MissLasher

MOMENTS

Moments so different that they seem not to fit together

Moments of passion, all consuming and wild with need

Moments of friendship, full of understanding and knowledge

Moments of quiet when nothing needs to be said

Moments of pleasure, intense and heady

Moments of pain, real and at times severe

Moments of peace were soul speaks to soul in the embrace of a lover

Moments of laughter, heartfelt and resonating

Moments of trial, submission and surrender

Moments so pure you weep, so hard you cry, so powerful you scream, so unexpected you laugh....

Not All moments may you love,

But all moments you cherish and all moments you choose.

Mastering the Man

He is a Man like most others. Capable of great joy and sorrow, despair and passion. He has needs and wants like any other man.

He is also a Master. It is a mantle that He wears to protect the Man. The Master measures out emotion in safe doses and heightens the passion but controls the release. He tempers the Man underneath.

I am a woman who wears the mantle of a slave. The slave affords me release and the woman gives me strength to stand.
Both the woman and the slave are His. I love the Man and need the Master.

I wonder sometimes as i watch the emotions dance behind His eyes if Their need of me; the Master and the Man; brings them peace in themselves or rather create a kind of discord of sorts.

If the balance of woman and slave is found when the slave seeks a release and the woman’s lends her strength.

Would it not then follow that the balance of Man and Master is found when the Master lends His strength and the Man is allowed His release?

I love the Man

and need the Master.

One of the things about BDSM and D/s or M/s relationships that I love so very much is the mental component of them. I am not just talking about humiliation and mind games but the deeper aspect of this type of power exchange. I am a people watcher, I enjoy understanding what makes someone who they are and what drives them . Of late I have come to a conclusion (in my own head) about what makes the kind of D/s relationship that I, and sometimes others, crave, a success. What follows are my thoughts and conclusions based on personal experience and conversations/observations with other D/s couples. Please read with an open mind as perhaps at times You will disagree with my thoughts... I challenge You though, to think on it a moment, roll it around in Your head a bit and see ?

Today’s word boys and girls is “safe”. “Safe” meaning to be free from risk, secure from danger and harm.
Safe in BDSM means a lot ... safe rope and bondage techniques, safewords, safe and sane practices, but can it not mean so much more?

I think we all understand how “safe” comes into a relationship on the submissive side. Being an extreme submissive to my Master I know very much how being safe effects my ability to embrace my fear and relinquish my control. I had a few Doms before my Master and although they were wonderful and yes in essences I always knew I was “safe”, I always held back part of myself. With my Master I do not. The following statements are wholly and utterly true in my mind and my heart...

I feel safe to put my life in His hands but even more so, I feel safe to place my heart in His hands as well.

These statements coming from a submissive or slave will, I think, ring true to many. They may even seem common sense or expected. Not surprising I guess but now, what about the Dominants out there? How does “safe” apply to them? And YES I do strongly believe that in healthy happy D/s relationships this word applies just as much to the Dominant as to the submissive. (stop shaking Your lovely Dominant head for a moment and follow me on this one.. ok?)

While I highly doubt that many Dominants are worried about being overpowered or physically hurt by their submissive.. It is not this meaning of the word that I think fits.

I am a switch and the mind or mental state of the Dominant intrigues me. We talk so much about subspace and the subs needs and the subs mental state and and and ...but how about the Dom? I hear it stated over and over again.. how can you be a Master if you can’t Master yourself.. Dominants don’t play with emotion they are always in control... Bull Paddies! I don’t care one bit what side of the whip you are on we all come into this life with emotions, with needs to be filled and to reach that end.. to truely find fulfillment in any relationship, I think the need to feel “Safe” applies to all. (please note I said relationship... perhaps for the Dominants of the world “safe” is not as important in casual play as in deep ongoing relationships...please continue reading now...lol)

I have watched with fascination the relationships around me grow and morph. I have watched my own deepen to a place neither I nor He expected it would and what I see... what I truely believe has opened to doors in these relationships , is the Dominant partners belief that They are safe.
Safe to explore the deeper, darker sides of their fantasies without ridicule or question.
Safe to put their full trust in the actions of their subs when they are apart.
Safe to be human and make mistakes
Safe to love and be loved.
Safe to be venerable (i see you shaking your head... stop that.. Dominants CAN be venerable... You CAN relinquish control without losing Your Power over the relationship)

I think this statement can be made by a Dominant ....

I feel safe placing My heart and My needs in My subs hands.

As my Masters slave... I submitted the deepest the day He trusted Me with His Heart and the inner workings of His soul. I hold them close, with me, He will always be “safe”.

JUST SOMETHING THAT I FOUND AND WANTED TO SHARE




I belong to HIM

My heart, my mind, body and soul

everything that i am belongs

to Him.

What stands out most is the strength and

the power this Man exudes.

Being a strong women, it takes

one hell of a Man to inspire the absolute

submission that lives within this one.

Any Master can stand over a slave, and

demand her to kneel, but

Not Any Master can stand over one and

without demand, she kneels freely.

...and I live in being HIS.

Hello,

I think I may need to clarify a few things.  
If you have an absolute NEED to call me Miss or Ma'am I will deal with it but if we exchange more then a few emails or I agree to chat on msn you will have been given my NAME.  Please feel free to use it!

I am NOT looking for someone to Dominate 24/7 so please be a person with thoughts and feelings and PLEASE be able to express them.

And if you are not sure what I am talking about PLEASE read this link.  I agree with alot in it.
http://www.sexuality.org/authors/lauren/novice.html