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The TRIUMPH OF INTELLECT AND ROMANCE OVER BRUTE FORCE AND CYNICISM!




Hi. I'm Eva. That's pronounced Ay-vuh, by the way. I've had this profile for awhile and it was getting very weird from me adding things all higglety pigglety and a lot of it was out of date, so I've changed some stuff.

My non-kink interests are: Lolita Fashion, Victorian ANYTHING, writing, cooking, paranormal topics, history, and science fiction.
I love: kitties, doctor who, vampire novels, queer as folk, streetlight manifesto, hole, the ramones, the smiths, and miyavi. Hairbows, Lipstick, Shoes, Lace, Ribbons, Cuddles, Strawberries, Role-Playing Games, and the colors green, pink, purple, and blue.

As for kink... I have a lot of mental pictures I want to fullfill. It's always been hard for my to describe things with checklists.
I love dress up games, getting more and more into ageplay (more LG than baby.), spankings, and phone sex, although I'm still learning how to talk and be very turned on at the same time! I adore certain types of pain that I've tried so far, although I'm not sure how much I can take. I'm learning that it's more than I think. I like getting hickeys! I love being taught new things and get a rush from doing something and LOVING it that I never thought I'd like or thought I'd never be brave enough to do! I have a lot of things I like or really want to try that I've got no terms for, or don't think there is a term.

My number one mental picture, on my bucket list, is to serve a dinner with several courses to some very beautiful people at a fancy dinner party in only an apron.

I try not to promise things I can't deliver, but I'm chaotic by nature and I crave the structure I have trouble applying to my own life. But at the same time, I'm still trying to figure out how that works without me being annoying and co-dependent, which is a big fear of mine. I never want people to resent me for needing them.
I love women, but I'm very shy with them and have little experience with them. I'm shy in general with people I like a lot...I also have a couple fantasies about being more dominant for a try, but I'm not sure how that would work or if I want to do it. It would only be for play though. In a relationship I'd need to be sub before I could even try to be dominant. I function better when someone expects something of me.

If you read this far and want to IM me, could you please include the word "dolly" in your message? I'd really appreciate it. It's a quick way for me to know you read this even though you might be shy. You can call me dolly if you want. I like that.

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12/15/2010 3:02:23 AM
Meh. I had a post on here about respecting limits in relationships that I think a lot of people misinterpreted. For an ltr, which is my idea D/s scenario, I don't think a relationship can work without respect on both sides. To me, respect for me is a condition of trust.
 Respect includes acknowledging that your submissive is also a person, with natural aptitudes, likes, dislikes, fears, emotional baggage (even really well adjusted people have it!) and needs. It means being willing to realize that no matter how hard you train her, there are some things that she won't be able to do or that will be harder for her or that she won't like to do. Even if she does those things to make you happy, if her life is only doing things she hates doing to make you happy, trying to do things that are impossible or improbable for her to do (or do well) and knowing you're disappointed that she's not better at those things and more willing to do them, she's going to be a miserable sub, and that's going to affect your relationship negatively. It's going to make both of you very stressed out. 

If your dream includes having a girl play you the piano every night, it might not be a good idea to take on a sub who's tone deaf to fill that position. If you're poly, it might not be a good idea to take on a sub who's strongly monogamous. If you're into rape fantasy play, it's probably not a good idea to have a sub who's actually been raped. If you want to be a daddy, don't take on a girl who's unable to bear children or wouldn't make a good mom. This is not rocket science.

There are some things I know I could probably do if I HAD to in order to make someone happy, but... especially if I had to do them often, would make me miserable in a relationship. I've had problems in the past with being able to be talked into doing things that hurt me by people who were important to me, so it's important to me to find someone who's willing to respect that some things would be really hard for me to do for you, even if they are easier for other people. Some things might be impossible for me to do for you, even if I try my best. Some things might be things I really, really hate doing and you'll have to convince me it's worth being with you on the whole for the things I like about being with you in order to get me to do them. I might even need certain things from you from time to time.

I file this under "taking care of your toys." I want to be well cared for, and In return, I'll do everything I can to make the person who takes care of me happy enough that I'm worth it.  

4/8/2008 1:14:55 PM
sorry, please don't invite me to chat! the chat feature doesn't work right on my computer.

2/1/2008 4:15:25 PM
i'm not any good at this stuff.

also, i have discovered that this site has games. if you see me on here, i'm either trying to work up the nerve to say something clever to pretty girls or playing space invaders.

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MissLeighton
 
 Age: 19
  Arizona