MissingafirmDomme

This profile is likely to be a mass of contradictions, I can only hope it makes sense to a few.

I want/need a Domme who tells not asks and expaspects obedience, I also need to be respected. Serve my Mistress, but be liked by her. We have to be friends.

I understand all the Dommes who complain about subs who try to “top from the bottom” and can see why that is unacceptable; on the other hand if the sub does not get what he requires from a relationship it won´t work either.

I admit that I am kinky about being ked. If I don´t the rather more than occasional king I won´t be happy. Actual punishment is different; I realize that a mistress may need to discipline her sub sometimes, but if this is needed more than occasionally something about the arrangement is not working as it should. I do want to be a little afraid of my Domme, or perhaps more of her cane/paddle or whatever of punishment she chooses, but I don´t want to be abused.

Is anyone still reading? I said it would be a mass of contradictions. Here is another, can a lady be kind, nice even, yet also be a strict Mistress?

I have been in three fairly short s/D relationships and a few more two or three dates. My feeling is that the respect issue is often very difficult. I can see why most women would find it hard to maintain respect for a man she has just had (my italics) to punish, but it is I´m afraid necessary. (Ooops is that me expressing myself in a non-subby way?)

To try to sum up my ideal relationship is female led, based on friendship, affection and mutual respect with a lady who enjoys king.