lostjasmine

So on my voyage of discovery I came across YrLordMstr. Unfortunately just before we met I had some bad medical news and needed to shut down for a while and deal with the issue. I will be closing this profile soon, but I wanted to pass on that YrLordMastr is a really great person. He is Firm, fair, and kind. If your likes/dislikes match up with his, I highly recommend getting in contact with him. Play safe and may you all find your own happiness.

Jasmine

On line quizzes.

I have been finding out about different kinds of Doms. I got curious (again) and wanted to know if there were different kinds of submissives. So,  I took some online quizzes. Here are the results that I got.

Your Result (http://quizilla.teennick.com/quizzes/result/2505630/3989180/)

True sub:
Submission gives you a purpose and makes your life more meaningful. While you may be capable of functioning on your own, your life feels more complete when you are serving somebody else. You will sacrifice not out of obligation, but out of love and genuine willingness to please. 

Your result for The are you more of a slave or submissive Test ...http://www.helloquizzy.com/tests/the-are-you-more-of-a-slave-or-submissive-test

Not sure what all of that is supposed to mean though, or how accurate they are.

The old saying is true that when you starting finding out stuff, you end up with more questions than you did before!

So here are my next questions that I am putting out there.

So what is a public circle of friends? 

I have joined , now what???

Is a real life, real relationship so hard to find?

It seems that my options so far are

• receive 'training'
• join a couple in their play
• engage in cyber sex
• talk about 'how wet I am' and 'what my fantasies are'
• talk about my nipple
• run away 

I am hoping that there is more to BDSM than this. There is a lot of talk of 'fakes' out there. But I am sure that many of these people consider themselves genuine. Has anyone been ousted as 'fake' but is genuine in what they seek and believe that they have represented themselves fairly?

One person (will acknowledge user name if permission is granted) has sent an article to me that rings true, and has struck a chord in me, but how do you find someone who genuinely believes this too?

"Dominance and submission (D/s) has always been a part of my life, both my greatest torment when not understood by either myself nor others with whom I shared my life. But, it became my greatest pride when I finally realized how beautiful and loving an exchange it can be. The only rule for a Dominant submissive relationship is that there are no rules. What each submissive wants is different and takes varying forms.

In my hundreds of conversations with submissive women, one thing stands out prominently and that is that very few men realize the importance that submission holds for her. It is far more than a physical experience. It is an emotional connection with you so meaningful that it contains her very soul.

Though Dominant submissive relationships are often very light and spontaneous and sometimes treated as a special sensual playtime, for her it is the most real in her life. It is not a game for her. To treat it as such is to trivialize her greatest expression of love. Being submissive is very erotic for her. It touches her sexuality in the most powerful way and when combined with the mental, emotional and physical aspects of a relationship, it can often be the most sexually intense and emotionally fulfilling experience a woman can ever have.

In fact, many women have confided in me that they were afraid of the intensity of their sexual energy. They fear that should they reveal the full extent of their sexual excitement at being a submissive, they will be misunderstood. Often, the smallest of looks or commands will leave them drenched with sexual excitement. As her Master, it should be your pleasure to extract each nuance of sexual pleasure from her. When she gives herself to you completely, she is also giving you the freedom to explore the depths of her sexuality and passion, to take her places she cannot go herself, to have experiences she probably cannot ask for, for she is depending on you her Master, to give her the push to get beyond any resistance you may encounter.

Getting past resistance is where your strength and understanding as a dominant is essential. If you back off instead of encouraging her onward, she will not be able to explore the depths of herself. She needs your unconditional love and support to feel safe, to go where she cannot go alone. As you sexually open her body to you, you are opening her heart and soul.

Though changing rapidly, most women have been raised to be ashamed of their sexual feelings. Being with a dominant who treasures a woman's natural sexuality enough to go forward where most would stop, is an extremely liberating experience for her. It also touches upon her desire to reveal herself as she truly is, as you help her by removing her falsely imposed conditioning. Even if she cannot ask, it is important to understand that the submissive wants to overcome her resistance as much as the dominant wants her to.

Author Unknown.

Still lost,

Jasmine

Wow, hasn't this been an overwhelming time! So many people have been very generous with their offers of helping me to find myself. 

I appreciate all of the friendly warnings and genuine concern, as well as lots of good advice.

I had no idea that my quest would get so much interest!

If anything I am feeling more lost! And like a babe in the woods. How do people navigate this world?

It seems like I need someone to protect me even more in this hidden world.

If I have not yet gotten back to you, I thank you for your patience and understanding. I am attempting to respond to all messages that are genuine, and not crude. 

Is it wrong to be shocked that some people are using impolite language during an introduction?

Oh and, 

Yes, it is my nipple.