will tell you that, yes, you are. Then, I will wait for you to prove it, by actually doing the things that a slave shall do. When you begin to act as a slave, I will continue to act as the Mistress who owns the slave. Otherwise, I will find another slave, who not only says, but, does.

Here is another subject, but, related. Slaves and training. Why?  I mean, most persons claim they have served as slaves before, sometimes for decades, and, yet, they need to be trained and broken as slaves? Does that make sense?

It doesn't to me. I never needed to be trained to be a slave, and I am not subservient. I am more about higher goals, lofty ideals, work ethics, moral standards, than a desperate need to sit at someone's feet. However, if it were the right someone, I did enjoy it, immensely.

I mean, if you are going to be operating heavy equipment, and you have never done so, then, someone needs to give you a clue, more than likely, how to do it. Maybe, you even need extensive training in it. That makes sense.

But, if you have performed domestic service for someone for more than a month, even yourself, you do not need to be trained to perform domestic service. You need to be told the particulars of a person's diet and schedule, discover where the equipment is kept and where you will be sleeping, and then you do it.  If you do it wrong, because they are so particular that they cannot stand seeing you use the blue sponge for the yellow sponge duties, then you need more information and training as to their particular methods. Still. you do not need to be "trained and broken into slavery".  Slavery is very simple in it's process: you want to submit, to give, obey, you want to do things for others, that is what you do, and, voila! You are a slave.

It's not brain surgery, and, it should not have to be.  If you must be beaten, tied up, whipped, kidnapped, nipple-clamped, surgically altered, caged, shackled, have all the fun sucked out of your life, removed completely from family and friends, ordered to do every last little thing, have your arse filled with a butt plug to get you started, or etc. then you are not a slave! You are something else, altogether.

A slave may enjoy any and all of those things, yet, they would not consider it slavery if that is all there was, and, they would forego all of that for a chance to live as a very simple slave, instead, if they must; because, a slave's true fetish is to be owned and to have someone to focus their life, their work, etc. on.

"That is a depression I can understand (I said to a slave, who is depressed over never being able to find what he wants in life).  Don't worry, however, about keeping me up. If I want to leave, I will leave and if I want to stay, I will stay.

All I want is real slaves who really live by my lifestyle, not only their own.  I am willing to accommodate fetishes which do not offend me, and none which do.  I don't know why this is such a hard concept for people to grasp. They want me to reel out a big fantasy for them. I want the slave where being owned, being told to do this, do that, and knowing that they have done it well and that I am pleased with them, is their fantasy.

I don't understand why it is so hard to find. When I was a slave, I was enormously happy to be of use, to help someone accomplish their goals, ease their body and soul after a hard day - and I'm not talking about sex. I'm talking about massage, aromatherapy, reading to them, good conversation. removing their coat when they came home, helping them out of their frozen boots and into some nice, warm wool-silk blend socks and slippers; preparing hot meals that were both tasty and served on time. I loved to wake up in the morning and walk down the long, cold hall, getting the fires started (or getting the slaves who did such things started), running the bath water, laying out the clothes, making sure the meal was ready, and whether I was allowed to sit with them and eat or I ate somewhere else, if I slept beside them or at their feet, or on the floor, or in the kitchen, or in a bed in a room with other slaves, or in a modest bedroom, or in a bedroom fit for a queen made no difference to my service. Except, of course, it is a little easier, when one is a little less stiff and a little less cold.

That's all I want. Good work slaves, who go out and earn money, or stay in and earn money, and do chores, and are companionable. If I had the funds to do so, I would take the good work slaves who did not work for money, but, alas, I am not there, not yet. If I had slaves, though, I think, in a year or two, I could be. Maybe five, tops. Assuming the world does not fall down around our ears, in the meantime.

Hey, this is rather good. I think I shall post it in my journal.  lol"

And, then, I did, with minor alterations.

Well, I had posted a sample contract, the basic contract for slaves who are not living in the same country or state as I am, but, who would be intending to relocate, for your edification. Apparently, education is not permitted to be given nor is curiosity allowed to be sated via journal postings, however, as it has disappeared.

If you want to see it, ask and I will send it to you, as I have been doing with the people who want to see it. It'll just be that much more annoying and time consuming than it would have been.

Quote from the profile of a slave, that are simply beautiful.

"Apologies for a negative start, but I'd like to sort out some of the dross first. If You are seeking a worthless worm, or cash pig; please look elsewhere for Your victim. i do not wish to be above myself, but i do value the person i am, and expect my eventual Owner to do the same."

"i do not serve because of Your penis, or Your vagina, but because You as an individual inspire me to submit. i believe this different to a submissive or slave who are generally focussed on matching someone to their fetish"

"i hope to find an intelligent ground Owner, Someone who like me finds BDSM not to be Their hobby, or lifestyle choice but actually, Their very soul as a person. In my dream, i would eventually, like to find a 24/7 relationship, but, to be Owned and belong, is the main priority."

"i am not part of the Big Brother, Simon Cowell, brainwashed generation and find that torture to be one of my few limits - seriously!"

This is a real slave at heart. Probably not one that would be suited to my needs, but, one who understands that being a slave does not mean losing your personality, and that it is a desire to serve that makes you a slave, not a desire to fulfill your kinky little need and a willingness to put up with pain  or bitchiness to get that done.

You could learn a lot from this man!

Why does "without limitation" mean that I must deny my true nature. A true slave, without limits, can sleep in a bed,  be fed on bon bons, and still be a slave, as well as he can live in a dungeon and only be fed gruel once a day, if he is lucky. That is a slave without limits - neither dictating to the Mistress as to if she is allowed to be cruel or to be kind.

A slave without limits can be afforded dignity.  A slave without limits can be taught to respect himself and others. A slave who must be a toilet is a slave with serious limits to his personality and who places serious limitations on the whims of the Mistress.

(sigh)

Things do change,drastically, at times. I logged on this morning, and wrote the journal entry, below, about how I may or may not have a slave. Well, I have not heard from that slave, again, today; but, another one, who had sort of waffled off, has returned, apologized, and we are discussing the terms of his contract.

This, if it works out, will be a very pleasing match, I do believe. He is polite, without having to be corrected constantly, and, he has the sort of work that makes him relocatable, which means he also has the sort of work that may lend itself well to him being a traveling companion, as well an at-home slave.

I may or may not have a slave, at this point. There has either been a serious misunderstanding, or he is a game player. He has until the end of today to prove which is the case.

If he is my slave, he is a rather bad one; as in, no discipline, no training. Which could be because he is rather old for having no experience with being owned, yet.  I give him the benefit of the doubt in this, for now.

I hope he is my slave, as, per what he has told me of himself as a person, if it is true, I could really respect and like him. For now, however, I wait, I pray for guidance, and I continue to seek.