MissViolet15771

LET ME REMIND YOU:

you will be a boy that already knows that play, scenes, casual encounters and shallow online dalliances are worthless to your soul, submission is black and white for you, all or nothing, NOT a fantasy, an itch to scratch, escapism from your marriage, a quick fix, titilation, cheap thrills or a bit of light relief to get your rocks off.

you will be a boy that knows that his ONLY chance to live a fruitful and fulfilled life can ONLY be acheived by 24/7 TPE Ownership and you will know this at the CORE of your soul, after being disappointed over and over again in the failed vanilla relationships of your life.

you will be a boy that IS NOT only now embarking on your voyage of discovery and 'trying things out', but a boy that knows beyond a shadow of a doubt, through all of your life experiences, that you can only truly be fulfilled by being TAKEN and Owned in totality by a Goddess, a Mistress, a Dominant of vision and no compromise.

Do you understand WHO you ARE, what you are CAPABLE OF and the EFFORT it takes to be a REAL slave companion?  If you don't, then you have virtually no chance of being taken by a Mistress who KNOWS HERSELF truly well and is SURE OF HER CAPABILITIES. 

I'm not saying that it's not a journey of discovery between Mistress and slave companion, however, CLEARLY KNOWING WHO you ARE in the first place makes for solid ground and a great foundation.

Once in a POSITION OF TRUST, when you receive orders, will you follow them whether you 'agree' with them or not?  will you do as you are told regardless of how you feel?  THAT is what obedience is about.  you will already know how you naturally respond to being asked to do things you don't necessarily want to, if you only do something when you feel like it and know that you've never been able to change when asked to, you may as well slither off back to where you came from and take a look at your REAL MOTIVATION in wanting to be a 'slave' or 'submissive' ... maybe it's actually all about you and what you can 'get' and how you orchestrate the situation so that you can have your sexual urges 'satisfied'.  I'm not saying you won't find an 'equiavalent' Mistress who 'might' accept your behaviour, and that is up to them, however, I am not and never have been of that ilk.  WHAT I SAY GOES, without reserve, without question, without negotiation.  I DO NOT TURN THIS ON AND OFF to please you or to ensure that I keep your attention by going soft on you when you waver or resist or wish to challenge my motivations.  If you don't understand this, then move on. 

I'm more than happy to stay single than to compromise My standards.  I am at the extreme REALITY end of the spectrum where THIS IS NOT ANY KIND OF GAME, It's My nature and My raison d'etre.

I do not ascertain your worthiness to serve by a mere exchange of a couple of messages on collaryou with you stating that you are 'all that', a boy will say anything to get attention.  Rigorous selection and psychological analysis takes months.  This is no game.  I expect to confirm over a period of time that you are a boy of character, ability, resilience, stamina, fortitude and unwavering devotion.  A couple of emails from a far off land with an expectation that REALlife 24/7 can eventuate is folly. Get a grip on REALITY boys.

Mirror Mirror on the wall, whose the most genuine of them all .....

My thoughts are with the brave souls in Christchurch, the magnitude of this disaster for all of us in New Zealand is profound. Miss Violet

To those boys who are genuine, honest, and have what it takes, you are noble and true, keep up the good work for the good of your journey in being the best boy you can be and in representing the best of submission and slavery, a genuinely Empowered Ruthless and Nurturing Alpha Female will TAKE YOU some day.....

I've been Dominant since birth, a willful child, I know I gave My parents a challenge as soon as I came kicking and definitely screaming in to this world.  All throughout life I've had to temper My Dominant essence to differing degrees to 'get on in life' without inviting unnecessary obstacles and rocking the boat (too much).  Mainstream conservative society doesn't embrace strong women, hence 'glass ceilings in the business world and the lack of female leaders in governments around the world.   Standing out too Dominantly is basically career limiting unless running your own business and taking a risk.  Anyway, regardless of the challenges, My Dominant nature hasn't been hidden under a bushel entirely, both men and women naturally come under My Dominant sphere and really don't know they are doing it, it is simply the natural order of things.  In all of My relationships I have assumed My natural place, in day to day life and sexually, it's just the way it is, I cannot deny My essence and I am determined to see if fully realised.  That is all.

Like a phoenix rising.  An epiphany!  I am so humbled to have been brought to this crossroads in life.  I am shedding My skin, re-defining and rising to be even more authentic than I believed I already was.  This is a revelation, such a gift.  Anyone who isn't willing to embrace and address their flaws and foibles, challenges and weaknesses will limit themselves to mediocrity and stagnation.  Bring it on, is that all you got!!!!

It's the little things that count.  What matters is that a boy follows through EVERY TIME.  It is never acceptable to think 'I'll leave it for now, just this time' or 'She won't mind because' or 'I thought that I could do it tomorrow instead'.  Obedience is about following through whether you like it or not.  It may be the smallest of demands, but the test is in that a boy obeys and he obeys according to the timeframe he has been assigned, the size of the demand is irrelevant and it is most definitely not up to a boy to presume he can alter the timeframe.  As a Mistress, I have to trust ABSOLUTELY that in every demand a boy will obey, this is where My trust in his service and devotion is derived and where the synergy of Mistress and submissive/slave is strengthened. Just as a boy's trust in Me is derived from My unwavering consistency.  If a boy's purpose in My life is to make it more pleasurable, what pleasure is there in My having to remind?  Depending on the demand I could have done it Myself in the first place, therefore what is his worth to Me?

