MissHelperkins

A little side rant...to males seeking the attention and "TLC" of Lady Dominants. I have a few tips for you.

Yes there are crazy women and fake ones on here, it's the internet, there are bound to be. Hopefully you have the grey matter to figure out which a certain female who catches your interest is. But don't lump us all together.

Most (and I say MOST) Lady Doms like a man who knows how to be a man when appropriate. You being submissive is sexy as hell when its a part of yourself that you save just for Us. I keep telling submissives its the difference between having a Rottweiler on a leash or a Teacup Poodle. Which do you think most would prefer? I personally think I get way more cool points for the Rottie, since most are indimidated by them, and look, I have one curled up at my feet.

I think I can speak for most women both Dominant and submissive when I say we like being wooed. So please for the love of marmalade, don't tell us what you want from us, we're not stupid, we have an inkling. We can read your profile and see where your interests are, but in the meantime dazzle us with your intelligence and pretend to give a shit about what is between our ears. I'm speaking for myself here maybe, but if I can't understand you or find you entertaining, there isn't enough rope or floggers or pvc in the world that will make you more so. I'm convinced there is the right D/s configuration for everyone, but we have to find something attractive about you to WANT to Dominate you. That's just how it is, it's no different from dating in the vanilla world, really. Long term, short term, it doesn't matter, you have to make yourself the most charming choice.

When talking to a woman, try and talk to her about something that you could talk about in a public place about. Telling me in the first sentence that you wish to serve me orally doesn't make my heart go pitty patter. You're just a guy on the make. Which is sleazy. Save the sleazy for later, then its considered sexy. See the difference? It will also help you filter out the crazies and the fakes you are constantly bombarded by.

Be honest. It seems so simple, but it seems that it is a difficult task in an electronic world where you can pretend to be anything. You're asking someone to invest time and energy into you, the least you can do is respect that and be truthful. Honesty is the first building block to a true and good D/s connection, and I'd hate for you to undermine that immediately. It just ends up making good people bitter, and I think there is more than enough of that to go around, don't you? So, if you want to stick to online, say so. If you're looking for Mrs Kinky Bastard Forever, say so. There is not right or wrong answers...but it does help both parties decide wether to proceed or not. And why build on something not real? We have one chance on this planet. Make it count.

There, hopefully that will help someone out there. I've made some fantastic friends both online (due to distance) and in person, and had some great experiences along the way. Your dream Dominant is there, with her/his whip in hand waiting for you, it's up to YOU to separate yourself from the timewasters and shine.

Wow, its been a long time since I've written in here. I guess overdue for an update. Let's see, what's going on....

While I haven't found the notion I talk about in my profile, I have found a new position. I'm now in the midst of starting a company for a fella with too many ideas, money, and not enough time. I'm loving the creative freedom it allows me, and seeing something start from scratch. New beginnings are always exciting. This new employer while not kinky in least, appreciates my strength and creativity, and lets me use it. You have to like that. The hours are long, the workload immense, but I do love a challenge.

I have a female pet, not sure if I mentioned it on here before or not. She's proving to be a great deal of fun.

I've had a rash of fantastic ideas lately, and I'm in the process of sifting through what is realistic and what is not. My favourite lately has been starting a kink friendly B&B, boardinghouse or commune...something along those lines. Pet and I jokingly refer to it as my "Queendom". I promise, when I have a pile of investors who fall in my lap, I'll start it. I really don't care if I own it, it would just be wonderful to see that kind of thing. A retreat for subs that can't be 24/7, or Dommes that can't be 24/7 or are, and would like somewhere to go for a change of scenery.

The other notion is far more practical and less fantasy, and I'm working on it. If any of you out there are into webdesign, and code writing, let me know. While the idea itself is good, my knowledge of that kind of thing is limited. I know when to defer to the experts.;)

Hmm what else....the leaves up here are changing, and they're stunning. It has to be my favourite time of year!

Take care!

Good morning,

Spring is finally getting here! I'm so excited and can't wait to start seeing a little bit of green. While I'm sure it's nice to live somewhere where it is always green, I always thought the snow, cold, and ice makes us appreciate the nice weather even more.  It seems to be a very Canadian hobby to obsess about the weather, likely since we go from one extreme to the next.

