I enjoy deep intelligent conversation- guess you could say I'm sapiosexual- very attracted to intelligent men who enjoy good conversation. I'm a kind, sassy, thoughtful woman that has wide-ranging vanilla interests, and a sometimes wicked/sarcastic sense of humor. Being an introvert, the latter doesn't come through until after I've gotten to know you.

I'm also in control a lot in my professional and personal life and have realized what really excites me is the desire to let go and let a man that I trust play with me until I'm begging for it. Definitely not into emotional, mental, or physical degradation or subjugation, but I do know from some of the exploring I've done thus far is that I want to more deeply explore surrendering to a man's will and desire. And that happens really well if I have an emotional and intellectual rapport with you. So if your masculine instincts are aroused at the thought of exploring and pleasuring a willing and eager woman, who wants to explore and pleasure you as much as you do me, maybe we should talk.

That being said, I'm also not necessarily looking for one-night stands. I do feel the need to take the edge off of some pretty intense arousal (yep, women in their 40s do really sexually peak!), but I will also definitely enjoy getting to know you and hearing how your mind works. I really enjoy the company of men, how they think, and oh yes, how they feel....

Oh, uh, where was I? Yes, So, what's in my head, besides what I've disclosed? I'm a heavy reader (I commonly am reading 4-5 things at once), so here's some clues to me: Current reads- Scientific American, started some Kurt Vonnegut and random science fiction (I turn to mind candy during dreary Seattle winters), and eagerly anticipating exploring work by e.e. cummings, Hunter Thompson, Gary Snyder, Thomas Merton and some more Thich Nhat Hanh. Guess I'm into comparative religion reading- how's that for kink?

And yes, I am married, informally separated, and do have permission/full disclosure from my spouse to explore- you can even ask to speak to him if you wish to verify! Gentlemen, must be willing to host or mutually find a place if it's just you and me. My current lover is open to another woman joining our respective beds as well, so ladies, feel free to contact me! He is a very intelligent, considerate, and respectful man with a great sense of humor and is quite uninhibited in the bedroom. I recently enjoyed my first threesome with another couple and would like to try that scenario some more!

And, even though it may regretfully eliminate many of you sexy men and women from play, I have two main rules: No UW students and no men/women without permission or some kind of understanding from their spouses/significant others.

I am full-figured and thoroughly enjoy being active- I'm a passionate swimmer (long distance), and counterpoint that with long-distance walking, easy-moderate hiking, weight training/biking, snowshoeing. Think built like a German bar maid with post-partum tummy. Will provide more pics if you ask.

I'm STD free- I have current labs and am very comfortable being explicit about my sexual/partner history, upon request. You do the same please! Give pleasure, not cooties!

What I have discovered by placing this ad is kinda "be careful what you wish for." It's really flattering the number of men that have responded positively to a stacked woman of a certain age. I have found it to be a turn-off to meet men who are too nervous, unsure of themselves, uncomfortable with their sexuality, or are just looking to get revenge sex on cheating partners. I'm also not a whore, slut, fuck toy, or slave, and it's a real turn-off to be treated as such. But I am discovering that if you're comfortable in your own skin and clearly communicating your desires, I find that very appealing and arousing. I really have enjoyed so far meeting men who remind me de la Tour's self portrait, hanging in the Norton Simon museum in Pasadena, CA.

As far as kinks go, ask me- I am very comfortable talking about my sexuality, and want to know what pleases you too! Applebee's have their place- everybody needs a quick, decent "bite" now and then, but I really appreciate the care and attention of a 5-course meal, catch my drift?

If you wish to further enlighten yourself as to me, check out laughuproariously on Lovelab on Seattle's alternative newspaper The Stranger.