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Male Submissive, 43, cincinnati, Ohio
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Male Submissive, 31, Orange, California
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About maleslave45
UNDER CONTROL OF A MASTER NOW AND HE WILL BRING me ALONG SLOWLY AND MOLD ?me ?INTO A TRUE slave.
-Put this in your profile if?you know someone who has survived or died of cancer-
i'm meeting some great people here which i hope will lead to real life ownership. i plan on taking this step slower than i have in the past, possibly too slow for some, i've just been burned to hard in the past not too. i do believe in an Owner being able to "claim" me and immediately place restrictions on me, but please be aware i request it still go slow. This isn't about the sex for me, although it is a big turn on in the bedroom to loose all control, it's more about the total control and being owned in real life all the time. To me it is freedom, a security blanket so to speak. i'm not looking for anyone to "take care of me" so that i do nothing but eat bon bons and watch tv all day, contrary, i own a home, two vehicles and actually have a life. i don't want to get burned again by giving up everything just to be turned out again after the horny wears off. i don't intend to be rude, just laying the groundwork of understanding my thoughts a little bit.Thank You so much for reading, hope to chat or talk with any and all. Happy hunting!
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Back from the VA, not such good news, but hey, with the family history i'm still ahead of the game so far. i'm honestly not sure how motivated i am to fight to live anymore, i've actually died once already (i ran away from the light....lol), not to sound morbid, i'm just tired.
i'll stop now before i get too overwhelming. |
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There Is No Forgetfulness
If you ask where I have been
I have to say, "It so happens. . ."
I have to talk about the earth turned dark with stones,
and the river which ruins itself by keeping alive;
I only know about objects that birds lose,
the sea far behind us, or my sister crying.
Why so many different places, why does one day
merge with another day? Why does a black night
gather in the mouth? Why are all these people dead?
If you ask where I come from I have to start talking with broken objects,
with kitchenware that has too much bitterness.
with animals quite often rotten,
and with my heavy soul.
What have met and crossed are not memories,
nor the yellow pigeon that sleeps in forgetfulness;
but they are faces with tears,
fingers at the throat,
anything that drops out of the leaves:
the shadowiness of a day already passed by,
of a day fed with our own mournful blood.
Look and see violets, swallows,
all those things we love so much and can see
on the tender greeting-cards with long tails
where time and sweetness are sauntering.
But let's not go deeper than those teeth,
nor bite into the rinds growing over the silence,
because I don't know what to say:
there are so many people dead
and so many sea-walls that the red sun used to split,
and so many heads that the boats hit,
and so many hands that have closed around kisses,
and so many things I would like to forget.
~ Pablo Neruda |
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"Non est ad astra mollis e terris via."
? Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Translation: There Is No Easy Way From the Earth to the Stars |
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Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You
For people who are ruled by tender-hearted compassion, your more diplomatic response to problems might seem too cool, too focused on fairness and not filled enough with sympathy and selflessness.
For them, when someone's life is on fire, what is needed is not collaboration but rescue. And the person who experiences their life on fire may resent the time you take to contemplate. "I need you, and I need you NOW! This isn't about fairness, it's about the fire." "All deliberate speed" may seem too deliberate and not fast enough, either to the more compassionate or to people in genuine trouble.
At the other end of the spectrum of compassion, those who believe people should take care of themselves may find even your thoughtful sympathies too soft. They expect people, themselves included, to work their own way out of trouble. They are convinced that the helping hand you lend just fosters dependence and is not good for the development of character, either in you or in the person you assist.
Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You
Many people, perhaps the majority, will come to appreciate your balance as a compassionate person. The more they get to know you, the more they will admire your thoughtful compassion for others and its compliment in the sensible ways you take good care of yourself.
Those whom you help will appreciate the way you leave them with their dignity by expecting them to collaborate in their own rescue. Those who are more tender-hearted will find in you a balance they lack; when they've run out of energy because they fail to take good care of themselves, you will still have enough compassion left to lift others out of trouble.
Even the tough-hearted, those who believe people should solve their own problems, might come to admire your tenderness which they don't find in themselves. So the people you help will be grateful, and the people who see your balance between self and others will admire you. Certainly, balanced is not bad at all as a way to be known among your friends. |
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A General Description of How You Interact with Others
You are important. So are other people, especially if they are in trouble. You have a tender heart, but you know how to establish and keep personal boundaries. You are empathetic and compassionate, but you also believe that it's best if people solve their own problems and learn to take care of themselves, if they are able.
You are deeply moved by the needs of others, but you know that if you don't take good care of yourself, you'll wind up being of no use to anyone. So yours is a thoughtful compassion. You strive to be fair and sensible, taking care of others while also taking care of yourself.