Ice fishing is done here for the year, I caught my monster walleye, the one and only fish I've caught in about 2 years, so it was a very good winter indeed. I guess I was saving all my 'fish mojo' for that one. ;) So I fully expect to be skunked for another couple of years, until the next huge fish. Fishing this summer will consist of a hook, worm and bobber, and I'll paint my nails and read. ;)

MH

sissyjeffreyboi is also Jeffrey1966, the drama continued. I guess I should have clued in when there were two jeffreys, but really, I know 5 separate ones, so it didn't seem unusual.

Talk about a split personality disorder. I fortunately never met either one, I was done wasting my precious time on scum like that. I always find that baffling, people being what they are not. WHY? This interweb is the one place you can be as freaky as you like, and guaranteed you will find someone with a common interest.

So, I met with some Dominant friends who I've been chatting with forever, FINALLY face to face! It was wonderful! I like the fact that even though things didn't work out as planned, they worked out well anyway. Can't complain about that, for sure.

Hey E/everyone... I just thought I'd post this, since I am pretty ticked off by the whole episode...and I want to put it here as an example to submissives as to why so many of Us Dommes are distrustful (mistrustful, not sure which works better here?). We're not all the psycho screaming Banshees we sometimes get treated to on here. Most of us are fairly reasonable, real people, who like you have to function in a very ordinary world. And like many submissives we too can be truly mislead. I am not giving up, it takes more than tripping over a dog turd to keep me down for long, but it sure makes me wonder at how much time people think they can afford to waste. One of my dearest friends died at 38 years old, just last year. His heart up and blew a blood vessel, right there in the grocery store while buying blueberry muffins. I don't forget that, the clock is always ticking and to try and make moments count.  

 So like many Dominants on here, I was inconvenienced by a submissive that while I knew he was nervous, I really did think he would buck up and meet Me in person.

He sends me a one line note.  i can't do this. That's it.

i can't do this.

Take care Jeffrey1966, I certainly wish you all the luck in the world, you are one poor soul who is going to definitely need it.

you are a small cowardly person who is wasting other peoples precious time and energy. Do us all a favour and remove yourself. There is a line up of genuine people who are trying to find what they want, and your pathetic ass is in their way.  Get out of the line.

I am a wonderful, caring, creative and REAL person. I am the best thing you will never see. I'm so fortunate, I have friends, I have family, I have so much to be thankful for. your little sad life makes mine shine that much more.   

MH

My newest pet peeve. People who post countless pictures of themselves etc, when it's obvious your house is a disaster and a total mess. There you are in you cute little maid uniform, or showing off your ass sporting a new plug....and yet your home looks like it could be a candidate for an episode of Hoarders. Show a little pride people. At the very least kick crap out of the way and think about what you are showing E/everyone on here. I don't care to have a sub or slave who is a total slob. It just makes Me wonder what else you are a slob about.

MH

No poppets, I am not a Pro Domme...I am just a kink friendly co-worker who happens to  be a little on the bossy side when things need to get done....

Well my mood has definitely improved!! But now my computer is being very tempermental. I daresay it's just plain old exhausted, being an older laptop. It's even to the point that many of the keys have long since lost whatever letter was painted on them, this is what long nails do to a keyboard. lol Ah well just like the rest of Us, it gets a little rickety, doesn't work as fast as it used to...groans sometimes.....it really is no reason to give up on it yet and throw it in the computer nursing home. ;) We'll just say it's got character.

Wow I've been in a terrible mood these days. And usually I'm such a happy little Domme. I've been let down by several submissives simultaneously, work is ridiculous, and I won't bother going on about the rest. Is it because it's winter, and an icky one at that? Who knows, but I'm not liking feeling this way.

Today, I'm going to make an effort to count my blessings, cope with what I can, fix what is possible, and deal with the rest later. Sometimes taking small bites out of problems does far more than just wringing your hands when you look at the big picture and feeling overwhelmed by it all.

Why the hell am I posting this is probably what someone out there is wondering. Subs tend to forget that Dominants are humans. We have to remember that you are breakable, try and keep in mind we have our crappy times too. I am not a fantasy, I make mistakes, and am all too human. Now and again. Just less often than most. lol

MH

If you want to watch something that makes you think, watch Food Inc. If you think BDSM is scary, you haven't seen anything yet, until you realize what we're putting in our bellies.