Choosing to be true to Myself and Authentic to who I am drastically narrows down the odds of unearthing that chosen one; a boy who is the submissive opposite to My Dominant Self.  I seek that magical synergy.  The complementary energy of a submissive boy required to build a truly fulfilling D&s REALationship of worth and duration is rare.   The number of vanilla relationships that fail and fall apart for all sorts of reasons is massive. The number of viable vanilla 'partners' is huge compared to the numbers of those seeking a D&s connection; and is testament to the huge challenge on Our/our hands in taking this path.  When We/we follow the course of a REALneed D&s REALationship, the odds of procureing that elusive submissive boy who REALLY 'gets it' is very slim indeed.  The 'pool' of viable boys is small, smaller than the numbers in the vanilla 'ocean'.  I'm not vaguely interested in swimming in that great big dirty old sea.

False advertising and Ridiculous 'claims'

boys claim all sorts of things, being available is one of them, and a huge sign that the 'respect' that is claimed is quite simply a LIE.  Any proclamation of undying devotion or respect for a genuine Domme in an 'approach' email is hard to fathom.  Words are indeed cheap.  Respect and integrity appear to be turned on and off at will once a boy doesn't get what he wants.  That's the opposite of obedience, it's not about what you want.

boys claim to want to devote themselves, do anything, give everything, adore without question, be Owned by ... then at the simplest of basic instruction either run for the hills or start with tiresome excuses of why they just 'can't do it right now', OR, and more commonly, launch into a personal attack which is fantastic, revealing boys for who they are, call it true colours, exposed as insecure and with less than genuine intentions ..... attack is the best form of defence I suppose when a true nature is about to be 'outed'.  It denegrates those that are sincere, and again it validates My philosophies.    It shows that in REALITY a boy does not know the meaning of, and has no intention of showing respect.  Hence My position on REALITY vs fantasy.  In My experience a very high percentage of all (self titled) 'submissive' boys are underwhelmingly in fantasy land and wasting My valuable time.  Not just on the visuals they have of a 'fantasy Domme', but the false notion of who they really are, what they are in a position to give (or be taken from), living in the realms of delusion of being 'slave' or even 'submissive'.   So little self awareness and most of the time just plain thick.

To those boys who are genuine, honest, and have what it takes, you are noble and true, keep up the good work for yourself and in representing the best of submission and slavery, a genuine Alpha Female will TAKE YOU some day.

Heard an interesting statistic the other day about cheaters (and not the ones chasing down their prey, that's cheetahs).  'Apparently' 76% of men cheat and 30% of Women cheat.  Glaringly obvious what the problem here is.  you NEED to be Owned and in Chastity, your sex needs to be controlled by an Authentically Dominant Woman.  you are incapable of managing yourselves as you are driven by your own unchecked feral sexual gratification ..... Again, not rocket science or even basic high school science.  It's the law of Mother nature.

I'm reminded of a wonderful quote I read in a book by Janet Street-Porter once "Life's too fucking short to believe what men say"  oh how I laughed again and again.  I personally adore much about men, not everything, but much, BUT you DO require Dominating and controlling to get the best out of you. It's about harnessing your resource :)  Get it boys?

As a Dominant Woman Authentically on this journey of Mine, I continually NEED guidance from the Universe.  I regularly read and soak up valid thoughts and perspectives of others who are more informed than I.  I connect with and learn from other Dominants (and even submissives - hard to believe I know, however ... ) across this wonderful earth.  It would be foolish for anyone to EVER believe they know it all, for as much as I impart My wisdom and guidance to a boy to craft his journey, the wisdom and guidance will only continue to be of quality as long as I continue to learn and grow.  There endeth the soapbox for today. 

~~ It's not Rocket Science ~~

TRAIN a boy in My ways

DISCIPLINE a boy regularly

ENCOURAGE a boy when he does well

CORRECT a boy when he makes a mistake

PUNISH a boy when he is deliberately disobedient

TEACH, REPEAT, REINFORCE

And for the record Collarme should read Collaryou ...
To put this in context -  My statement is from a position of "IT IS MY DECISION, and MINE ONLY as to whether I EVER decide to Collaryou"   A boy should never be stating "Collarme", it is NEVER a boy's decision, only ever a boy's purpose to remain obedient, willing and grateful, quietly wishing that the day will come that he will have proven himself worthy, when Miss Violet will say, "It is time to Collaryou in a LIFETIME of service to Me, good boy"

The REALity of being submissive / a slave / property is quite simply lost on most of you, it is NOT all about your self gratification, and for REALneed submissive boys it is not first and foremost based upon sex, although sexuality is a component.  The most beautiful of all REALationships is that where I demonstrate My care by encouragement, support, acknowledgment of accomplishments and respect. It is much easier to master physical skills than to be truly knowledgeable about the heart and soul and be sensitive to the subtleties of nuance, tone and body language. As a Mistress I am like a dedicated teacher, like a devoted parent. Not just anyone can do this, and most don't.  My true accomplishment is when I create the environment in which a boy learns to accomplish, achieve and reach his potential as My charge. 

If you can withstand unattainably high expectations, knowing that at times your best efforts will still disappoint Me, feel that you are undergoing trial by fire and yet still evolve as more beautiful REAL need submissive boy, then you may be a good boy with potential.  Not many exist, not many succeed.

The more I learn about submissive boys, the more I learn about Myself.  I am an empowered intelligent woman, but that doesn't mean I won't ever stop learning.  Learning is crucial for any D&s REALationship.  A truthful REALationship of any worth will see both the Dominant and Submissive willing to evolve and blossom and not cast the REALationship in stone in any point of time, however, this doesen't mean there won't be non negotiables and clear boundaries.

And yet I still get messages from those who say "wanna have some cam fun with Me tonight M'aam".  The answer is and will always be no thank you, because I have manners even to those who have none.  The answer to unsolicited 'Chat Requests' will also be no thank you.  If you can't be bothered making the appropriate approach as a genuine submissive boy in the first place, then I certainly can't be bothered chatting.