When someone really is in trouble, you like to collaborate with them toward a solution; they do their part, you do yours. You consider carefully, and respond in a sensible way; they do their part, and together you move through the difficulty.
You seldom act impulsively; rather, when a problem arises, you take your time to think through the situation. This contemplative quality usually means that you'll arrive at a diplomatic solution, one that's fair for the other person and also fair to you. It's frequently a win/win situation. |
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Words that describe you:
Fair
Considered
Collaborative
Responsive
Sensible
Diplomatic
Contemplative
Indulgent
Rational
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You are best described as:
TAKING CARE OF OTHERS AND TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF |
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Introduction to Agreeableness
This section of your profile describes your interactions with other people. The ways we communicate our feelings, beliefs and ideas to others are influenced by our cultural backgrounds, the way we were raised, and sometimes which side of the bed we got up on this morning. Some of us are very mindful of others making decisions we hope will be in their best interests, even if it means sometimes neglecting our own interests. Others of us believe each person should be responsible for themselves, taking deep pride in our own character and independence with a firm belief that others are best served by doing the same. The following describes how you engage with others; illustrating the dimension of your personality that determines your independence or your desire to reach out and touch others in meaningful ways. |
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For fun i did an eHarmony personality test to see what they think i'm like. It takes some time and turned out to be interesting to say the least. i'll start to put the results in the next few entry's. |
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And now for something completely different (for all Y/you Monty Python fans out there).....
Allow me to preface this with this: if Y/you are expecting this to be a sexual related journal entry or even slave related that you can choke the chicken to, Y/you will be very unsatisfied. i do have interests outside of sex and wish to convey that here. Should Y/you find sexual gratification from this, please let me know as there is something i've never even imagined.
Home Audio
Not just the cheap "i can hear music so that's good enough", but serious great sounding equipment that will not send Y/you to the poor house. Y/you will find all types of advice, all of which is subjective, so this is my thinking on this subject and what i have actually done in my own home. Ten years ago i started with the speakers, only the front three speakers. i had a set budget and decided to make it as much as i could afford. i think a word about this is important as well, as i personally believe there is a price point where performance to price ratio starts to wain, in that the percent of extra price paid does not equal the percent of performance increase. Once again, this is all subjective, my price point ranges in the $1,000 to $2,000 for the speaker...yes one.
After much searching, listening and advice, i purchased a pair of Sonus Faber "bookshelf" speakers and an MK subwoofer. The MK was a demo and had cosmetic damage, but sounded very tight (read: crisp fast response that makes low bass sound realistic and not "blurred" or commonly called "Muddy"). These speakers have an incredible natural sound to them that i have never heard in this price point. Sure i listened to the higher priced speakers, and they did sound incredible, but could i:
1. Afford them?
2. Did they really sound that much better?
my answer to both questions was a resounding no.
The subwoofer is incredible, as it covers the low end that the Sonus' cannot reach, and with a clarity and tightness that compliments them well. Normally i would not have bought that sub new (the company since went out of business and the name has now been purchased by another company), but since it was damaged, the deal was truly amazing and one i could not pass up. So, the building of an incredible system starts, with just three speakers, a front L/R and a sub. More to come if anyone is interested, otherwise i'll just stop here.
Thanks for reading! |
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Every slave has needs! The simple fact that we are human beings, sexual human beings, thinking human beings, feeling and loving human beings, means that we have needs, wants, wishes, hopes and dreams. Being human with a slave nature means it is essential that we know what our needs are and how we must use those needs to serve a Master! Sounds a little backward? Not at all. As slaves, we serve because of our need to serve. it is as simple as that.
Understanding self and needs, will not only help us in our search for our Master, but will enhance our relationship with our Master. Knowing what we want and need and what we believe, helps to prepare us to explain our chosen vocation as slaves as well as helps others to understand.
Why i am a slave?
my need for slavery comes from my innate submissive nature.
What drives me?
Desire to serve -to do and obey the Will of Another.
Desire to belong -to be Owned and therefore a part of someone.
Need for Discipline -to live in a structured environment with Protocols, protected from my submissive nature.
slave views itself as:
...a partner with Master on the Journey to achieve a mutual trusting, respectful and nurturing Master/slave life together.
...a compliment to Master's Yin.
...a part of a Whole Master/slave family, relationship, etc.
...an extension of the Master's Integrity, Character, Strength.
slave views itself as:
...a source of pride to the Master and itself.
...a source of joy to the Master and itself.
