MissTrista

Collaring

Lets start with a standard disclosure. Anything said here is my personal opinion and is not documentable nor should be stated as fact.

This can be a bit of a touchy subject so come into this with an open mind. First, collaring is very serious for me. I feel there are three levels of Collaring; Collar of Protection, Collar of Consideration, Collared.

A collar of protection does not have to involve play at all. This could be a title given to a submissive who is attending an event and would prefer to do so under the protection of a respected Dom. This could also include in scene play that does or does not include sexual contact. This title is one used when a mental and/or physical relationship is pursued but not an emotional relationship.

A collar of consideration is given when an emotional relationship is being pursued between a Dominant and their submissive. This is the "dating" phase.

Someone who is collared is married to me. This is an extremely committed relationship where both parties have committed to working to make this relationship a lifelong paring. I feel that someone who is collared is as devoted as in a marriage. It takes a lot of commitment to work through the hard times in a relationship when you don't have that legal binding marriage does. You have to be truly committed to making this work to stick out the hardship of only your own free will to make that relationship work.

POLYGAMOUS RELATIONSHIPS

Lets start with a standard disclosure. Anything said here is my personal opinion and is not documentable nor should be stated as fact.

Poly relationship aren't socially accepted today however those within the more risque lifestyles will come across these relationships more an more.

The first thing to keep in mind is that a poly relationship doesn't have to be sexual between all parties in the relationship. For example, a Domme might have two submissive men in her life and the two men might be very close as friends, best friends, or even closer. I hesitate to say husbands as that usually indicates a sexual relationship and it doesn't have to be and brotherly is false as well but having an exceedingly intimate emotional, mental and physical reltionship (hugs for example but not sexual). In some cases, drawing on one and other for support. Needless to say, relationship with others can become exeedingly intimate without crossing into the sexual realm.

Poly relationship have one key factor, all parties have to have their needs met emotionally, mentally, and physically. This is not to say that everything has to be equal. You get an hour, you get an hour, then we'll spend two hours together and alternate bed partners every other night usually doesn't work. You need to really assess your needs and determine who can fulfill those needs. One person is unlikely to be able to fulfill the needs for all three individuals. The responsibility should be spread between all members of the relationship. You should access who in the relationship can fulfill those needs. Who can you confide in, who can you spend time enjoying your hobbies with, etc.

Once you have acessed those needs you should consider if everyones needs can be met in the relationship. Some people require more time and attention from their partner than others. This is really important because if your needs are not met then there could be concerns with jealousy and dissatisfaction.