...a source of pleasure to the Master and itself.
and perhaps most important
...a resource to enrich the life to the Master just as Master Enriches the life of this slave. |
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Ten BDSM Crimes
Humanity, Empathy and Clarity
1. Generalizing. Treating personal preference and prejudice is the root of much of what follows. Many people develop theories of BDSM that reflect nothing more than what is local to their own minds. They think that what applies to them ? at least they imagine it does ? reflects universal truths. This is a source of foolish formulae and ridiculous rules.
2. True Submissive [Person]. Unattached submissives are woefully annoying with their lists of what submissive people must and must not do. Their clownish criteria better fits caricatures and not flesh and blood people. Change the word to slave and many tops are just as wrongheaded.
3. Real Master or Mistress. This is really too complex a topic for this kind of list. But i have noticed submissive people unwittingly pressuring, nay, almost blackmailing tops to maintain an almost impossible level of control. To be too unforgiving, unrelenting, never relaxing. This can cause Tops to feel inadequate and even guilty for merely being human and having good sense. i can?t help but wonder how often sane tops let their more aggressive peers distort their code of conduct.
4. Too Many Rules. The most famous set of D/s rules is a classic instance of someone turning their preferences into a master plan of behavior. While heavy and complex protocol enhances masturbation, it makes the rest of life impossibly burdensome for both parties (not that there is no place for protocol, it is necessary, i merely point to the absolute).
5. Projection. Many assume their cravings will match another?s complementary desires. Because of the bias of my sample population, this is often masochistic men with shopping lists of what they expect someone to do to them. They don?t stop to wonder how many might, or why they would select him. They imagine their mere desire appealing in itself.
6. Objectification. (Not the fun kind) masochists forget they are interacting with a person and instead just see Dominatrix Mark IX (With Enhanced Torture Module). Sadists can be eually guilty, expecting the bottom to accept being made miserable in bad way.
7. Unrealistic Expectations. BDSM play doesn?t eliminate working for a living, getting sleep, having health problems, not being in the mood or having enough free time.
8. Fantasy vs. Reality. Just because you read it in a story doesn't mean you should do it.
9. Lack of Craft. i know someone who's second experience as a BDSM bottom was with a man who didn't know how to use a plastic riding crop. Particularly he didn't know to avoid the kidneys. There was no possibility of pleasure or desire to see him again. Any Sadist who doesn't take the time to learn about risk is dangerous.
10. Lack of Communication. If someone doesn't want to talk about themselves, learn about you or negotiate drop Him or Her. If you are playing with someone never hesitate to share your feelings. Do your best to encourage their self-expression. Don?t let notions of role make you silent. (Uncommunicative bottoms and tops can easily induce paranoia and guilt in their partners.) |
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A new day and a good one, very good one, i actually did all the dishes today, much more to do, but it just feels so good moving around and getting things done. i hope everyone haves a great weekend! |
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i am soooo lazy today, so much to do and not one ounce of motivation or ability to so much as stand up, eat or anything else. Ugh, guess there will not be much of a journal rant today, sorry E/everyone. |
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Some random thoughts in no particular order:
In this somewhat modern world we live in, especially the U.S.A., slavery is outlawed specifically by the 13th amendment to The Constitution of The United States of America.
Passed by Congress
January 31, 1865
Ratified
December 6, 1865
Section 1.
Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.
Section 2.
Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation.
So how does one become a slave as this presents a legal risk for an Owner? i don't think there is one answer except to say everyone has their way of doing things in a consensual relationship. What's my thought? Glad You asked :)
i believe in consensual non consent. i know, an oxymoron that discredits my entire thought. Before i am summarily dismissed, please allow me to justify. It get's a little complicated and i do not believe that two people entering into this should do so lightly. Once a slave proclaims the fact he/she is a slave then they are up for being claimed. Here is the tricky part, while they can be claimed early on, and i do believe the slave will stay honest and follow set rules, they must also be allowed a period of mutual understanding. Both the Owner and slave should use this time productively to understand each other. The Owner to know the buttons and limitations (since i don't believe in safe words except for one time players) and how to break down, mold and train the slave to His or Her needs. The slave uses this time to learn his or her's Owner, to understand how to best serve and please Him/Her by anticipating needs and providing the most pleasurable life to the Owner. This should be the only motivation for the slave. myself, i do get aroused by pleasing an Owner and enjoy the everyday work and knowledge that i can be the instrument of pleasure by providing directly or indirectly, and making my Owner's life more enriched.
i've opened a few other can of worms in this writing, but i'm getting some thoughts down at least. Please keep in mind, this is only how i think and not how i believe everyone should act/be/think. |
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hmm, this should be interesting, if only for me. i've always thought about starting a journal of sorts, guess this is the best place to do so.
i would love any input or comments, and as always welcome any and all mail and will answer all. if one liners come in, i answer the same with the assumption that is what is wanted.
thanks everyone! |
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